I feel so ugly

A lot of girls don't care about looks, I've always thought I was an average looking guy (maybe even below average) but some girls would say I was good looking and it's mostly because of my personality.

You can always change a few things about your looks, like getting a new hairstyle and such. It's not about a girl settling for you, it's about the amount of love that she can send your way that'll make you feel like you're extremely handsome.

I think that the more we get into the other person the more we start loving their looks, so don't worry too much about that.

 

Your inside beauty is what matters, If you act nice and improve yourself and be a better person, your image to others will alter with it. Just be patient and be confident.

 

Take care of yourself. Work out regularly, eat healthy, develop your personality, take care of your mental health (and your porn addiction of course!). Girls will notice!
And trust me if you look decently shaped, and you tell me you weighed 200kg before, I am way more impressed, than when you are born with the perfect body.

 

Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself.

This is the worst time to live in because we are CONSTANTLY being told what to look like to be attractive. Yes, you could get surgeries and change you appearance, but please believe me when I say that if you don't accept yourself, YOU WILL NEVER BE ATTRACTIVE, no matter how many surgeries you have or money you drop.

Yes, girls are shallow, just like guys. But whether some girls care about looks or not, we ALL notice self-esteem. Low self-esteem is unattractive. We want a man to make us feel secure, and low self-esteem is weak.

That being said, there are obviously traits about you that make you appear strong. It might not be physical strength, but maybe you're funny, or really smart, or adventurous.... etc. If you don't know what your strengths are, then find out, because if you don't know, we don't know.

Don't resent your friends for being attractive. Ask them what they think about how you look, if you're feeling ballzy. Get their perspective because it may not be your looks that girls find unattractive.... just saying.

 

That's what pmo does to a person.We are happy you're taking the first step.

 

I know some ugly guys that girls love so much, and I have seen handsome guys not settling for the girl they love. It's more about feeling secure than looks I think.

 

As hard as it may be to believe, most women (at least the kind of women you would want to be in a loving relationship with) don't really care all that much about looks as much as they do about your attitude. Obviously being attractive helps, of course it does, but being confident in yourself and learning how to radiate that confidence is just as, if not more important.

 

No it's not hypocritical to want a beautiful girl when your not good looking yourself. But beauty is more to it than just looks. Don't you think nofap can help you see beauty in girls you wouldn't otherwise? See it as "lowering your standards" if you want, but does it really matter? I would be surprised if nofap has no impact on how you see yourself. I'm not good looking, or sometimes I am, depending on mood and nofap really gives me a better mood.


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I find the same is true for me. I've encounter plenty of conventionally attractive girls that I find completely unattractive. Their attitude and personality are unattractive and that outweighs any physical beauty.

 

Did you watch the Olympic Games? Everyone looked good.
You've just got to stay really healthy dude.
If you feel you have some ugly features, then try not to make things worse by eating the wrong food/smoking etc.
Just stay as fit as you can!

 

Hair implants? How old are you? 22?

 

I agree that might be unconfortable to read someone being the "problematic" guy, but this phrase right here could use some thinking.
I noticed that some people automatically made a association between "attraction" and "beauty". The thing is that there are infinitely many reasons why one person thinks another one it's attractive (like, literally, the way he/she talks or even how she hates her relatives). But "beauty" usually means physical attributes (some might disagree, but for the purpose of the idea that I'm bulding right now, I'll ask just to play along).
If you know that yourself, even not being exacly above avarage, has a lot to contribute as a human being, what makes it different from a woman who might not be exacly above avarage as well? I'm not saying you should date an allien, but if you think out of box, there's a lot of interesting women out there.
The concept of "beuty" might narrow our views of possibilitys. Some people are born fitting the actual pattern, some try get to it, some just doesn't give a fuck.

 

I've learned that women do look at looks but confidence will get you just as far and that's a huge part of the issue. I'm pretty attractive and in high school, my best friend was kind of ugly. I was a little bit insecure and while alot of girls liked me, my friend got way more girls than I did because he was outgoing and confident. I know alot of fat and or ugly guys who know they're and ugly accept it and do really well with women because they're confident. I also know handsome guys with six pack abs that cant even get laid.

 

Dude, how ugly are you really? Are you as ugly as the kid from the movie Mask starring Cher and Sam Elliot?

 

If you are super ugly, you're going to need to buy a Lamborghini.

 

I got an idea OP. Go for the plain jane girls.

 

My hairline receded at 21 because of genes, it sucks and is very depressing. It makes you look a lot older than what you are.

 

First, thing is that "You should not look at the outer appearance of other and yourself". It's fine you are ugly.
Though we are totally different at heart and look and everything so comparing will be a bad part on my side...But you should read that few things are true:
I am ugly too but i never hate myself for it. I feel fine.It's okay. I don't care if i get a ugly or a beautiful girl. If she love me that will be fine.
Say if you get a nice looking girl (according to your frame of reference as everyone define a girl beautiful in a different way) but who is totally dark from inside(heart), and condemn you for what you are. Will you be able to manage life with her?
See, i will not say that beautiful girls will not ignore you. Because they will. I am the proof. Girl had ignored me always. Even classmates girl stop talking after finding how i look..(She changed the school when was in 8th class and then we somehow got connected on fb after 7 years and then, we talked through fb in which i had profile pic of anime not mine, she asked me of how i look..and then when she saw my picture.she never talked after that. And similar cases have happened me many times..generally girls stop talking to me.) Also, i had around 200 friends on fb (i know them all as i am in college so it is common to know this much people) and there is only 4 girl in my account.(1 my undergrad classmate and 3 family sisters). See, they have ignored me too..But i am fine.

You should be fine too. You are a man.
I believe:
'I am what i am, if someone cannot love me for what i am then go away, i don't care. i love myself that's all.'
I know sometimes, loneliness kills and there is sometimes yearning for love and all. But, i that's what fortune i have. The only option is too live and face the life bravely life a wise man who never surrender to fortune when miseries arises.
(I will recommend you to read : On the shortness of life by snecea and Man search for meaning : By Frankl something. It will help you a little)
I girls will ignore.that's the truth and I believe in it.
Also many people saying things like 'It only heart that's matter and all..that's just the ideal thing..but we live in real world". I know i am good at heart but everyone think they are good. Isn't it...
I don't condemn girl who ignore because it's the best for both of you as you understand i read your post. "See no one can see how beautiful you are until they talk to you. And They will talk to you according to how you look." That's the rule of world we all are like that no matter what we say about that we don't judge. (Source : Predictably irrational and Think fast and slow books)
I don't feel jealous boys who get girls because they might be more good at heart than me. You should think from other perspective too.

Also,The thing i want to say is that 'You yourself judge people from outer appearance and you want other to judge you from their heart" isn't that just mean?

Sorry if my world are harsh for you. But you are an awesome man. You should not loose to the miseries of this world. Stand and fight it back like a wise man. Love yourself...

Btw..if you are too much conscious about ugliness then read a book name: "wonder" by rj palacio ..it tells the story of a bot who has problem with face..

 

I believe this is due to abstaining from orgasm for so long that your sex drive becomes really high and you end up attracted to most girls which yeah could be good cause that means you would enjoy sex with someone you usually wouldn't find attractive but what about once you've had enough sex for your sex drive to return to normal? wouldn't your normal standards come back and you would lose your attraction to her?