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sexual thoughts during reboot

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by justme!, Jul 25, 2017.

  1. justme!

    justme! Fapstronaut

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    Hi Guys,

    just wondering, it goes without saying that i don't PMO and MO during my reboot (almost 3 weeks now!), but i'm constantly looking at women on the street, it gives me a warm feeling of lust and attraction + throughout the day, i briefly fantasize (only in my mind, without touching myself) on having sex with those women, those fantasies aren't porn related. I just crave in my mind to penetrate those women. I've been like that before the reboot too.

    i'm just wondering, do you think it's counter-productive to the reboot?, I just feel that it's perfectly natural to have these desires and urges, and it might even be a good sign that i'm actually attracted to real women and lust them so the P and M addiction didn't affect me that much. Also, i don't really think that i can\want to control that, it's harder than not to MO.

    What do you guys think?.
     
  2. ForABetterLife20

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    We can't really control our very first thoughts when we see someone.
    So while I agree, and I've been in this exact situation, there's something a little different going on.
    When I see a beautiful woman on the street, the first thing I notice is that she's a bombshell, and that's ok. Personally, I think the problem comes when you lust after them. Beauty is something that is immediately noticed and we don't really have control over, but objectification is something we can control.
    I think you're right that they are natural and normal reactions, but there exists an important distinction between attraction and objectification/lust.
     
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  3. Drew140

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    The urges are meant to test you. It's about controlling your impulses. Nobody said the reboot would be easy.
     
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  4. justme!

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    I'm sorry but i just can't tell the difference between noticing that a girl is a bombshell and the desire to have sex with her, those two things are kind of wired together in the brain, and i think that it's the same for men who weren't sex\porn addicts.
    Since, just by acknowledging that she is a bombshell, you actually thinking about her body in a sexual way, and the reason that you are tuned on by her body is because you desire it.

    Same goes for beautiful woman who isn't a bombshell, you still have the urge to have sex with her, you are 'programmed' to lust for her because she has good genes since it's in our nature to be sexually attracted to beautiful women.
     
    Last edited: Jul 25, 2017
  5. YngwieWanksteen

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    I get the same thing.

    I think it probably is somewhat counter-productive to reboot. But I feel, like someone else said in another post, "slow and steady wins the race". To those who can eliminate all sexual thoughts, my hat's off to you. I've stopped masturbating and looking at porn which I would do for several hours each day before. When I take the perfectionist route, I fail.
     
  6. ManO'War

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    I think it's counter productive to reboot to dwell on those thoughts. Admire the women but then get on with your business and what you need to accomplish today.
     
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  7. ForABetterLife20

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    If I was unclear before, this guy ^^ got it right I think.
     

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