Trying to save my family

I feel ya--similar situation.

If you fear your family falling apart by telling that may not be the best couse--yet. So concentrate on killing this addiction. Stop with the porn immediately. Stop masturbating. Lock your phone and other devices down to make it harder to surf. Use this forum and its resources. If you have a therapist or a clergyman you can confide in for help that is useful too.

But it all starts with the decision to the hit. You have a big stake in it--not just yourself but your wife and kids. Start spending more time with them instead of with porn. Read up on rebooting and rewiring here and also at yourbrainonporn.com.

Be strong. You can.

 

At the risk of sounding condescending and without really knowing anything about your situation, I would say just try not to make it so dramatic. This isn't a life and death situation. You are here, you want to improve yourself, and that's a great start! You can do it, it is entirely within your capability. However, putting extra pressure on yourself by claiming your family is somehow at stake is not a good idea IMO. Just work on yourself for your own benefit and at your own pace!
Try not to be ashamed of yourself, trust me, that accomplishes nothing(see my posts). Clearly, porn addiction is very common. Overcoming it is something to be proud of IMO. Maybe one day you can tell your kids about the dangers of it from an honest place of experience, I certainly wish I had had that kind of influence on my life when I was younger. Also, I truly believe, everything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Good luck!

 

Hey man - thinking of the issue in terms or morality never worked for me, but once I accepted it was a health issue, and that the addiction had negative physical/mental and social aspects to it, it got easier to get mad and determined. That's how I made it to 145 days without j/o to porn. I've slipped up with M now and then, and I've peeked from time to time but I've never let the two go together because I am so sick of what it has taken from my life.

Getting good regular feedback and accountability is a great step.

 

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

This is the most inspiring thing I've seen, I read it and it made me think of the way I was thinking. You can't control life but you can fix yourself