I have a girlfriend who wants me to jerk off

Um this sounds like a really weird scenario, so honestly I don't have any advice for you. But why don't you just finger her next time while she gives you a handjob?

 

So it is like this: You and she, both lying naked on a bed, but separately, and masturbating ?

Well, I personally would not feel good about this. I sounds like a disconnected game.

Don't you boith to cuddle? Do you kiss each other? Do you touch each other in any way? (At least holding hands?)

 

Guys, remember to use the NSFW tags... This might cause someone to relapse.

Ummm... If I was in your situation, I would tell her that I wouldn't comfortable doing something like that.

~Squeaky Soul

 

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So i wouldn't be too concerned. If i would've been in that situation though I would've just said i'm not too fond on doing it.

Aaaand i'd reset the counter, you know you could avoid the situation. Leave the task to her next time

 

This is a natural sexual activity that a lot of people do. Also, I would recommend experimenting with [NSFW]her jerking you off while you get her off[/NSFW]. As to resetting your counter, that's up to you.

 

As it was an experience with your gf it is no problem and your mind was not on P but on her. Totally difrent.

 

In my own personal journey I wouldn't partake of this. All my deeds come from my woman or not at all mate. She knows that I don't fap anymore and is actually trying more often to engage with me sexually. Just explain to her it's not something you feel comfortable doing if that's how you feel.

 

Maybe have her pleasure you instead of having her watch you. In my eyes, I don't think it would count as a reset considering you're with another person and you are both pleasuring from the experience.

 

Well I find its ok. It's just your first time with this girl after all. So, in my book, that's fine. Just, don't only do that, then it gets weird.

 

Depends on your personal goals. Did you want to stop M specifically or did you just want porn out of your life? No one can tell you if you were right or because it's dependent on your goals.

 

Just a thought... if she's shy about sex she might be asking you to do this so that she can learn about what you like in a nonverbal sense. Meaning watching you taught her something about how & where you like to be touched. Some girls are just shy & it's as simple as that. They don't feel comfortable asking so they just watch & learn. She meant you no harm & she will feel more comfortable with more or going farther in no time. I feel like if you enjoy each other & you're engaging in sexual activities that make you both feel good & that you're both comfortable with then you're good to go!

As far as breaking the challenge... I'm sort of with December's post from above regarding personal goals.

 

Hey man congrats!

I feel like I am going to echo a lot of people. But your goals are your goals. I probably would have done the same thing honestly, [NSFW] though part of me thinks that I would have been able to at least give her oral. After that she would have likely wanted to return the favor. If I care about a girl, I love to give oral. And after you've got them to cum, they love to reciprocate. [/NSFW] I would not reset my counter, if it was my goal because I feel that is sex and not PMO. Even though M was there, it was sex in my book.

I've only done that once before. I forget why exactly [NSFW] I think she was getting one of those inter-uterine birth control devices either in or out. I called it the claw, or pussy tooth because it would bite me! So that's why it came out. But we decided to each masturbate right next to each other... It was OK for that scenario haha. But we never did it again. [/NSFW] Like someone else said, that was probably the perfect first move, and your sex life will progress quickly from here as you take a step further each time while still respecting each other's boundaries and emotions.

Cheers!

 

Andrewb123, What you've described is a perfectly natural step toward sex, for partners who are interested but also shy. If you were comfortable with it and she was comfortable with it, no harm. If you feel like it messes with your nofap goals, talk to her about those feelings and maybe don't repeat the act.

Personally, I would definitely categorize what you were doing together as a kind of sex, (not like solo masturbation) and pretty safe sex too, psychologically at least, since you weren't touching each other.

Though, btw, you have to be careful about what happens to fluids afterward. I know someone whose parents claim he was conceived unintentionally without anyone's "virginity" being lost, in a heavy petting scenario with no direct contact, much like what you've described. So um, wash hands and take precautions. Seriously.

 

Yes tough question. Do you want to stop ejaculating forever? If so, then you will have to let your girlfriend know this and also fill her in on the reasons for it. I have a friend I haven't seen in years. I don't even have the confidence to approach her unless I have 10+ days NoFap time under my belt, so there's a perfect reason to give up MO and the orgasm right off the bat, so to speak.

I fantasised about [NSFW]ejaculating on this girl's face[/NSFW]. Disgusting? Maybe, but some women actually like it. I don't know if it's more dangerous for one's g/f to dislike [NSFW]cumshots and handjobs[/NSFW] and to get angry with you for MOing, or to like them and provoke you to keep MOing etc. Probably the former, because if she wants you to keep up your NoFap program then she has your best interests in mind and is not just fixated on a few seconds of animal pleasure.

Considerate women like that are like rare jewels nowadays

 

Yeah, that's what I was thinking too.

 

Personally, I would reset my counter. But that's your choice so I can't make the call. Also depends if you're doing hard mode.

 

I guess it depends on what you want your limits to be.. I am not masturbating at all my wife also knows I'm doing nofap and iv'e told her i'm no masturbating but we do have sex. For me I would reset, but for other people try not to have sex so it's your goals completely.