Comments on Profile Post by Tari Legong

Pull through, Tari. You can do this

Gratitude helps me in those times.

@Ian Of Freelandia, thank you, i already meditated for 30 minutes but the urges still hitting hard, damn

I'm being real, it's getting tough i am fighting against it

This is the same moment that each one of us must stay strong, i always say that the bad days are the ones which we can make the real difference, that's my trial

Smile and just let it ride out.

That might sound odd. But it helps to send a message to your brain.
For me, I've noticed it helps put me back in charge, rather than the urges or the difficulty I'm facing.
It doesn't necessarily get rid of the urges, it just gives a sense of control and confidence over them.

Give it a try and see if it helps. Feel free to let me know.

But only saying isn't enough , i need to make that shit happen, win the bad days and become what i use to say

At first i must confess, when i look to the mirror i couldn't smile, actually i felt a bit of anger looking to myself, but then i smile and now i'm laughing ahahah wtf.And yeah, it was kinda odd, cause i never tried doing this, but i appreciate it anyway, Thank you!

That's great to hear, Tari!
I didn't even suggest looking in the mirror while you do it. That's smart of you.

If I may share one thing I've learned on that note;
self love is a very important part of becoming a better person.

All that anger and guilt we feel doesn't go very far.
Love sustains us. We have to give it to ourselves.

And that is an ongoing practice. I'm partially reminding myself here.

And porn is just the opposite of all this, right after someone relapse comes that old bad feelling that makes you feel like shit. like i read somewhere here, porn kills love

Yeah i think i had to have a bit of courage to look at myself in the mirror when the urges hit me hahaha, that shows how dirty this shit is

Thank you for the line you talk about love, i need to think about this too. That's okay if you also do it for yourself, when we help someone we also help ourselves

Yes, let's have great love. So that we can face ourselves even when the urge hits. Even if we relapse.

That's courage

That is the real strengh