Comments on Profile Post by hollinger

Did you know that excessive ppl pleasing is considered to be an addiction too? The urge to be nice in order to get liked, approved of and validated. Typical codependent symptoms. I know from own experience.

Yeah, what helps in my case usually is football, you just fucking want to win there, but today I started apologizing there too, felt really wrong afterwards. Football's such a good assertiveness training though, you need to stand for what you believe in how's the right play. Managed to almost do that today, won 2-0 and I scored one.

Fucking fuck, even here I'm trying to prove something, anyways if you play for fun and carelessly, game is easier and works out better. First half was alright, but later I tried to play too much how others would want me too.

You need to forget the mindset that you need to be civilized and nice in all situations to be a good person. Football as such is a good sport for just letting your anger out sometimes and it's totally fine to just play as crazily as you want.

Your goal is to put the ball into goal. It's morally even wrong to be passive and hold back, after all it's form of expression, you play like you feel, I prefer to play as well as I can.

Usually if I want to befriend people, I turn into pleaser, because I feel my normal self is too bad for them. Or it's just a fear of conflict for acting certain way that's viewed weird, I want to actually talk these problems to real people and have someone reply me, I'd be grateful then.

Don't repeat yourself in your thoughts and feelings you say to people. It's always good to have different viewpoints and use different words, NoFap is going good.

The day I wrote this I also relapsed on porn, but the truth is I have not cummed for 18 days now and I think it shows. Relapses come only on breakdowns or moments of complete hopelessness, I know that reward for this non-existant behaviour and effort is too big and such stuff only would enhance your impulsivity.

Stop saying things that make you weak idea has really worked on me, so I mostly avoid such theoretical deep talk, because in my vision cool guy like me makes jokes and gives more to people than wants in return.

Impulsivity is a main issue in people with BPD, but it's better than overthinking, so I often choose that, stream of consciousness never ends.

The fact I'm writing here even shows some weakness, I'm afraid or incapable of addressing these thoughts to real people. Impulsivity is a huge sign of weakness, it's a trait of those men who prematurely ejaculate and need to react to everything that happens to them and share their every thought in 30 seconds

Once again sometimes less is more, if you understand persons silence, you might understand his words. Another thing is that most people are incredibly stupid and far from the level of self-awareness and understanding like this group here, so they don't realize they go angry because of their own insecurities. Such people is okay to dominate and take money from, if they're not willing to learn.

Not like dominate in a bad way, but not let their energy ruin yours and actually winning someone, humiliating in that sense feels good. 5-second rule.

"If you don't try you might as well be a bad person" Jordan Peterson. Yeah I think I would be super-comfortable and trying to rely on others rather than taking on my decisions....but I still try.