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No Job,no friends (don't matter), no girlfriend etc...

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Rui__, Jun 22, 2017.

  1. Rui__

    Rui__ Fapstronaut

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    I'm posting this here because I don't have other account's on the ''normal'' forums sites...I only created this account because of the ''Wet Dreams'' problem.
    I know that I could created an account on a ''decent'' forum site, the fact is that I don't like to stay a lot of time on pc...

    I'm 24 and like the tittle says I have no job etc... I finished highschool and after that I had some part-time jobs (2014). In 2015 I reached really low becoming a NEET and after that an 90% hikikomori.
    I never was an social active person, but I've always liked to run (was my way of dealing with depression) and also to play futsal and of course Plyastation.

    So in 2015 I stopped running and the other 10% of not being an hikikomori (playing a lot of games,youtube,anime,hentai,porn...etc...) was when I was going to play futsal (not focused at all)
    In December of that year my cat died, I spended all of my money on the vet, I get really mad when he died, I still blame myself of him dying.

    In 2016 I entered in Advanced Foreign Language course (English) ''the main language of my country is portuguese'' even though I didn't needed english lessons, but I took them. The lessons was on the other city 30mins by bus it was a 6 months duration.
    In the summer of that year I had a part-time for one month, since that I already went to a lot of jobs interviews and nothing.

    In beginning of 2017 I still sended a lot of CV's and went to a lot of jobs interviews and nothing, the problem is because a lot of jobs offers are already taken, for having job's those days,is nedded more then have skills and willing to work you need to know ''people'' a thing that I don't have.
    For example a new scholl opened close to my house I aplied there, I didn't even passed the first round and for my suprise the person bellow the school director is a guy that don't even have the highschool done, he doesn't know nothing about schools, he got the job by sucking dicks.

    In 2017 I started focusing in exercise (help me a lot to not be in front of the pc watching porn, and even apart of the Playstation) I workout pretty much 5 to 6 days per week (protein helps the fatigue).
    Appart for that I don't have an license and own car really beat's up those days, without a car pretty much you can't have a girlfriend or neither a job.
    An license here costs between 700€ to 900€ not only that, having depression and anxiety... I don't even intend to have one.

    The things here in the house are not being good, the cocksucker of my sister past most of the time with her boyfriend, and he acts like he owns the house, I had argue saying that he can't act like that and my mom and the cocksucker of my sister started arguing with me and since that (April) I've be speending a lot of days and nights like an homeless, during the day I normally go home because no one is there and leave there by 6pm that it's time my futsal training beggins.

    Since May I've been in and out of the house sometimes they let me stay by two weeks and sometimes nothing.Also by May I started having a lot of WET DREAMS and those f..kers caused me a lot of chest acne, my chest is pretty much mess up I would say my chest is 60% clear but the redness and zitts are really hard and huge.

    I'm being on NoFap by more then 70days but less then 80.

    My main problem is that I can't found job and it doesn't matter how hard I try, I'm pretty sure that by the end of summer I will be 100% homeless.

    I have depression since I can't even remember and when I was younger I tried to kill myself twice, day by day sometimes the thoughts of killing myself reached me...
    To stay away from porn was hard and still is, but the exercise helped me a lot, even on those days with all of the problems that I mention.

    I know this was a long text and I apologize for him, but I really needed to get this of my mind.
    Thanks
     
    Last edited: Jun 22, 2017
  2. John_Smith

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    Have you tried finding work in temp agencies?
     
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  3. Rui__

    Rui__ Fapstronaut

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    I've been there since 2014, the only thing they have done is the ''normally routine'' that I need to go the agencie one on 4 months. So two times per year
     
  4. sknnyjns

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    Rough times.. They suck! The only advice i can give you is to start somewhere. The Job, girlfriend etc. Just keep on trying! Don't take no for an answer. If you keep doing the same things than you Will get the same results. And try to cut as much negativity out of your life as you can. What do you have to lose? Just get the Ball rolling and more things will get better, just start somewhere. I know it's hard when life has beaten you down but it is the only way!
     
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  5. John_Smith

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    I'm not sure about the laws and stuff in your country, but here in North America there are different types of Temp Agencies. There are ones you can register so that give you a temp job for one day, and there are ones where you register and they call you in whenever a 1-2 week temp job is available. Try looking for these until you can find a real job.

    Worst case scenario you could pretend to convert to islam and then go to Germany/UK/France and they'll give you 5000 euro a month welfare just for being muslim.
     
  6. Rui__

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    I've been there since 2014, the only thing they have done is the ''normally routine'' that I need to go the agencie one on 4 months. So
    Here is completely different, it's only one job agency and that's it.
    They don't give priority to the people that never had at least an 6 month's on an job.
    People with highschool done and without 6 month's of work are "death" in their list.

    It's good to know that in North America is completely different
     
  7. Rui__

    Rui__ Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, I'm trying :) but it's being harder and harder because of things that I referred.
    People are selfish doesn't matter what they say, I'm gonna tell you something that happen in March, my brother said that in the resort that he works, had vacancies places on cleaning staff, I was a little pissed because of the all negatively I had received from the past job interviews.
    The next week he said the same thing, I give him my cv. I passed the next three weeks waiting for a call and...nothing. I ask him about the job and this was what he said:
    "Oh I gave your CV to my boss and he wanna to put you on the reception, but in the reception you would receive more money than me, so I said that you already had a job."

    I was :0 without words and he's reaction was like he made a good action.

    Never talked to him since that
     
  8. Genji

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    1. get an apprenticeship or bachelor degree in computer/IT
    2. learn languages and join a tandem program
    3. work out and diet properly
    4. forget about girlfriend until you got a real job, your own place, a nice car and friends
    5. get some therapy for your low self esteem or read the book "feeling good" by David burns
    6. read "intimate connections" by David burns, do what it says, get a girl

    Good luck.
     
  9. sknnyjns

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    Yeah that is pretty bad man..
     
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