Why do girls seem to isolate themselves with girls and guys with guys at chruch?

You could attempt to find out what they are interested in and start a group and invite everyone to join. You could also start a bible studies and invite people over as well. It is easier to get to know someone in those kinds of settings. Just a couple ideas. Hope they help.

 

What is your church like? I can't say the same is true for my church, although I'm not looking for a girlfriend atm.

 

Well church isn't a place most girls go to find boyfriends i don't think, so that might have something to do with it.

 

Do your church host social events?

If it does, it's the ideal place to chat with the girls - at socials they are much more likely to be social.

Also, if your intentions are to get a girlfriend at church, they might question whether you're even going to church for church.

Christlike women appreciate men who are firm in their faith and have congruence (aka let your yes be yes, and your no be no - Matt 5:37)

What do I mean with congruence?
If you're at church, do church.
If you're at a social, do social.

 

That's how it's always been. Traditionally men and women form their own groups and talk about different things. Up until recent times, men and women hardly interacted with one another unless they were married. A woman's father would find her a man he thinks is worthy of being her husband.

I don't know what churches are like today but I don't think a church is the right place to be approaching women. Maybe one of the other guys can introduce you to one of the girls, hopefully one you're interested in.

 

I have noticed this as well. You have to assert yourself, man. You absolutely have to. Women at church usually desire an assertive man, approach them. They might want husbands, but nine times out of ten, they certainly won't be the ones approaching, especially at a church.

 

Church is a great place to approach women! Just don't do it as a creep hoping to get laid or something. if you have honorable intentions, why not? God loves marriage. A few of my single friends often get introduced to ladies at church through other friends who know they're single. Also a lot of churches have singles groups too. You have to get social.

 

Better to approach women outside of church. You might get lucky.... I mean, find someone with the same values.

 

Just don't make that your opening line.

 

If I was a girl I would find that statement admirable

 

Great Answer !

 

Especially when he is approaching women at a church.

 

The comments here are pretty good so far. From my experience, two of the best ways to meet women at the church are:

1. Get plugged into a home group, young adults group, or any similar group (or combination thereof) in which you have a chance of meeting women your age in a small circle. You WILL get a chance to converse with her here, even if it doesn't happen right away.

2. Serve. On the greeting team, in the youth group, in kid's ministry, whatever. The same thing applies here as in #1. Meeting a single woman around your age who also happens to be serving in the same ministry...is a beautiful thing.

Now of course, God should still be the #1 reason for going to church, getting plugged in, and serving. If your #1 motivation is just to find somebody, chances are it won't go so well. But when done in proper alignment, it can be an ideal place to do exactly that. Two of the first things God ever said to humans was "it is not good for man to be alone," and "be fruitful and multiply." So God's opinion of marriage is pretty high.