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Relapse after 12 days, confusion and anxiety

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Backno, May 23, 2017.

  1. May 23, 2017 #1
    Backno

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    Before fapping again after 12 days of PMO I knew that I would be so bad after doing it. But I didn't resist. I'm a loser.
    I recently broke with my girlfriend and I think that the main reason of this was my PIED. I used to fap 3-4 times a day. I couldn't get any form of erection or sexual arousement with her anymore. I'm not sure if it was becouse of anxiety or if it was PIED, or if it was becouse my love to her got the end. And now I think that if I don't get out of this addiction I can't have another girlfriend, and so the fact that I relapsed and that I have to wait too much time really makes me feel depressed, I feel so lonely and if I see a girl that I like I'm stuck and I stop thinking about her becouse I fear that I could not have another relationship now.
    But now I'm thinking: It's that possible that just one only fap in 12 days throws away all the progresses that I made?
     
    Backno, May 23, 2017
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  2. May 23, 2017 #2
    plant goodness

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    You're not a loser to be on here, trying to do better.

    You may have lost a battle my friend. But the war isn't over so long as you are still breathing.
     
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  3. May 23, 2017 #3
    DyingGeezer

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    you still gain some health after 12 days, pretty sure. you dont lose everything
     
    DyingGeezer, May 23, 2017
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  4. May 23, 2017 #4
    YngwieWanksteen

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    I don't think anyone on here can answer in quantitative terms how many days a fapping would set you back, but even if they could, it seems most people on here agree that you are not set back to the initial "brain damage" you had when you first started.

    I relapsed after 22 days or so previously and I did feel like I bounced back quicker.

    Try maybe to not think about it so badly either. It sucks for sure, but there's nothing to gain in dwelling on it. I know, easier said than done. We reinforce ourselves to think relapse is really bad, and of course we want to avoid it, we feel shame but if it does happen, try to think about tomorrow, not yesterday.
     
    YngwieWanksteen, May 23, 2017
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  5. May 24, 2017 #5
    Happy Man

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    If your learning after each mistake, its progress
     
    Happy Man, May 24, 2017
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  6. May 24, 2017 #6
    BlackTemplar

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    Do not give up brother. Now your mind can trick you in going back to your self-destructive habit. DO NOT DO THAT. Stand tall, you are a human being and you are not condemned to stay seated with you dick in your hand. 12 days is a huge progress and not reachable for everyone. You have the strength, I invite you to fight again.
     
    BlackTemplar, May 24, 2017
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  7. May 24, 2017 #7
    riz_

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    Every time you feel like relapsing, remember why you started this journey.
     
    riz_, May 24, 2017
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