9th day relapse. Need some starting out advice.

"READ THE SUCCESS FORUM" You have to get through the bad to see the good! Relapse is bad but you have to get back up and dust yourself off. The human body can adapt so PMO is not needed, destroy everything that will make you relapse again block EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!! channel that sexual energy to something that is meaningful then 5secs of a million lives lost. Never look at females as a object but as a person. Most people on this site have relapsed plenty of times(doesn't mean its OK).

 

Don't allow yourself to edge, edging is accepting that you are going to fail. I think it's easy when you start edging to feel that it's too late and that you have no choice. This however is not the case, you just have to distract yourself. This place is a good distraction in those moments when you are about to do what you inevitably regret.

 

What kingp1n said, distract yourself. I'm doing a bunch of new stuff to keep my mind off of porn and so far it's worked. Growing a new beard, becoming a vegetarian (actually feels harder than no PMO sometimes). Just built a new PC with Arch Linux (that kept my mind tied up for a quite a while!) Stuff like that.

One thing that makes it better, girls will actually start talking to you more. I didn't actually believe that at first, but it's true. When they do, you'll start to see women differently, not just as sex objects.

I started the exact same way, I relapsed every 7 days or so. This is the longest I've been and I'm starting to feel energized more. So just stick with it, it gets better.

 

lightlyfried

i feel for you. 9 days is INCREDIBLE. look at what you've done, that's a real achievement. pat yourself on the back and get straight back on that horse and maybe next time you've got that feeling that things may be heading in that direction, come to this site and make a deal to spend 30 mins here - i find it really inspirational and i think you will too. know that people are going through what you are and want you to do well. they want you to kick this. if one of us wins, we all win.

i agree with Kingpin - edging is trouble. it's the starter to the main course and the words of atari 2600 are equally wise. distract yourself. make yourself too busy to fap.

good luck. keep it up. or down!

 

I've relapsed big time. Struggling to motivate myself to continue. Can't stop thinking about failures in other parts of my life. Alcohol,PMO and work is an escape from it all. Good luck to the poster.