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a healthy brother

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by healthy brother, Jun 27, 2017.

  1. healthy brother

    healthy brother Fapstronaut

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    I feel debased when I watch porn and don't want to watch it again. I have a life, but stil feel my life can be much healthier without porn. So, I am curious to find out how nofap is helping in that. It is good to see the internet can foster the healthy stuff in life too.
     
  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  3. healthy brother

    healthy brother Fapstronaut

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    Thank you, not watching porn any more, doing more healthy stuff like yoga and meditating. Started the counter and each time I feel an itch i now promise to first go to this site to check my intentions!
     
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  4. Sapharian

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    Welcome to NoFap brother. As Dj said, pornography is an enemy no doubt. Keep combating it. Soon this "itch" will grow and start to have more influence on you. This mere discomfort will grow to an attack on your mind by the part of your brain that porn hijacked. Go back here and be prepared. Don't worry, it is part of our recovery. And when you come here at these times- read and study. NoFap offers beautiful guides and articles about the subject. Immerse yourself in recovery and be more shrewd than porn is! Best wishes @healthy brother
     
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  5. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

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    healthy brother Fapstronaut

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    I am reading brain hacks, which is insightful. The difference between the automated brain and the calculated brain is a difference that strikes my experience, just as the limited budget to override the first with the second.

    I also understand better now how I got wired to porn, which I am watching when I feel pain or depression. It is a quick, automated way out of the pain. Since I have some chronic pain problem that manifest when I sit, I tend to use porn and other automated stimuli like candy and sweet stuff when i have to work a lot behind the computer and consequently feel a lot of pain.

    I don't want to stop working, because I like what I do and my values point to making a contribution to life. I do want to end pain. The solution was always more yoga and exercise, discipline! But I now see that overriding the chronic pain to do the work requires a lot of energy from my calculating brain and brings me to the point of ego depletion at the end of which I have no engery left to honour my calculated brain to do the exercises. Thus at the end of a day of hard work I easily default to the automatic brain (either porn or sweet or news binging or both).

    I have made efforts in the past to work less and balance work with exercise, but looking back I introduced this balance too fast. I will now stick to 30 days without porn and look to that as the main aim. All extra will be applauded by me but not demanded. Yesterday I indulged in several sweets promising myself that indulging in this would be met with abstaining from porn. That succeeded yesterday.

    This morning I woke up and my calculated brain told me to do 45 minutes of meditation and then 1,5 hours of yoga yes! But my automatic brain wanted coffee and newspaper and breakfast. Based on the insight of budgeted brain energy I decided to just meditate for half an hour or so in bed. Then i had my newspaper and breakfast. that is where I am now.

    I feel low on energy, but no porn to kick me up or comfort me. And no half fledged attempt to do yoga, there is not enough resolve and energy to do that. So I will just walk a block or so and then see. A pattern would be of use I imagine, but for now the resolution of no porn and just an invigorating stroll seems like a wise expenditure of my brain energy supplies.

    It feels good to use this conversation, just to log my experience.
     
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