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Possible Triggers: Vagina Preferences and implications

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by DeepBlue, Aug 5, 2017.

  1. DeepBlue

    DeepBlue Fapstronaut

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    I posted the below text in two separate comments amongst other information on another thread but thought I'd put them in their own post so they aren't lost...

    One issue that did occur to me today is I've become quite selective in the type of vagina I find most arousing. Actually when looking at amateur stuff/my partners where the vaginas aren't selected based on their genitals I probably look for a very specific type of vagina, maybe only 10% - actually the body is less important beyond not being obese. Although when I do find one I like I'd do anything with it. I'm not sure whether I've always been this picky but the last girl I was with I really found her bits grim to look at. Interestingly my last longer term partner had a semi nice vulva, but the opposite type to my preference. I still enjoyed looking and playing with it and going down on her but I didn't have the love for it that I have for some. I'm not sure what to make of this. I think if I found the right girl with the right vagina I'd never want to stop playing with it though. Not sure how much of this is an outcome of porn Vs just natural preference. Actually the last partner I had with the not so attractive vulva was generally not a good experience and I really find it repulsive to think about a vagina like that now. I think I would avoid going down on a really bad one like that as shallow as that may be. Interested to know if anyone else is like me in this regard?

    That last point about vulva appearance - not such an issue for short term partners but if I was looking for a long term relationship I'm not sure how that would affect things. Likelihood is that whatever the vagina is like of the person i enter into that relationship with, is how the vagina of the long term relationship will be - i.e. I can't vet 10 girls and pick the one with the nice vajayjay. Maybe I'll get lucky when I meet that person but chances are I won't - unless I'm biased and make the person right when I find the right vagina haha. Not sure what to make of that but that's why it occurred to me I should think on it more. Although probably 50% of the girls I've been with have had vaginas I haven't found grim and most I've enjoyed? Could be some sample biased there though. Maybe just not settling for one I literally find grim is an option though rather than looking for perfect. Or adjusting expectations - porn might play a role in that but some just are gross and I can't see that perspective changing.
     
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  2. MrJax29625

    MrJax29625 Fapstronaut

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    OMG! no you are not alone in feeling this way or even having such thoughts I'm very much the same not sure if it's P that brought this on as P does focus on penetration of a women during filming of P my mind goes wild about what I might do with a specific kind of vagina.
     
  3. Drew140

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    I just like shaved and firm.
     
  4. Drew140

    Drew140 Guest

    tight to very tight
     
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  5. We all have preferences and those can change naturally over time - however I know that P does impact our ideas and perceptions of attractiveness even in small areas such as the vagina. Early on I binged on female masturbation P and i noticed how my preference went from natural and thick to shaved and a prominent clitoris and big inner lips so I could see what she touching. As I have stopped P I am noticing i find the person more attractive rather than the physical but I still have preferences that persist; I like big thick outer labia, protruding inner lips, and a big prominent clitoris.
     
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  6. DeepBlue

    DeepBlue Fapstronaut

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    Good to know I'm not alone! Good point about porn focusing on the act of penetration. Actually I would only look for porn where the camera focuses on the female genitals - was never interested in the side view or really face view or POV. The only time this changed slightly was when I started seeing a long term partner and more normal sex became more interesting in porn. But having that sole interest in the penetration isn't really practical for real life sex since it's somewhat difficult to watch yourself penetrating in most positions and not very romantic. It did mean I love 69ers though.

    I'm not sure whether it's porn related either. I think before I watched porn I was just interested by any vagina because it was a vagina and I didn't know anything about them. I think porn probably influenced my interest in shaven vaginas but certainly very soon after I started watching porn i was more interested by a specific vagina type. I don't think it has changed much since then except being refined slightly.

    My personal preference has always been for the inner lips to not be showing past the outer lips. I love puffy outer lips too.

    Not sure what I would do if a long term partner had a really unappealing vagina though. Guess I would deal with that if and when it happened.
     
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  7. DeepBlue

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    Actually come to think about it the reason I first like shaven vaginas on porn was so I could actually see what they looked like. Which I suppose makes sense now still since I like a shaven vulva but don't mind so much about what's on top. Also I don't find pubic hair in the mouth too appealing - had a bad experience with that once, I don't go down on girls who aren't shaven or very trimmed anymore.
     
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  8. MrJax29625

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    Unless the girl is clean and I've known her awhile I'd not go down there with my mouth.
     
  9. My mom use to wander around the house naked growing up - it was the 70's so big and hairy. I guess that is why i liked that at first - it was all i saw but then changed when i got into P. So it does affect us
     
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  10. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Not into the shaved thing at all.
     
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  11. Different moods for different times, different periods of life. There are times i crave a big bush too
     
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  12. DeepBlue

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    Yep I'm a lot more selective in that regard now.
     
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  13. Yeah, 'bald as an eagle' vulvas look peculiar at best and gross at worst. They are also relate to an immature prepubescent female - what a massive turn off for me. Mature men and women have natural hair growth as a part of their normal sexual development. Shaving it or waxing it all off seems to me to make both sexes look like little girls and boys! YUCK! o_O
    So what are the vulvas you find grim or even gross DeepBlue?
     
  14. Hopefulgirl

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    As a SO I never knew that vaginas could be categorized by appearance. Interesting.
     
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  15. Hopefulgirl

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    How can you tell how tight it is by looking?!
     
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  16. Drew140

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    You can't you make an assumption. Sometimes right sometimes wrong.
     
  17. Drew140

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    I do like very little or no hair. Landing strip is good too.
     
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  18. Numbanddisturbed72

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    Bloody hell...had no idea men had specific vagina preferences. Now im conscious about mine lol. Dont even know what i have or dont have lol fml
     
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  19. Drew140

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    We like all kinds. We are generally happy to have any. We are not complex animals.
     
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  20. Spiff

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    I think this thread is a testament to the mind warped by pornography. Please... I'm not judging... I'm including myself in that statement.

    I'll admit I never categorized or preferred certain types of vaginas... But I had my own pickiness.

    My focus was more on faces ....combined with a certain body type...slim but not too slim. I was most particular about the face... I like a unique but pretty face. A girl that stands out from the multitudes by her freckles, hair or skin color, unique facial structure...

    Maybe that's why I was generally satisfied with non-nude stuff...I guess that might be unusual here. I wouldn't even look at a pic unless the girl's face was in it.

    I'm sure this is a testimony to my own unique psychology.
     

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