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is easy find a worth girl?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by j_s, Jul 10, 2014.

  1. Jul 10, 2014 #1
    j_s

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    I always look around and there are plenty of skanks, cunts, easy girls :S Nothing of that interest me.
     
    j_s, Jul 10, 2014
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  2. Jul 10, 2014 #2
    ankurkool17

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    Keep on searching. You'll get a girl that'll spike your interest.
     
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  3. Jul 10, 2014 #3
    j_s

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    Searching was never good, I don't want to search It's not good for me at all the worst kind of skanks are found when I search, is there other way?
     
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  4. Jul 10, 2014 #4
    Squeaky Soul

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    What answer do you want then? The only way to find a girl, is to look for one. Good girls are more rare than bad girls... So you need to try harder looking for a nice girl.

    Nice people are attracted to nice places... Look in places, like at churches (I find the most innocent girls I know are the Catholic ones), nice neighborhoods, et cetera.

    I think you might be looking in the wrong places. Look else where.

    ~Squeaky Soul
     
    Squeaky Soul, Jul 10, 2014
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  5. Jul 10, 2014 #5
    kingp1n

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    I think you need to adjust your own perception, attitude towards women to be honest. This is coming from a man! lol.

    You have not portrayed yourself too fantastically in your original post.
     
    kingp1n, Jul 10, 2014
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  6. Jul 10, 2014 #6
    ankurkool17

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    Dude to be honest, Stop tryin' to find the "perfect girl". Perfect doesn't exist. Let them be perfect to you.

    You just chill and date a girl who ever you want. If you don't like any chick dump her, move on to the next.
     
    ankurkool17, Jul 10, 2014
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  7. Jul 17, 2014 #7
    j_s

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    @Squeaky Soul "Good girls are more rare than bad girls." you got me, :p, church I have never found a good one there :|

    @ankurkool17 I didn't get this one "You have not portrayed yourself too fantastically in your original post. "

    @ ankurkool17 "Let them be perfect to you." I can understand you your hole post in so many ways.

    I think I'll find someone who shares my interest so I have to do more what I like, you know go those place more often, like gym, or what do you think?
     
    j_s, Jul 17, 2014
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  8. Jul 17, 2014 #8
    singed

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    Engaging in slut-shaming is not indicative of a healthy attitude overall toward women or relationships. Learn to show respect and compassion for everyone even if they differ from you or you disagree with their choices. Maybe a more loving approach to the world will attract someone compatible with you.
     
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  9. Jul 17, 2014 #9
    Madrileño

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    Of course there is no perfect girl or guy or dog or cat or anything. But in human relationships "perfect" just means suitable for you. So what's suitable? Someone who shares your likes and dislikes, interests, values, hopes, aspirations, outlook etc. Someone who loves and (maybe even) admires you and whom you respect and want to please. So instead of looking for the perfect mate, there might be mileage in continuing to make yourself the sort of person that might be ideal for them too with clear values, high ideals and worthy of their respect. I'm sure that's the journey you're on to be here so good luck as you go for it. Then some girl who's looking for the perfect guy will find you!I'm thankful that such a girl and I found each other 35 years ago and still going strong.
     
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  10. Jul 30, 2014 #10
    j_s

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    @singed this "Maybe a more loving approach to the world will attract someone compatible with you. " sounds really like buddhism, it sounds really deep, or at least I found it that way.

    @Madrileño yes man, I'm on that way to make myself better, I mean I want to achieve some goals, I think on the process I can find people, you know what I mean, usually you find people on your path, but it's not a easy process (at least it hasn't been easy for me).

    Now let me ask to everyone here, what do you look on a girl? what does make you be on a relationship with her?
     
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  11. Jul 30, 2014 #11
    Hotshot

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    Search for the 80% girl mate. Pick a list of deal breakers and a list of required attributes. Just make sure it's not unreasonable, maybe have a best friend evaluate your expectations of the list. Just make sure she meets 80% of your "dream girl" because there is no perfect girl out there.
     
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  12. Aug 2, 2014 #12
    j_s

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    @Hotshot, yes I clearly undertatand, that there is no anything like that, reality is very different from expectations, would you mind to put and example of each?
     
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  13. Aug 2, 2014 #13
    The 1000 Water Fists

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    not all women out there all sluts,skanks etc.Im sure when your not looking for a girl someone will come into your life and will show you what real love is all about.I m sure your gonna find a "worth girl" when time comes.
     
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  14. Aug 3, 2014 #14
    j_s

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    @The 1000 Water Fists, I know not all of them are that way, there are plenty which is different. People tell me that a lot, even I believe it, in fact it's like "sit down and wait for the bus", but could you tell me on your experience, does it work? does it has good results?, thanks for share!
     
    j_s, Aug 3, 2014
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  15. Aug 4, 2014 #15
    j_s

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    @Abel, hello good sir, what a words man, a completly different perception of everything I've been told. What do you mean with this "it's up to you to keep the boat afloat first."? I don't follow you. and
    Would you mind you share what a good girl is for you?, and where can you find them?
     
    j_s, Aug 4, 2014
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  16. Aug 8, 2014 #16
    j_s

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    @Abel, Thanks for reply, I've been working on myself for the last 3 years, the 1st two I had touched bottom line :( it was really difficult time for myself, currently I'm climbing out of the pit.
    It was worth but I still have a really long way to go out, but 1 day at time. :)

    Sorry if I'm a little slow but I don't follow this one "Start going to places where people appeal more to you, and avoid other places.", it like go to places where people look for me to talk instance the other way?, does it happen?
     
    j_s, Aug 8, 2014
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  17. Aug 8, 2014 #17
    Stand

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    Here is my story. I was a bit of a player and after many, many girlfriends I decided that I would not have a girlfriend for 6 months. And to make sure I did this, I told my mate he could punch me if I did. Now just like no rap, this wasn't easy but it was the greatest decision of my life.

    I lasted the 6 months and then some more as I was no longer searching. I then found this awesome girl who I have been with for 4 years and I know she is the one.

    Simple story short, don't search... Let your self find the person instead of forcing someone upon yourself.
     
    Stand, Aug 8, 2014
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