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I have been focussing on my self..But that is not enough..I have contacted her since then,Except for 1 time about a year ago(she has a nw bf..Thought I don't disturb them)..

Any practical ideas that would work??
Thanks in advance..

Haven't contacted*

Hellpp..this was my first love..

And I am sure that I don't want her in my life..She has caused so much mental trauma..

And this new bf is the guy who have been disturbing her for 1 year and it was me who stopped him then once we were in love..

Look at it from your exs and her boyfriends pointofview. Right now, just enjoy the distance because that is what your body really likes.

That doesn't mean just let yourself go crazy. Let your body go through the motions. Watch the attraction flower but don't pick it up.

Once you pick it up you will suddenly feel a deep turmoil inside, you know that you just caused harm and it will impact you deeply.

Once you try to control the love, its over for you, physically and "spiritually" (that is having to do with energy)

Dear @eagle rising thank you..But can you simplify..I can't understand fully what u said..

Thinking for his side..He is enjoying his life with her..He doesn't mind me or kind of see me as a threat..

She is a person who doesn't have strong decisions in life..Sometimes she do things in front of me like she want me back..

I love this distance..But the thing is we all are classmates..Can't go away from them for the next 2 years or so..

I didn't understand the flower part u said and about controlling love..Can u explain plz?!

Sir what do you meant by Letting my body go through the emotions?
U mean It's ok to think about her all the time..I can't study or do anything..I am kind of thinking about her 24*7..

Most of the time hate comes to my mind.. Knowing that it is bad I control it..

Sometimes I say to myself to forgive them and me..

I think I have forgiven..But these *thoughts of impressing her* somehow come every now and then..
This is my first love and I think I loved her the best way I can..

By distance I mean there is no contact. How far away doesn't matter.

When you decide to try and interrupt their relationship what's going to happen? This is "closing the distance", think about all the good and bad.

Yes..But I certainly don't want to interrupt their relationship..I am happy for them..

I just want to her thoughts to be gone..There was too much mental trauma..I want that gone..I can't study or do anything..I am kind of thinking about her 24*7.Most of the time hate comes to my mind,sometimes day dreams of impressing her on the roads..Knowing that it is bad I control it..

Any kind of help to stop these thoughts is appreciated..