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now that’s a constructive habit! I haven’t a musical bone in my body. I can hardly tap my foot and chew gum at the same time. Freedom is the ultimate goal!

It definitely helps get my mind off things! Hey, if everyone were a musician, who would listen to us? ;)

"Freedom is the ultimate goal." I really like that statement. I don't know what it is but it's really standing out to me right now. Thanks!

Thats an excellent mindset. I’m sure you will continue to do great! Love the profile pic btw. Good motivation!!

Thank you! I guess that's the long term goal as today is turning into a bit of a fighting day. And thanks, I think I found that pic through the emergency button!

21 days.. longest I've gone since Spring, and once I pass 31 days it'll be the longest I've gone in years- and I'm just getting started!

Now I'm sort of wondering who else to talk to about this.. I'm figuring the more open I am the better my odds are of finally being free!

I think that's probably true. Extra accountability is definitely going to be helpful. Not everyone will be understanding, though, so you have to make sure you're prepared for that possibility.

That's a good point. I definitely won't go around telling everyone, maybe just a another person or two whom I trust greatly. The last thing I need right now is someone shaming me.. I have enough of that already

Well done buddy

Thanks man, I hope things are going well for you!

It's more: accepting your current life, and then, step by step, make some changes every day. And don't forget: fill your brain with wisdom and good stuff.

@2wolves, it definitely will be! And that's so true @Roady. The feelings are an indicator of who and where I am; I need to accept it, own it and start making a plan of simple steps that will bring me ti where I want and need to be

Also, the loneliness was much better today. I was on a church retreat this weekend surrounded by people, so it was a little hard to adjust back to being by myself

Thanks- I just wish I had that significant other.. :P

Keep working it. Remember that sign on your car mirror, "objects in mirror may be closer than they appear". So is your future. OK, stop looking in the rear mirror, look out the windshield.

Haha yeah sometimes dating feels like a hopeless cause, but who knows, maybe I'm closer to it than I realize. Either way, I need to quit this habit

example; you

Stay strong, you got this.

Well done, let's use the brain to achieve our goals.

Thanks guys. The last time I fapped I had started looking at pics online- not porn, but the precursor stuff- I made myself stop and I jerked off without any pictures. It was so boring, I just wanted it to be over. It was another eye-opener to the role porn has played in my sexuality and I really want to be done with it and to discover my true, natural sexuality

Oh yeah and 4 get my 6-pack back

great and attainable goals

Thanks, and even if 2 and 4 don't happen I'll still be much closer to who I want to be!

Ask God for help. Or call somebody :)