How to become a man?

May we know what do you mean by "How to become a man?" ? My curiosity is tingling

Are you being bullied by your friends because they don't see you as a man?? Etc..

 

Man bump.

 

Be as physically fit as your body allows you, be socially free(live alone,support yourself financially) , have a sense of style, and overall , act like a man. A man is as a man does. You need first to act like a man would act and then you become one. For me, some things make me feel like a man a lot more than others for example: Breaking my own records in weight lifting, sharing my knowledge with others and impressing them, being clean and looking good every time I go out, banging chicks, working and making money.

 

thats right

 

Do not become a man. That is just propaganda. All through history the ones in power have lied to the children of the poor - about what being a man is.

Being a man always means to sacrifice you life for the ones on power, without getting paid. This is chivalry and such bullshit. Sacrifice yourself for the good of strangers that spend their days thinking about how to manipulate you even more.

Only an imbecile would want to become a man. Try to become: strong, intelligent, educated, strong willed, achieve stuff - and so on. But do not rely on what society lies to you about what being a man is. That is just stupid.

 

"Courage, patience, discipline, as well as a hardened mind and body are part of being a man but love, care, and compassion are also vital attributes. Dont get bogged down in stereotypes and be true to yourself."

courage = sacrifice yourself for those in power
hardened mind = suffer a lot
discipline = follow orders without wasting time to question them
patience = working without pay

These are bad traits, yet they get lumped up with some good traits.

 

Check out "The way of Men" by Jack Donovan.

Strength
Honour
Mastery
Courage

Was life changing for me. There's a chapter called "The bonobo masturbation society". It's particularly pertinent to this community as we're effectively all trying not to be like that.

 

It's such a great post that it applies for a girl to becoming a woman, so I will apply it as well. Thanks a lot, your contributions are always wonderful

 

That is exactly what I thought. None of these posts describes what a man is but simply what a moral and strong person is, no matter if man or woman.

Do you guys really think those character traits are specifically for men? Because that is nonsense. So instead of trying to become a man, which you probably already are qua having a penis, try to live a moral life and do try to improve yourself and that is it.

 

It's clear from the last couple of posts that the virtues of a man are applicable to woman as well.

However the more useful question is what are the hallmarks or virtues of masculinity as opposed to femininity?

Each person, whether man or woman, is going to have a blend of the masculine and feminine. However each individual will vary on the balance between the two. A man can have a lot masculine qualities and less feminine qualities and vice versa. Similarly a woman can have a lot of masculine qualities and less feminine qualities and vice versa.

So the question becomes - How does one enhance their masculine self?

 

For me it is !

 

There is a documentary on this subject I would urge everyone who has ever asked themselves this question to watch.

It's called 'The Mask You live In.'

Every time I watch it I am reduced to tears because of the amount of freedom it gives me in answer to the question of what it means to be a man.

 

You know what I find annoying?

I always thought one thing made a man above all else.


Integrity.


Wasn't on anyone's list.


A man is only as good as his word.

Doesn't really matter what the word is.
It defines him.
Because it's how his actions speak behind it and in front of it.
And whether those words back up whatever is coming out.
Forward backwards, whatever.
Integrity.

 

Actually, integrity was on a couple of lists. E.g. on JesusGreen's, and I, too, mentioned morals. So I do not see your point.

 

Annoying was probably not the best language, in rereading.

But alot of people don't think integrity is moral.
And Jesusgreen had a great list.
You too
There were good lists, I wasn't saying there weren't... I was saying I was surprised nobody listed it at all.
I think this is a problem.
In today's societys nobody thinks of keeping their word first.
If people stood by their words, everything else could fall easier into place.