First Day Here. Please Help!

Wow that's a lot to got through. Take it slow, get some help, and don't beat yourself up for needing to be comforted. I never want to condone masturbation, but you're in emergency land bud. Get some help before you stress yourself out more.

 

You're awesome dude!

 

Congratulations on your progress!

Your next step is to create your official journal. Go to the Reboot Logs and find your age group and begin a thread which is your journal. Copy/ paste a link here so that we can follow your journey and continue to encourage you.

 

If you keep it here, the moderators will eventually move it there. This section is only meant for introductions.

 

Hi @PeacefulWarrior , welcome to NoFap
It is a big step if you can understand what is triggering your urges, because this will allow you to be awake and kill those urges as soon as they appear.

I recommend you to create your own "Emergency Toolbox" with readings that can be handy to read when you start feeling urges to screw up.
I can share this post with you with my own Emergency Toolbox, it helped me a lot during the first few months, i had them in my cell and read them every time I started falling down:

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-first-320-days-of-reboot.62938/#post-473978

I wrote some tips in this post that perhaps will help you too:

http://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-that-helped-me-to-start-my-reboot.46617/#post-330318
You can watch some interesting videos which are also very helpful in this post:
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...t-help-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/page-2

I also suggest you to read "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins, it is a must-read if you are serious about getting rid of this addiction.
To get more focus and feel happier with life I recommend you to start doing meditation.. I have been using an App called Headspace for the last two months which is great if you have never meditated before. The first 10 sessions are free if you want to give a try. I used to feel a bit depressed or feeling without energy to start new projects in my life, and meditation has helped me a lot with this.

Last but not least, I would strongly recommend you to take the NoFap Academy course if you can afford it. The course is great but the best value are the weekly video calls with @alexander (the creator of NoFap and NoFap Academy) and Mark Queppet, where you can chat with them in real life and listen to other guys's stories and problems too.

I hope that all this helps you to fight this shitty addiction.
Let's keep on fighting

Fercho

 

Hello @Kingdd. You are very welcome here. May I also extend my condolences for your loss of Nick in October. Perhaps this was a big factor in your other brother's strong feelings of suicide. All this is so much more than most of us have had to face at your age. I hope you have found someone you trust to support you.

You say, "now I masturbate excessively and need help, please". This is understandable. Perhaps the majority of people in this online community find that negative emotions and stress are among the biggest triggers for us to masturbate. For a few moments that intense pleasure can make everything else go away. But, as you know, those things return all too soon.

Here are a couple of videos to inform and inspire you...

 

What was your visual or emotional trigger?

What could you have done differently which could have led to a different outcome?