So I just relapsed today...For the bazillion time.

Look into your past and find the trauma which caused the addiction to occuin the first place. Focus on healing the trauma, there is a pain inside you that you escape from with porn.

Go see a therapist if you have to.

Every single addiction is an escape from pai.

 

I'm sure you could find things to motivate you if you look well enough and review them often enough. For instance, relapsing makes quitting harder the next time around. And even if you're content with life, why not aim to make it better? You yourself acknowledged the fact that being porn free is something that would improve your life. Don't settle for contentment.

Being porn free could give you an advantage or edge among competition in your work environment. You could bring your GF in on it and have her support you, making your relationship stronger. If those don't appeal or work then perhaps making relapsing a more horrible experience may work for motivation instead. Of course I'm not going to advocate you go to more hardcore stuff or anything of that matter. No, instead get an accountability partner who you must confess to and who holds expectations for you.

Your GF could act as one, and to make it more mortifying you'd have to tell her when, what to, and what you felt was best about it. That or record yourself doing the act, unless that's erotic for you, in which case you should probably avoid it. If shame and embarrassment doesn't work there's always material loss. You could donate to NoFap for each time during your relapse. Or view it from a harsh top down angle. "You can't last a month without touching yourself to pictures of women? Pathetic."

Really, figuring yourself out and what works is a process by which you need to actively take a part in, in order for it to bring results. Looking where you falter, why, how to avoid or conquer it etc is a necessary step as long as you don't give up.

Edit: Thought I'd add since I just considered it. These are just means to stay motivated and not to relapse. There's more to the reboot process and it's more of a lifestyle change than anything so viewing it like that I think will help you better in the long run.

 

I think the benefit could be that you'll have exactly the same things in life, but you'll realize... Well, realize is the wrong word, because I don't know how to describe it as though it just dawns on you. You'll be more happy with exactly the same stuff in your life. It seems unimaginable, especially for our minds which can be very materialistic. After all it's like "I have the same amount of friends, same GF, same job, same pay, etc", math and physics would seem to indicate nothing has changed, why would you be happier? But you would!

I was thinking about an analogy the other day. You have two engines, one takes 10L to go 100KM while the other one takes 5L to go 100KM. Which is the better engine? You'd probably say the 5L. Now one person needs $10,000 to be happy while another needs $5,000 to be happy. Some people would say the $5K guy is an idiot, but quitting porn is like turning yourself from the $10K guy into the $5K guy. You think you have $7.5K right now, but give up that $2.5K of porn and you'll think you have $10K!

You can't buy this stuff!