Non-sexual massage: experiences? Nervous?

Hi Septimus

I pay for non-sexual massage when I get back or shoulder pain. I'm a woman who likes men, and the masseur is usually male.

I enjoy it a lot, but not in any sexual sense. Just the pressure, and the sensation, are very grounding. Maybe it is different as I am used to paying for personal services like waxing or facials.

You can always leave if you don't like it, but I don't think it's anything you need to worry about

 

Get the massage and stop thinking about getting a boner.

 

Some men on this site have the sexual knowledge and experience of a teenager at 40. My word grow up.

 

That's actually unkind. None of us know each other's story, or why someone might have certain reservations. I think you've overstepped with that comment.

 

Let me rephrase that comment. I see a lot of posts in these forums where men especially seem terrified by sexuality issues. It's part of the human experience.

 

@Septimus : it's kinda boring to me. And tbh, i didn't enjoy it. After the session i even felt more empty and tired, but that's just me, my friend going with me enjoyed it. I don't why i felt extremely empty after that, even depressed. I think that would be the last time i got a massage. It's just not for me.

 

if its not of importance or an absolute need wwhy try it right now , while rebooting, of all times in ur life to try it

 

ive only gotten a back massage by a boy only a few times but it wasnt very good lol and also a girl who was taking out stress knots. that hurt. but i like giving back massages. i wish i could receive a better onne, but if the masseuse was speaking to me the entire time i dont think i could relax as im already an anxious creature
i think if it was a male masseuse itd be arousing a little for me maybe. when it shouldnt be.

being caressed on the back or whatever beats massages in my view though lol its not always necessarily sexual

 

@Fink93

 

My mom and I took a Chinese massage down south. It wasn't bad it was only a little rough and stern but it felt necessary.

 

I've had several back massages and it felt perfect. the masseuse was a male and a professional at his job, and even though I'm a straight male, I could see how this could potentially turn you on. granted the masseuse knows what he's doing.
but mostly expect to get relaxed and maybe sleepy too.

 

I am also very ticklish, so just make sure you let them know before they begin and they will try their best not to tickle you! Also, sometimes the opposite happens where they may do it a bit to hard and you have to ask them to lighten up the pressure. Don't be afraid to talk to them, they're used to it, and I'm sure they've seen everything. It's not my thing, but I'm glad I tried it once, so I'd recommend it.

 

You'll be fine if you pay for a massage and end up not liking it. They're like $50 or less.

 

Yeah, I would agree that it is fine to talk about the ticklish thing, but I wouldn't mention the getting turned on thing. You can probably request whether you would like a male or female masseuse though, so maybe call ahead and make sure.

 

You probably haven't found the right massage therapist. Express your fears with them and how it feels (minus the sex) and a good one will try to help you. Massage is therapeutic and it depends on the right person. I finally found one in the country I live in that isn't a complete waste of time and uses acupressure and gentle technique. She has relived a lot of my chronic pain and ptsd/anxiety. My mom is a massage therapist as well for 20+ years and is an amazing practitioner. Try around. Look at reviews. Everyone has different techniques. The hippy dippy ones tend to be the best!