Mind games f*ck me up..how to care less?

Yo Freedom,
This girl is obviously important to you and you are important to her. To be honest with you I hate social media chicks and prefer to have a girl who isn't addicted to updating her "friends" as to what she is doing 24/7. If she has a friend who is a strong influence in her life then she is going to have some persuasion of her friend rub off on her. That old saying, "You are most like the 5 people you spend the most time with!" Is true.

I am not sure if she is trying to make you jealous with her media feed. The important take away thing here is how often she is going out and partying with her friends. Nothing wrong with partying at clubs or bars, however if she is going 2-3 times per week then I would be cautious. Who is to say how many other guys are hitting on her friends and her during this time. She might not cheat on you but think about it like this.

Since you care about her so much do you go out to parties multiple times a week with your buds and post on social media about it? Imagine how much attention you would get from women and would you feel comfortable with it knowing you had a 2 month, amazing sex, and amazing conversation girl waiting for you? Just relax for now but if she consistently continues to do this then be wary and start investigating. Good luck and best of luck in your relationship bro.

-TheBigBadWolf

 

Just dont look at it

My current main is super big into social media and i just get triggered when i look at hers

Its my best advice because im in a similar situation she hits me up 3 times per week to come over and fuck etc she says she loves me etc etc

So best advice is to just ignore it and dont look at it cause you will get jealous

 

Draw all your attention to another girl, so your focus on the girl you're dating with will be lessened

 

Get a passion or hobby or something in wich you can enjoy you'self go out with friends

 

I really suck at texting too. Never figured it out. I don´t need to. And you don´t either.
I´ve set myself this rule, at least in the beginning of a relationship:
Only use your phone to set up a meeting. And stick to that rule.
Everything we text gets misinterpreted, because we can only convey 5% of what we acutally mean via text.

 

The solution is to build your life and relationships with other people to the point where if you lose this current girl it doesn't mean your whole world has crumbled. Don't make this girl your life, make her a bonus addition to an already great life.

I'm not saying that you won't be disappointed if you were to break up, but that you're not absolutely devastated if she were to break up with you.

 

I also have experience this issue in the past.

The main way to combat it is to actually ignore your messages, remove the temptation of checking your phone all the time, or actually be busy in a situation that you cannot check it.

Work, studies, friends, family....nature even....place yourself in situations where it's not proper to check your phone the whole time...

This current generation gets a dopamine hit from sending/recieving messages, which is an addiction and needs to be broken just like porn....as soon as you restrict yourself, you will learn better.

 

This is honestly a great way to handle it. You don't want to see all the partying and stuff she does and that's fine. You wish her the best to have fun and all and you leave it at that.

 

Have you tried talking to her about it? Communication is the key in all relationships. All these texting and mind games are so stupid

 

Yup I was gonna mention that as well. I would get on the same page with her.

 

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

 

Quit it with the justification of everything

Solve your own emotion and everything else will follow. Sure, that comes with maturity, but the sooner you start, the better.

Don't be a slave to apps

Control yourself dude

 

You're just scared of losing her, but it's normal, been there, done that. It's fine, but if you want to have control over your emotions, do this:

Meditate, meditate, meditate. Focus on yourself. Don't check her facebook, instagram, snapchat and etc. Try thinking about what you can improve in yourself, rather then thinking about her and what's she doing.

And if you won't stop thinking about her after all this, then find other girls to focus on. This will release pressure and anxiety will go away because you'll have option now. Good luck