Escort and pmo addiction

Hey man, thanks for sharing your story.

I've seen escorts many times in the past too, when traveling for work. Sometimes I would get the urge to see another one, but if I thought I shouldn't I would have a wank and the urge would disappear (for a while). Obviously, if you're trying not to fap (like I am now), that's not a great strategy...

But my point is that I think I can treat my escort urge similarly to my masturbation urge. Drop down, do 15 push-ups, close the tabs with the escort sites, and go to another room, go outside, call your grandmother. Or whatever you do to reduce the masturbation urge. I think it can work for the escort urge too.

 

It's not easy to change your mind. It's like learning to write with your weaker hand. It's tiring and the mind, like any other muscle, will get exhausted.

I don't know of any solution as I relapse a lot off late.

 

It's not easy, I've developed my porn addiction into a escort addiction. Losing my mind at the moment because I'm nofap but I can't get out of my head to visit an escort. It's an addiction and substituting one bad addiction (porn) for another (escort) or vice versa I know is not going to help the situation.
Be strong man. Go out for a walk. Go watch a movie. Go have just a couple drinks with some mates. I'm about to force myself out with some mates. I don't really want to go but I know once I'm there I'll feel much more in control.

 

Doesn't it help knowing that the escort you visit only want you to be there for the money. You have to negotiate what you want to do with them and usually only money is what motivates them to let you do more stuff. They don't really get excited being in bed with you and you can see that they don't enjoy it (because you have 0 emotional bonding and you're probably number 20 or 30 of that day and her vagina must be extremely sore and painful for her). If I only think about that and knowing that I don't excite a girl when I take my clothes off and hug her before having sex with her, I just go soft and feel depressed immediately.

When I relapse I also started to scroll through escort websites, but since I've thought it through about what it really is... for me all the urges drop mentally (physically still there though). And of course there'll be escorts who are a nympho and / or perhaps will click with you and enjoy sex with you. But chances are very small that happens and still it'll be business for them. And then I have not even mentioned the money and health risks....

 

Think about your poor fucking girlfriend.. that should be enough.

 

Now is a great time to take a step back and wonder what makes you go to escorts or rather do anything else than being at peace with yourself and the life you're building. I mean no religious thinking. Just ponder for a moment, everytime you're about to succomb to the act (PMO, escort, anything) just allow for 10 minutes without going for it. Make a pact with yourself that you WILL go get the escort/PMO right after those 10mins, but before that you MUST dive into the questions the escort/PMO is there to cover/distract you from. First few times won't bring anything, it's almost for sure. But little by little, you'll change your point of view, and gather new insight and strength. I understand it's sometimes extremely hard to resist an urge like that. By trying to recall the shitty way you feel "after" right before you're about to do it is a great motivational builder and keeps building with time.

I've been fighting this crap for about two years as well man, and I don't have a girlfriend or anyone to watch over my shoulder or what I do with my money. It could go very wrong very fast, and so I developped what I wrote up there, it helped me a great deal to stop the advance of the PMO troops. After that there has been more tools that helped defeat it greatly, but that's another story.

WHY you can't resist the urge is one thing, and the answer is too hard for your mind to contemplate, so it hides it.
WHAT you do about it is probably what you should be focusing on.
Later on it will come together, when you're strong and proud and full of willpower and energy.

All the best

 

Maybe alcohol is a trigger? Just a thought.

 

I had a problem with both. Stay away from alcohol it weakens your willpower, wanking is a hell of a lot cheaper but the good thing about escorts is at least you're being with a real person instead of in front of a screen, but the truth is, it's better to stay away from both, keep yourself busy and think about the bad things about being with an escort, the men they've been with before, STDs, the money, the empty feeling after etc

 

Man I feel for you.

I used to browse the escort sites, a lot, it was # fantasy. Not wanting to hurt my now wife is what stopped me (and lack of funds haha)

 

It was the same with me. I used to go out and get drunk and then end up with an escort everytime, but I justified it like at least I'm not wanking and in truth it was better, it helped me get used to a real person instead of porn but what stopped me in the end was the empty feeling I felt after and that shit feeling in the morning of a hangover, the empty feeling of being with an escort and then the worse thing looking at an empty wallet. loool

 

How much does it cost you.

Over here even stinking trannys want $350 a session.

Not that I was looking for that but I was curious about the prices.

 

I am in east coast USA. Your country has prostitution but it works differently here, "escort" bs.

I guess that's why it costs so much more.

You also run the risk of being arrested in a sting. They got fake escorts waiting to sucker people.

How funny would it be. Someone books a transgendered person thinking it's a fucking transgendered person it has to be legit then gets hauled off in cuffs.

Hahahahaha

 

Just curious about the prices? Whatever you say fella lol

When the guys are saying escorts they mean pros, just saying it in a nicer way.