Having a problem

One of the most important things to a woman who has invested any of her emotions into a man is to know she is satisfying to him. You need to ask yourself where your "thoughts" are when you are in the throws of intimacy.

Is your mind with her or is it racing thru a zillion pornagraphic images? Having sex with your eye's open or closed?

 

Eyes open

I have found that eyes open makes a huge difference. It makes you focus on the real, live , breathing woman in front of you. The one that actually loves and wants you! Not the pixelated fake ones. Smell her hair. Taste the skin of her neck. Really listen to the sounds that SHE makes. Getting more into the sensual parts, meaning use your senses, has really helped meet. Good luck!

 

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You need to be sure that its from too much porn use, and not from something else. Porn addiction is definitely not the only thing that causes it...in many many cases its anxiety. It sounds ridiculous, but somewhere in the back of your head you could be subconsciously (or in fact very consciously) be preventing having an O.

Always, always, always be honest with your partner about things like that. If she makes your problem her problem...give her ass the boot. If she really cares about you, she'll listen and have the patience to help you work through it. There are "couples" exercises out there to help overcome things like DE...and if its from porn addiction then it could be a simple matter of quitting and waiting a while.

I know one of those exercises is having her get you off how you get you off...and escalating from there. Try reading a bit about DE specific things elsewhere and see if you come up with some other things. You're definitely not stuck with it, in most cases its a mental thing to overcome.