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Whats up nofappers,

first of all, I am so thankful that this community exists. I think that the movement we are witnessing is only a begining. I am over a month without porn and 12 days since I last MO. The main reason why I started doing this is because I wasn't meeting enough women and I had approach anxiety. So instead of doing something concrete about it, I just went back to my old ways and PMO'ed. I felt weak around women, so I started thinking that I was getting what I deserved by not getting laid... Untill I found NOFAP. I read about all the benefits that other fapstronauts witnessed and the ones that caught my attention the most were how much more confidence with women they had and major emprovements in social skills. I have to admit I am starting to see the changes in my life! I have kissed 3 women in the last 3 days and I have 3 more dates planned out for this week. I now feel like I always felt I was supposed to feel, a strong, confident, playfull and charming man. I can't say that this little success story is all due to NOFAP, I put alot of will power into it but NOFAP is definitelly the starting point of me taking action towards my goal of getting better with the ladies. The girl I was out on a date with yesterday told me that she could feel I was a very hot blooded sexual guy just by my presence and I never brought the sex topic to the table. She said that alot of guys try to pretend that they are but she said that women can sence that. So I think one of the main reason why alot of you nofappers witness that suddent interest that women give to you is because of that. Fapping makes us subconscioustly internalize our sexuality and NoFap makes us externalize it without even trying.

I am doing things that I never thought I would have the balls to do before, like asking girls out right there on the spot, telling them that I find them attractive genuinelly. There is a really cute 25 year old ensurance girl that came to my house to try to sell me a contract. I couldn't help but to tell her how good her dress looked on her and we started talking about stuff that had nothing to do with inssurances. When she left she gave me her card and told me that I could call her if I nedded anything... which I did. I told her that I found her very attractive and that I wanted to invite her for some drinks, she accepted, we went out and made out passionately at the end of the date. I would have never done such a thing back when I was waisting my sexual energy in PMOing.

I am not taking any of this for granted and I am very appreciative of what is happening right now in my life. I think that the effects of porn on our masculinity is alot worst than what most of us think.

I wish to all of you to experience similar results. It is not an easy path but the rewards are infinite if you start taking action now.

 

Yeah I can relate to your story Godschild. It is better to go for what you want and get rejected than not to go.. out of fear of rejection. The feeling of not going and avoiding rejection is only good and comforting for a short period of time but really bad on the subconscient in the long run. Like Dale Carnegie once said:"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."

Women respect masculine goal driven energy. She might have said no, but she was flattered and I'm sure she admired your courage. What I would have said is something like: "I hope everything works out between you two but if it does not, let me know I find you really attractive and I would love to take you out!". That shows confidence even more and it shows her that no matter what her answer will be, you remain centered in your masculinity.

Keep on going for what you want brother I am proud of you, thanks for your reply!

 

Thanks for the support guys!

If I can inspire just one person by sharing my journey then that would be another great accomplishment coming out of this NOFAP experience. I think it is really important to feed your mind with positive accomplishments on a daily basis no matter what the magnitude is, self love is the key. Nofaphoffy, it really makes me happy that I have helped you to find more motivation within yourself, keep it up man! Nopenotdoinit!, I feel the same way bro, I don't feel like I have super powers but I feel like I am in my natural state. NewJackSwing1983, one step at the time go with your priorities..I do not have all of my shits together yet but my priority was to get out of this introverted shell with the ladies, prove to myself once and for all that I am worthy of abundance. My advice would be to talk to as many people as you can, I dont exclusivelly talk to the hot girls, I talk to everybody just to keep the social muscle active.

Best of luck to all of you Brothers. It's a beautiful day to be alive!!

 

@Zyzz Very interesting, keep me posted on that plz I want to know more! @GoRob32 women are emotionnal and intuitive beings, alot more than most of us men will ever understand. Masculinity is not something that can be faked and women respond to congruency. @Vince'25 Better doing it than not doing it no matter what her answer will be, you should feel proud about the fact that you took the step that you probably wouldn't have if you PMO'ed all the time. best of luck with that.

 

@MrShuggums: It was a slow process for me, I have been watching videos and reading books about social dynamics, about personnal growth and thank god we live in an era with so much information easily available. The hardest part was to modify my subconscient. Reading books is easy, but applying what you learn into your everyday life is a different thing. Nofap is part of the personnal growth process that has helped me alot to deprogram my old insecure train of though when it came to approaching women. I still feel axious as fuck but I try to ignore that as much as I can and just go whatever the outcomes will be.. same as when you want to fap but you train your subconscient not to because you are aware of the reward if you ignore the urge. but anxiety is always there and always will be.

@"INTREPID MINDS": You deserve what is happening to you brother!

 

@intrepid minds: I can't tell you what's normal or not, but I noticed the same thing after 3 or 4 days without pmo. It is a good sing that you get turned on by women's presence, it is a natural thing... you need to start reevaluating your situation when only pixeled women behind a computer screen turn you on.

@ghost: thanks man, I had a relapse yesterday but I have not been using porn for a few months now..I stopped counting. I think that fapping takes alot of the sexual and masculine energy out but never as bad as pmo'ing! I don't feel too pround but I dont feel the shame that I felt when I used porn to stimulate me. I was able to go out today, go to the gym, work, do the grocery and interact with people even if I didn't feel the same vitality as when I didn't fap for long period of time. I am not as sharp as when my testosterone is to the roof but not as miserable as when I waisted hours watching porn and fapped. I still think nofap really helped me with the ladies but I think that eliminating porn is a more important factor in my case...just my obsevation, nothing scientific in my post... reseting still suck tho but I will not give this fight up

@everyday resolve: very well said brother, thanks for the inspiration I needed that!