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74 days on monk mode.. should i restart?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ps129, May 29, 2017.

  1. ps129

    ps129 Fapstronaut

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    first attempt - relapsed around 40 days, but that was with MO (no P)

    this was the second attempt , and i lasted 74 days... but this time it was sex.

    if the goal of nofap is to rewire our brain to healthy sexuality and to real women, then i still consider this a success, because the 'old me' wouldn't have pulled it off with this girl. the old me wouldnt have been able to keep his cool around her and likely have repulsed her with his neediness and lack of confidence.

    i dont know if ive gotten every benefit of nofap yet, or if there was more to get by reaching 90 days, but i do feel like a different person. more balanced, present, in control, engaged, motivated.

    now this girl wants to keep seeing me and is happy with a FWB relationship. she stunning, eager to please me and i really enjoy being with her.

    my dilemma - do i restart my counter and tell her i cant have sex (this is not a romantic relationship, she will not wait 90 days). or do i chalk this up as a win and enjoy the fruits of my labor?


    opinions?
     
  2. Loui-fap-A-rooni

    Loui-fap-A-rooni Fapstronaut

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    Nice work man...I would ask yourself honestly if the relationship is emotionally/physically/mentally serving you? Is it energizing? Is it draining?(literally and metaphorically LOL) I havent really been in a FWB type relationship that didnt become emotionally taxing after a while, but that is just my experience! Just keep in touch with how you feel man, and choose from there. peace!
     
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  3. Crimson

    Crimson Fapstronaut

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    Well depends what your goal of nofap was mine is so I can build up a stronger connection with future partners and helps up my game like if you suffered from pied or anything like that and got with a girl and worked then mission accomplished no need for a reset I think it just depends what your goal with nofap was
     
  4. ps129

    ps129 Fapstronaut

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    thanks for the advice guys.

    clearly i need to look past the obvious appeal of this opportunity and think with my head. i have no doubt that nofap took me to the next level on many fronts and i dont want to give up those gains for anything. at the same time, i want to enjoy the benefit of those gains as well.

    will see how it goes and decide along the way
     
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  5. donjonquixote

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    Honestly, if you are able not to have troubled sex interactions (e.g. like a sex addict, or other similar things) I would prefer doing a 'standard mode' reboot. Also, as a Monk mode, probably 74 days is not bad.

    I honestly can't think it's healthy that, if you DON'T have sex compulsion problems, while you were hooking up with this girl you were thinking in your head "Oh, no! I am relapsing" rather than appreciating the intimacy with her/him and the experience.
     

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