Feeling utterly hopeless

Does your wife have these feelings about you because of the porn or is it other factors too?

Your divorce will be good for you. Staying in a toxic relationship with a woman who can't stand the sight of you is probably more unhealthy for your mental health than PMO.

Have you seen the movie Crazy, Stupid, Love? Steve Carell's character is extremely alone, depressed and helpless after his wife cheats on him, until he meets a guy (Ryan Gosling) who motivates him to throw himself head first into life. He gets him a new wardrobe, a new attitude, and gets him to go and chat to women in classy bars in order to rebuild his shattered confidence. I know it's a movie, but I think the bare bones of it hold some truth.

There's so much life has to offer, and it would be stupid to throw it all away because of one failed relationship. There's no use in trying to hold onto a relationship that wants to be free of you. You'll be fighting a losing battle and will only end up hurting yourself even more. If only one of you is trying, it'll never work. It's sad but true, and it's time to move on.

If you do your best to end the marriage amicably, there's no reason why you can't continue to have a great relationship with your kids. You might even find you become even closer to them.

If I were you, I'd look at this as getting a new lease of life. You can reinvent yourself and be the version of yourself you always dreamed of.

Be excited! I am speaking from experience here, and the best thing that ever happened to me was the demise of the relationship with the girl I thought I'd be spending the rest of my life with. It won't be until you can take a step back and reflect on the relationship from an outside perspective that you'll be able to see it for what it really was.

This is your chance to become great. Keep up with NoFap, it'd be unwise to throw it all away now.

Instead on focusing on your negative feelings, try and look ahead and envision your new life. What do you see?

 

My friend,

There are many things to be happy about, I was as well in a "destructive" relationship, but still life has many things to offer, to be amazed for, remember that everyday you can learn something majestic, life is all about experience, all about seeing things with fresh eyes.

Funny thing I was looking at a video in you tuve regarding song "row your boat" (I'll leave it below), I was surprised because he mentions that we need to go "Gently down the stream", not forcefully, this life is to be enjoyed, is too short to be angry or sad or lonely!, you have people that care about you, your kids, your Friends, even though those who don't know you like us fellow Fapstronauts,

But keep on going! you can do it! there are lots of things to see, people to meet, stuff to do!

Never get down, if you need to speak with someone, you have one brother in me!

Cheers!

PS- View this video, funny, simple, yet real:

 

@ParvusSapentia Please do not give in to your urges. I did that yesterday, after 15 days of happiness and now I'm totally unhappy. You don't know it, but right now you are really lucky and happy. Masturbate and you will see what real unhappiness means. Also, by your good example, you help other people, just like me, whose will power is not so great.

Thank you.

 

Im not sure if I can help you as I am feeling the same way. It might help to know that you are not alone in feeling like shit though. Life aint just sunshine and rainbows, right. I am feeling hopeless all day, every day. It has been like this for 6 years more or less. I just cant get over my lost friendships. They died so young. I just wish I could join them. I am feeling deep sorrow because I am soon parting ways with my psychologist. It just reinforced the feelings of being forever alone. I feel incapable of loving anyone. What is holding me back is family. I feel like I am keeping myself alive to make them somewhat happy.

 

This thread really got home, pmo is hurting my marriage too, it's been a week since my wife spoke to me. I don't know what's going to happen, but I have to get myself help, I'm going to be calling an addicts meeting and trying to school at my older age.