Daily updates on my 90 day No PMO

Hello and welcome to the forum. We were all on Day One at one point so be encouraged that this is not just a noble battle but a winnable one. You are absolutely in the right place. There are some great people here who are only too happy to encourage and support you on your journey into recovery from PMO. I look forward to reading your daily postings. Good luck my friend. You can and will do this. Stay strong because the road ahead will be tough but the gains will definitely outweigh the pains. Just 2 weeks ago I was a depressive shut-in with no life and now I am getting out every day meeting people and getting fit. The gains will come thick and fast and all you have to do is take one step at a time and choose to remain free from PMO. I wish you the very best.

 

You're very welcome. It will be difficult but it can be done. Yesterday for me was an entire day of the worst urges I have ever experienced yet here I am today and I didn't relapse. I would say to you that a good idea would be not to touch your junk at all other than to wash it and pee out of it. If you are going to wash it and I know this sounds agonizing but do so in cold water or in a cool shower and let the water run on it for a short while first because you won't want to spend a great deal of time in there. Touching it becomes the road to ruin.

Ensure you have replacement activities in place as well even if it means dropping to do sit ups, push ups or jogging on the spot as and when the urges arise. As my AP told me, drink plenty of water as well. In the very early days I got a beaker of cold water and several times a day as and when I had an urge I just put my junk in there. You need to short circuit the brain so that it knows after a while that you are not going to fap. In time you'll find yourself just doing something healthy without realising it.

Replacing the habit is key. It's a 3 step process of a Cue (the feeling/urge which triggers the behaviour), the Habit (the negative behaviour itself) and the Reward (the dopamine release, the 'feel good' factor). You keep the two things either side of the Habit but replace the problematic aspect itself with something healthy. So as an example you really want to fap. Of course you don't really want to fap you just want the chemical release (the Reward) so up until now you have masturbated. Next time you instead do push ups, sit ups, go for a walk/run, get out of the house and go grab a coffee in a public place, anything but fapping and the reward will be a genuine feel good factor. After a while the new healthy habit replaces the old unhealthy one and it becomes second nature. You will then look back and wonder how you ever thought fapping was a good healthy activity. By then your life will have opened up. You'll be meeting people and living the life you could only ever dream of when doing PMO.

Also click the Panic Button at the top of the screen when you feel the urges strike. There's some good stuff up there. It's helped me loads of times. Good luck and stay strong! You can and will do this.

 

Good luck guys. Must be the 2 week triggers @FappingHasRuinedMyLife Good luck getting through them and I hope we both cross the 21, 30, 60, 90 and forever markers as well.

 

Hello my friend,what is your longest streak?

 

This is the longest streak I've had since I was a pre-teen, and I'm 47 now. I'm married, but I currently have no sexual outlet because my wife chose alcohol over our relationship. So no PMO and no marital sex. It's been tough, but worth it. Not suffering the shame cycle after PMO is truly a great feeling. It is possible to put porn behind you and to live a life without it. I'm gonna make it to 90 (and beyond) if it kills me. Good luck guys, and stay strong.

 

I thought that is 4 days but i just rememberd that my longest streak is 1 week before i joined this website, but i been never committed in leaving that addiction till this week. About your streak i think 2 weeks without PMO is good, compared to the majority of us..but i think you should be pation and set up your goal on 20 or 30 days..then set it up to higher number without reseting your counter of course, and like that till you became free, wish u good luck.

 

You're very welcome. I was glad to be of help. Replacement activities are crucial as is not touching it except for to have a pee and washing it. Touching nearly always ends in a relapse and a reset of the clock.

You're definitely not alone. We all know what you're feeling. That's not to minimize what you're going through but just to say that we get it, we understand.

Thank you. Best of luck to you too. Stay strong and keep the quit!

 

Thank you. We'll see each other there. Stay strong and keep the quit!

 

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