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He was afraid I’d be triggered.
Same...and he still can’t tell me “why”.
I’m my partner’s accountability partner. His therapist was against it. We discussed it and decided that this issue was between us. He wasn’t...
I asked my SO this and he said he would feel terrible about himself and like he wasn’t good enough. When I explained that’s how I felt he got...
Yup....very afraid to heal. My SO has been doing great, going to therapy, taking all the right steps, seven months PMO free. Last week he proposed...
This makes sense. I’m 38 and he’s 48. And through therapy we’ve uncovered he has major intimacy issues.
This is exactly my hang up...you could PMO every day but not turn to me with that drive? He says it’s different because PMO was easy (no other...
My SO is six months clean of PM (O only with me). We’re slowly making our way through the wreckage this addiction leaves in its wake. Some days...
Honestly is honesty. It’s that simple. Your GF deserves full disclosure and then she can decide if she wants to stay and support you through your...
Honestly? I’d leave. My SO has stated time and time again that P was because was usable because they were strangers with no connection to him....
This. When I started dating my SO I was upfront with how I felt about P. I asked him if he used it and he said no. So the first DDay I was upset...
I’ve said both.... “Isn’t what we have enough of a reason to give up P?” And also “Regardless of what happens between us you should get help...
My entire life I’ve been against P. I’ve never understood the appeal and always found the idea of watching others engage in sex acts to be odd. I...
She has s book called Hold Me Tight and I highly recommend her podcast Nerd Out on Bonding.
He wants to come over and talk today. We’ll see how it goes. I’m mentally exhausted by all of this. I wish pornography didn’t exist. :(
Exactly this... M still provides the dopamine release without connecting to a partner so it’s a really slippery slope. It’s just my opinion (and...
I don’t think a husband should have to M if he has a willing partner in the next room. That’s why many of us are so hurt. We didn’t turn our...
He mainly got stress relief, which I can’t relate to because I’ve never used MO as a stress relief. To me O is with a partner only, anything...
Thank you. This all makes so much sense.
This sounds a lot like my SO. He grew up in a household where he was loved and provided for, but no one talked about emotions or intimacy. He said...
