"Magical" 9 days

Fantasies without porn do not count as a relapse, unless you are specifically fantasizing about using porn. This is according to Your Brain on Porn.

 

If could just be a cycle you are on..just keep pushing through it and break the cycle

 

if I dreamed myself watching porn, should I reset my counter to 1 according to authorities ?

 

I don't think so. When trying to stop using porn, It's important to be able to recognize what is and isn't porn. If you think everything is a relapse, even when it's not, then you will not make any progress. I think porn is using some artificial media like a computer, or book, or magazine, or telephone, as a means to get off. If you something happens involuntarily, like you dream about something, or you accidentally see a nude picture, that cannot be considered a relapse. Part of recovery is learning how to bump into those inadvertent situations and be able to resist falling back into your old compulsive behavior.

 

Thanks for your reassurance, the problem is my wet dream is always revolved around me watching porn other than having sex with women, even it's not a relapse, I'm afraid it's problematic to say the least.

 

I used to go 8 or nine days, but now I am down to about every three days. I hope you don't back slide. maybe aim to go 14 days? that should be do able. I did it the first time around, got to ninty days one time. never again, now I am working on it again.