30 days no PM

Duke of Gine · Jun 6, 2017

I just finished day 30 of no PM.
Just a few months ago, this seemed absolutely impossible to me. I have been addicted to PMO for 25 years.

A few observations:

1) every urge passes. They all do. It'll pass.

2) coming on nofap is a huge help. Journaling and reading success stories and other threads has been extremely helpful. In fact, I think this site has been the most important thing for my recovery

3) writing down the negative things that PMO has brought into my life and the negative things that I did because of it has been helpful. Writing down the positive things that quitting PM has brought has also been helpful.

4) edging and p-subs are the gateway to PMO. Stay away.
Many streaks are ended by fooling ourselves that a little psub won't hurt OR that we are strong enough to look at P-subs. Lies.

5) I am an addict and quitting PM takes work. But it's worth it.

6) sex with my wife is much, much better and more often than before. For those of you who do not have a SO, porn distorts sex and kills love. I think most of us with SO's know that.
Porn can also hurt our loved ones because it is a form of cheating to some of them (most of them?)

7) I'm happier, more patient, I can think more clearly, I'm more focused. I have 2 to 3 hours of extra time on my hands that I used to spend doing PMO that I now spend with my family or doing things around the house that my wife wants me to do. I feel like I know my kids again!
8) I am very proud of myself. But I'm not getting cocky. I have lost streaks in the past because I got overconfident and let my guard down

rs74 · Jun 7, 2017

Super! I am also addicted to PMO for 25 years, so you are very inspiring to me. Thanks.

InfinitePossibilities · Jun 9, 2017

Thank you! PMO'd for about 20 yrs, i'm also around day 30 experiencing quite same changes like you did.

perseverence24 · Jun 9, 2017

Congrats on making it to 1 month! Thats amazing. Thanks for your observations and insight im on day 5 and I think I can have a rough idea of some of the things expect. I have a S.O so I know exactly where you are coming from with what you said. Keep going and keep posting and motivating us all!

Spidermonky77 · Jun 10, 2017

Very inspiring, motivating stuff!! Thank you so much for sharing. Love all your points and totally agree with all of them. Keep it going!! Congrats !

KrmGrn · Jun 12, 2017

For me it's about that long as well. Congrats on your success. And thanks for the advice. Best to all of us.

g2stop · Jun 12, 2017

Nice work

David0895 · Jun 12, 2017

Duke of Gine said: ↑

I just finished day 30 of no PM.
Just a few months ago, this seemed absolutely impossible to me. I have been addicted to PMO for 25 years.

A few observations:

1) every urge passes. They all do. It'll pass.

2) coming on nofap is a huge help. Journaling and reading success stories and other threads has been extremely helpful. In fact, I think this site has been the most important thing for my recovery

3) writing down the negative things that PMO has brought into my life and the negative things that I did because of it has been helpful. Writing down the positive things that quitting PM has brought has also been helpful.

4) edging and p-subs are the gateway to PMO. Stay away.
Many streaks are ended by fooling ourselves that a little psub won't hurt OR that we are strong enough to look at P-subs. Lies.

5) I am an addict and quitting PM takes work. But it's worth it.

6) sex with my wife is much, much better and more often than before. For those of you who do not have a SO, porn distorts sex and kills love. I think most of us with SO's know that.
Porn can also hurt our loved ones because it is a form of cheating to some of them (most of them?)

7) I'm happier, more patient, I can think more clearly, I'm more focused. I have 2 to 3 hours of extra time on my hands that I used to spend doing PMO that I now spend with my family or doing things around the house that my wife wants me to do. I feel like I know my kids again!
8) I am very proud of myself. But I'm not getting cocky. I have lost streaks in the past because I got overconfident and let my guard down
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Many congratulations, I am currently trying to control my sexual impulses to be able to get my rebooting, currently with my girlfriend I have not had sex and that sometimes gives me a lot of need to have contact with some woman, I am trying to control that.

Very successful with all my heart.

BlueDoorian · Jun 12, 2017

Duke of Gine said: ↑

I just finished day 30 of no PM.
Just a few months ago, this seemed absolutely impossible to me. I have been addicted to PMO for 25 years.

A few observations:

1) every urge passes. They all do. It'll pass.

2) coming on nofap is a huge help. Journaling and reading success stories and other threads has been extremely helpful. In fact, I think this site has been the most important thing for my recovery

3) writing down the negative things that PMO has brought into my life and the negative things that I did because of it has been helpful. Writing down the positive things that quitting PM has brought has also been helpful.

4) edging and p-subs are the gateway to PMO. Stay away.
Many streaks are ended by fooling ourselves that a little psub won't hurt OR that we are strong enough to look at P-subs. Lies.

5) I am an addict and quitting PM takes work. But it's worth it.

6) sex with my wife is much, much better and more often than before. For those of you who do not have a SO, porn distorts sex and kills love. I think most of us with SO's know that.
Porn can also hurt our loved ones because it is a form of cheating to some of them (most of them?)

7) I'm happier, more patient, I can think more clearly, I'm more focused. I have 2 to 3 hours of extra time on my hands that I used to spend doing PMO that I now spend with my family or doing things around the house that my wife wants me to do. I feel like I know my kids again!
8) I am very proud of myself. But I'm not getting cocky. I have lost streaks in the past because I got overconfident and let my guard down
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Congrats man! Just wondering how you and your wife handled intimate times? Over those 30 days, did you take a complete break from all sexual activity? Currently going no PMO which includes no sex with my girlfriend. I have a goal set for 30 days. I have read that 90 days typically provides enough time for a good reboot. Currently, I struggle with the decision to extend no sex with my girlfriend to the 90 day mark versus allowing it. Just wonder your thoughts. Anyone else feel free to chime in.

Vicky T · Jun 13, 2017

I am close to 30 and every passing day makes me feel even better. I can see visible difference in my energy levels and I am also spending more time on other activities.

svenolaf · Jun 13, 2017

sounds great.

Duke of Gine · Jun 13, 2017

BlueDoorian said: ↑

Congrats man! Just wondering how you and your wife handled intimate times? Over those 30 days, did you take a complete break from all sexual activity? Currently going no PMO which includes no sex with my girlfriend. I have a goal set for 30 days. I have read that 90 days typically provides enough time for a good reboot. Currently, I struggle with the decision to extend no sex with my girlfriend to the 90 day mark versus allowing it. Just wonder your thoughts. Anyone else feel free to chime in.
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I believe that sex with my wife is healthy and good.
My goal is to quit PM for good. PM is not good. Sex with wife is good.

The_Warrior · Jun 14, 2017

Keep it going!

antycorpo · Jun 14, 2017

Congrats!

coming on nofap is a huge help. Journaling and reading success stories and other threads has been extremely helpful. In fact, I think this site has been the most important thing for my recovery
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Exactly! Even if I've read in a few places that coming here can become sort of addiction - that you find acceptance outside the real world. For me, reading at least 2 or 3 success stories a day brings a lot of energy and motivation.

InfinitePossibilities · Jun 14, 2017

antycorpo said: ↑

Even if I've read in a few places that coming here can become sort of addiction - that you find acceptance outside the real world.
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IMHO good things regarding this website:
- keep a reboot log
- read success stories
- knowing there are many brothers spread over the world practicing nofap

not good:
- just visiting this Website but no talking to friends, wife, SO, therapists,... about nofap
- to believe that visiting this Website alone would be all it takes for a change

IWillQuit · Jun 14, 2017

Congratulations Duke !!!! I enjoy reading your journal as they are very reflective and positive .

iamquiting · Jun 16, 2017

great

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