Streak ending at 210 days, couldn't be happier(hardmode)!!

Woke up the other day and decided to masturbate after 210 days of no PMO. It felt great, but i wasn't visualizing some sexual video or imaginary hookup. I was literally just enjoying the physical sensation. I came to the realization it's not masturbation itself that is bad, it's 1. porn 2. excessive masturbation.

Not masturbating at all is just depriving your body of sexual release. I plan on continuing to avoid watching porn and continue focusing on meeting people in real life! Currently texting a girl who's number I got from a bar outing. Another thing I realized this year during my streak, sex and hooking up, it's supposed to be fun! It's an activity you enjoy with someone else. Don't be so hard on yourself, girls aren't judging you based on your sexual performance. One question to always ask yourself, if you used to be like me and worry you wouldn't perform well sexually with a girl: What makes you assume you are bad in the first place? Why do you automatically assume you're going to be bad? That's one thing that has helped bring me back to reality and outside of my head! Also just have fun! Making-out, dating, meeting up for lunch, sex, sleep-overs. It's all supposed to be fun! Don't last long in bed? Smile, shrug your shoulders and laugh it off! Girls LOVE guys who are comfortable with themselves. Not caring so much and NOT taking yourself so seriously allows me to feel light, playful, have fun, and ironically feel confident. I hooked up with a girl i met at a bar, a couple months ago, she went down on me, I came pretty fast hahah. I was worried she would say something but she didn't even blink and eye, we just continued fool around.

Think about all of your buddies in relationships, i bet the one's in good relationships have goofy, friendly personalities. I am enough and I deserve to have sex with a girl who is into me. So do all of you, you're all enough. Best of luck to everyone and I will keep you all updated! Final year of college starts soon, should be legendary.

 

If you keep calling it an addiction, it's never going to go away hahaha. What is your plan? To never masturbate ever again?

 

Floats your boat* No form of self sexual pleasure is impossible lol, my friend has been dating his GF for a year and still masturbates. Even Dave Chappelle talks about masturbating while being married in his new stand up.

 

I apologize if you thought i was trolling. Really i mean it. Reading my post again i can see why it may have sounded like i was trolling. I genuinely mean everything i said. I was just sharing my experiences these past 6 months. I posted the ups, there were downs. Best of luck to you

 

Yeah i'm not the best story teller..hahah

Let me put it more into detail. Started NOFAP in December, tired of feeling like shit, this girl i was seeing went back to being just friends. Realized excessive masturbating made me all nervous and anxious around her and the lower sex drive killed our intimacy.

First couple weeks were hell with the headaches, they sucked and i actually was in and out of the flu like symptoms. But the energy you feel outside the headaches and flu symptoms is fantastic. Started/continued going to the gym for three times a week, better eye contact with not only women but also men. Being more assertive. Having a genuine smile. Met a girl a bar, got her number, went back to her place same night. Got another girls number at a concert, another girls number at a bar(texting her right now). Noticed my muscles getting bigger. I worked 40 hours a week this summer, plus one school class. Energy to easily do both. Seeing the good in people instead of being negative. Flirting with girls and having fun interactions. Eating healthier, made fruit protein smoothies everyday. Reduced FOMO(Fear of missing out, aka becoming more comfortable with myself). Successfully completed my internship, fantastic review from manager. Already looking at graduate school and full time jobs post senior year. Better handshake, better introductions with new girls i meet. More genuine conversations. Mediation regularly. All in my 210 days.

 

Yeah... I really hated my self after having a fun night bar hopping and getting head. Really bummer in the morning

 

I promise I am not trolling. I am not saying you should go back to masturbating, do whatever feels right for you! Just my experiences. I appreciate your positive feedback. Don't use my post as an excuse to masturbate because of my success. I'm still improving myself, like tony robbins says "CANI", constant and never ending improvement. Best of luck and I will update you on my success the semester!