Death Grip and DE

-Possible trigger warning-

I had this problem when I was hard on PMO and I wonder, mostly about death grip. People have already said you can be cured of DE. Back in the day I used to masturbate hard without any kind of lubricant, and by doing it so often I'd end up hurting my foreskin. I did this for over a decade and I wonder, will I ever go back to normal if I abstain until my reboot?

I want to hear from people who have had sex after a reboot who had this problem, and if there is an improvement. Sometimes I'm afraid I will never be able to orgasm properly during real sex.

 

Thank you so much, this sound a lot like my case. Ive been so worried about this and its probably the main reason I started nofap. I wanted to improve every aspect of my life, including sex.

 

No, I started of fapping normally, barely touched myself and orgasm really fast. In fact, having fast orgasms was a worry for me when I was young, I couldn't last more than 5 minutes. In time I needed to grip a little harder, and do it a little faster, and over time it was a hard grip and a really fast pace.

I can't even orgasm unless I think of something that stimulates me, it needed to trigger my orgasm, like, the right stuff, the perfect scene in porn, a memory that in that precise moment worked for me, or a fantasy.

I could never focus on what I had in front of me, and that's sad, all my past experiences with women were bad from my end cause I couldn't get excited from just looking at them.

Its a terrible thing, I've only had one relapse after 20 days, started over, but on day 20th, despite me lasting much less, like 8 minutes, I still needed the tight grip, so its true I need a lot of time, way more than 90 days of complete abstinence to go back to normal.

 

A reboot definitely helps with this. I've MO'd once in the last 100ish days. I noticed increased sensitivity within a fortnight and this has continued to improve since.

For a long time, for me, sex would start out very exciting and then I would lose sensitivity. Working to O was a huge amount of work - though I could make it 50-60% of the time. And of course this meant that sex wasn't as enjoyable as PMO, where endless novelty and my strong hand ensured an easy O.

Think about it like a drug addiction, you need a bigger and bigger 'hit' to get the same high. But that disippates - indeed many ODs are the result of relapsing addicts no longer able to handle large doses.

Similarly, when you're not MOing every day, you won't require the same force/grip. And as long as you don't go back to MOing, I don't see why this wouldn't be a permanent change (here's hoping!)

 

Yeah, at least my solution is to never PMO and only orgasm with sex, this way sex can always be exciting and it won't be compared to anything because I'm not engaging in any sexual activity other than actual, real sex with someone.

But of course, I decided to abstain from anything for more than 90 days. I know the average person reboots around this time frame, but I want to go beyond.

 

TRIGGER WARNING!!!

From my personal experience, this is what I've noticed so far.

My longest streak was 20 days, and here's how different it was when I was hard on PMO.

Better erections

My erect penis is harder, firmer, and it seems even bigger, I am not kidding you, even when it's not erect it just seems bigger than before. It gets hard from literally anything, even a when I see a random girl walking in the street theres a reaction, contrary to when I was hard on PMO, I didn't get an erection unless I was seeing something really hardcore and physically stimulated by touching it, now it needs absolutely no help to get erect and it stays erect, back on my hard PMO days it didn't stay hard unless I kept binging porn with many tabs opened.

Better orgasm

I had one relapse, and its like nothing I've experienced before, it felt like I was having 3 orgasms in one, and its like it took longer than I thought it could, not to mention the amount of semen. Before there was barely a reaction to my O and there was barely any semen. It did follow with regret since I want my reboot, but if in 20 days of no PMO hard mode did this, imagine what it would be like beyond 90 days, and with a real person, totally worth it.

Better self control

On my hard PMO days I had no control, I got the urge and I went for it quickly. When I started nofap the first 5 days were the worst, I had no history of being more than 2 days without PMO, so I had huge withdrawals, headaches, and even urges that lasted many minutes. What I did was to breathe hard, walk it off, kept busy, the first week is the hardest, but then it gets easier. Thing is, something changes in your brain, and if an urge comes your way you just kinda ignore it, it doesn't control you anymore. The only reason I had a relapse was because I got curious to see if I could orgasm faster now, and my condition was still present after 20 days, not as bad as it was before but I needed more healing, you NEED to go beyond 90 days or else it doesn't work.

Physical and Mental benefits

Aside from a larger penis my voice is deeper and I have tons of energy, self confidence, and cockiness. There's excitement every day, I don't feel drained or unmotivated. Semen retention helps, and staying away from porn gives you perspective, it makes the world look more interesting, and women are more beautiful.

I say the benefits outweigh the momentary release that is only reset back after a few hours, whereas no PMO can change your life forever.

 

You can do it, it's a matter of strong will and determination.