about 40 days without porn. losing sex drive

It's your part of rebooting, you're probably on flatline ( fatigue, dead penis, no sexual urges). It will pass, be patient. Your brain experienced years of watching porn and is changed. It's healing, symptoms are the same like abstaining from drugs. Prepare for tough fight. Best of luck

 

Echoing @Veeav here.

And even if it isn't a flatline, per se, your mind will be clearer after 90 days, and you will be able to make better judgments then. Your mind and body are linked in many ways, and a time of healthy abstinence can do wonders for both.

 

You may not feel like it today, but you sound like you are healing well. In no-PMO, we begin with a time of strong urges, which fades into a time of no urges or desire. We call it "flatline." Our heart still beats, but it is like we have died sexually. Our temptation is to try reviving desire with a PMO binge, but that only resets us back to day zero. We have to resist and allow our body to heal. Our brain has to relearn how to function and feel good without the dopamine from PMO.
It lasts as long as it lasts. Each person is different. It helps to eat well, sleep well, exercise, stay social, develop hobbies, and work.
This is a necessary step to healing. Your body and mind is learning to compensate, and you will become a new person who does not need PMO.
Stick with it. Stay faithful. Enjoy the results.

 

Well said : )

 

You're having flatline issues! The first 40 days are always the hardest for everyone some people's it's more. It'll will get better after 50 days trust me. Out of nowhere you will feel more confident with yourself. Find reasons to love yourself again and enjoy your wife's company again. If you find yourself feeling distant, always REMEBEr why you fell in love with her ! Love will always conquer negativity! Your wife loves you and that's all you need to conquer this plus help from us and you're golden .
Everyday give yourself positive reinforcement and everyday tell yourself why you're life is better without PMO! Some days you will be tempted or have thoughts about it but that's PMO trying to win you over. Think of as a crazy ex girlfriend saying no I can change they only want to show you the "good" and once you're latched you'll be trapped ! You can overcome this my friend! I've been clean for over 100 something days I just recently wrote a success story few days ago and I describe my life feeling so much better before I was always flatlining and thinking I wasn't attracted to my girlfriend but I knew it was PMO trying win me back. Now on cue I can get hard asap ! It's the best feeling because it feels like the first time all the time without any bad fuel in my head no regrets no guilt nothing just me fully happy lmao !

You can do this too man I believe in you ! Good luck!
Stay strong !

 

I am sorry that this was your introduction to sex. It should be something enjoyable and shared, not abusively taken. It is amazing how our minds can protect us from what we cannot handle. Some survivors internally develop alternate persons complete with independent personalities. Other survivors develop forms of amnesia with some memories returning decades later. I know someone who continues to be surprised by occasional new memories after over 50 years. I have no idea when you will suddenly remember the actions from 26 years ago, but it will not happen until you are ready to deal with it.
Whether or not you remember the acts, you are now living your own life well, freeing yourself from PMO to be a better father and husband. You are impressive.

 

Wonderful summary!