what's the secret to going so long without PMO?

Hi,
I would orient you to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) which tried to answer your question.
Also, it is not a matter of personnal will but of method : watch this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TX-Nu5wTS8
I don't consider myself as successful yet (let's see in two months), I may relapse tomorrow, but if it happens I'll get feedback and start again

 

My point of view is that if you stick to a specific NoFap strategy and you relapse, then you shouldn't use the same strategy on your reset. You can't do the same things again and again and expect different results. Set panic behaviours when triggered, use tools to block etc.. If something dosen't work for you, than CHANGE it. For me NoFap means CHANGE. change the way you think, the way you eat, the way you see you see people around you. Dont just focus on many days you have abstained. Progress matters,not days.

 

Read this...

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?18004-Want-to-reboot-Read-this!-*GUIDE-TO-REBOOT*

It's a post I made on a guide to reboot.

Read it and comment on it. We need to keep this post alive to more people can see it.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I agree with io123io. Not doing the same thing and expecting different results is a good one.

For myself it's quitting for life, not for a short period. I'd become heavily involved in PMO and chatting to the point where I was using it as a emotional crutch and I could see it getting me into trouble in the road ahead if my impulses kept taking the reins. In other words, a progressive Sex Addiction.

I was scared out of my mind once I realized it. Nofap was a God-send in helping me find my way out. For me there was no preferable choice; either change and go clean, or become a very distasteful sort of person, leading a double life that ultimately ends in ruin.

So the choice was to quit for life with no other option and I've stuck to it no matter how horrible it's been. The nofap community has been above and beyond supportive and I wouldn't have been able to get this far without the other fapstronauts.

My main here would be if someone is serious about quitting, it has to be for life. I haven't seen any of the success testimonials where the fapstronaut says they're still PMO-ing occasionally. However, I have read about renewed love-lifes and marriages.

A couple of helpful reasoning tools which I figured out thanks go nofap and YBOP.

1) Sexual Release does not mean relaxation. The two are very different from each other. Hiking, walking, watching a sunset, take your pick) is relaxation. I think the distinction is important, because we believe culturally that Sexual Release is some ultimate form of relaxation. But it's not. This line of thinking, I believe, is the cause of so much relapse.

2) Exercise is important to one's emotional / physical / spiritual well-being and should be integrated.

 

There is no secret. I looked for a long time, there isn't. There is only one way to succeed. STOP. You need to look yourself in the mirror and SCREAM "I will never PMO again!" You have to sincerely believe it though. Even the smallest amount of doubt breaks your resolve. It's no longer an option. YOU ARE PHYSICALLY INCAPABLE OF RELAPSING. Your done, that's it. You've had your fun, now it's over.

 

Hey there! I thought about it this way....

Nothing changes until someone gets mad.

I got angry and I made a change. I haven't looked backed. I quit for the first time in 14 years and so far, so good.

Good luck!

 

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