Fighting the urges. How do you guys do it!?

I have had dreams too - it's a really low trick from the urge-monster!

Well done for being open.

I believe that so much of this, as with life, is with the right mindset.

It Is hard.

But don't tell yourself that - and don't believe that either.

Tell yourself and believe the opposite. No single thing is going to sway you from your reboot.

You are not going to succumb to these siren trigger thoughts ONE INCH - because they are pathetic and obvious and you are a legend.

People on here keep busy, mediate, cold showers, press-ups, hobbies, affirmations etc.

But it all starts with the 'new you' mindset - build on that new you - always.

 

Springs right dont fall for the tricks man, its just your brain throwing a temper tantrum cause you took its favorite toy away. The first 2-3 weeks are the toughest but the dreams stop around day 20 or so & the urges become a minor annoyance at best.

Most guys on high streaks don't relapse cause of strong urges its usually from testing their junk due to a lack of libido or life stress they let pile up. I like to go to bed early, urges are stronger at night since my willpowers drained from the day. Also daily exercise & meditation helps me release the days stress so I don't turn to porn for handling pressure. All in all this & just setting goals for myself has been making my streak pretty smooth so far.

Do you have daily goals in place? I find they really help take the mind of porn.

 

Can I just say your name/avatar made me lol. You are obviously smart and creative to an extent and the fact that you do manage to stop some of the relapses is huge in its own right.

 

I posted a topic on self improvement called "Relapse Prevention Help". Check it out if you are interested.

 

I have found that I have to identify triggers and arousal immediately, and then shut it down mentally and environmentally. I shut it down in my mind, and i might leave that room or do something else.

I also have logic and reasoning sessions with myself
1) every urge has passed. Every single one
2) every time I have given into an urge, I have felt guilty and ashamed and terrible afterwards
3) so I will not give in and I will do something else instead

 

This is useful stuff. The triggers pass, usually within seconds, sometimes minutes and less often hours or days, but they do pass. As we grow more accustom to dealing with discomfort we are better able to handle these urges/triggers. Stay strong friends!