dating advice

It's said that the flatline is your brain in recovery and that the best action to take is to wait it out. My question is... when it comes to dating. Should you wait until the flatline is over before dating? Or does dating help speed up the recovery process? I'm asking because I could be in for...

I'm in a situation where I have done alot of inner work for a few years, you could call me fairly charismatic, confident and comfortable at least in a somewhat platonic (I'm still a virgin) social environment but this does not match the reality of my situation and what is expected of me at my...

I had been on Singleflirt for about two years, but I had fewer than a hundred matches because I’m so picky. I saw Marianna’s profile and what really stood out to me was the photo that showed his huuuge…library! I’m a bookworm, so seeing that he had even more books than I did was what really made...

I am really tired of myself. I'm a chronic overthinker, spend way too much time dwelling on things, work so hard to pull myself away from all these things (including how much I am jerking off, once every 24-48 hours on average), but I fail every time. And it's frustrating. To provide some...

There is a coworker I like who has become comfortable with me over the half of a year I have seen her. When she trained me for the first time, I saw that she would turn to stare at me, before quickly turning back to the tutorial on the computer. She started approaching me after I complimented...

Picking the right girl Develop an eye to see with who you have chemistry with, that she is a good girl and not crazy, notice if the interaction is smooth and natural. If not then do not pursue it. Choosing the right girl is almost 90% of your success. The approach Whereas you do real life...

I have learned in these two years of dating: - Look beyond lust, love, beauty and emotions so you can see a woman for what she does and who she is because if you don’t you will experience a bit of hell living on earth. - Let go, no matter how much you have invested in a girl, if you love her...

So as you are reading guys, I'm 22 and have been PMOing for 8 years. 3-5 times a day non stop. I'm currently doing my longest streak right now which is (( day 50 of NoFap hard mood and Semen Retention )) But i'm wondering, is 90 days really good number to consider myself cured ? because I...

I'm 27, and I've only had a handful of relationships throughout my life. Nothing very serious, but in the past 5 years or so I haven't dated anyone. Sure I've been on a few first dates, but they haven't gone anywhere. I have a tendency to get on dating apps every so often In hopes that I find...

An old friend from school texted me, asking me if I know a good psychologist. He wants to break up from this girl he is been 6 years now. They girl has depression and they are no longer together since 2009. He is a film director and also a nice guy. He has allowed the girl to live in his house...

I come here seeking the advice of the old and experienced. I started my journey to become a better man on 23rd of August 2021, though there have been prior attempts at it but never did I really go over 62 days, there may be a reason to that; as I did not focus on anything other than semen...

The basic importance in doing nofap for attracting girls and if you master it is that you are able to see women without lust in your eyes. Women know they are hot, they don't care if you like them for their looks, what they really want is you like them for what they are beyond their looks. I...

Hey guys, so there's this hot girl I met at the gym. The problem is I can only speak with her for 2 minutes at a time because we're so consumed with working out and we're literally on opposite sides of the gym. I want my approach to be natural and I want to take her out on a date. I'm open to...

A little while back I wanted help with my attraction to fat women but now I can't take it anymore and I just want to spend my time with one. BBW, SSBBW honestly couldn't care less all I know is that I want a big plump woman. I want to become Roman-Catholic but I also want a fat woman so I'm...

I won’t go into my life history but to summarise I have never had a romantic relationship (3 days where I didn’t see her for most of the time doesn’t count). I am only a few days into my current streak; however, I am feeling a lot more stable this time around and would like to start at least...

Whats goin on NoFap community i just wanted to give my 2 cents and try and raise awareness if anything more awareness on dating apps. Im currently on day 69 (kinda hard mode but ill still check out youtube and shit)and tomorrow will reach 70 and i have another streak within my streak because...

So I know that since COVID started, possibilities of dating/ hanging out with groups are almost 0. My problem is that im really tall, im 205 cm and i weigh 127 kgs. I used to weigh 156kgs two years ago. I have gone from really fat, to somewhat fat with muscle. I wear t shirts with jeans most of...

Okay I feel like I have posted a lot of hot takes in the forums lately (swear I'll stop LOL), but I had to say this one somewhere. ~~ In the forums (and society to be honest) its so frequent to see people clumping women into one monolith, or perhaps even a few arbitrary categories to describe...

First of all, it's my personal opinion that society perpetuates the false idea that we need a romantic partner in order to be whole. The real question is, what's so dangerous about an independent, attractive (yes you reading this and me are attractive!), successful, confident, and intelligent...

Hello everyone! First of all, I appreciate you for spending your time on this topic. I might sound a bit stupid, but I really need some of your advice right now for this girl I have just met. The thing is that we have been talking and hanging out together for a week, and I knew her from my...

So I am on 15tg day of Nofap. And wanted to ask you this that is it good to use dating app? Does it work? Is it fine for me to use or I should find girl by going outside?

So it all started in a driver's ed class at first I was 100 percent sure that she was into me and I was into her like she litteraly looked at me and started at me and then started to wear tight dresses and look back of her seat to make sure I was looking put I still lacked confidence because in...

i have been dating this girl since not too long before quarantine ,we haven't seen each other in couple months and i feel like there is a wall blocking our connection( it didn't exist before) i'am trying to reach her but nothing work. i tried speaking my feelings about how we didn't connect so...

So I've been feeling emotionally distant from my boyfriend recently. Btw I'm gay, not sure if that will affect the type of responses I get, but I welcome everyone. We've been dating for a month. For context, he and I went on two really awesome dates before quarantine while we were both on spring...

Women are very difficult to talk to online, at least for me. Thank God there are a lot who come into my work that I can talk to. I don't struggle in the real world. I swear I would rather ask 100 women for their phone numbers in person than have to mess with sending an online message. They just...

I am 28 years old and single for the last two years. I’m tired of the attitude of American women and now I want to have a relationship with a foreign girl. Next month, I’m going to Saudi Arabia on a business trip. I have heard that Arabian girls are very sexy and beautiful and I am looking for a...

Ive recently been trying to recover from PIED and have tried to have sex with real partners. But when things escalate or even when im just hanging out with a pretty girl just talking not even touching I get a discharge from my penis that I think is pre-cum. The thing is im still soft and that...

So I ran into this girl at work while doing a presentation and it turned out she went to my school. I really didn't expect someone like her to have gone there but she did. She was 35 and single. (married and divorced a few years before). We chatted for a little bit after the presentation and I...

Hey guys, I started Nofap during October and have few relapses during this period (I fap 3 times during the last 90 days, my longest streak is 60 days). And still i don't feel the benefit that others have, sure I feel more energetic, my mind is clearer, I feel more focused. And it is also true...

Hello, I'm in my early 20's right now, I wasn't active in the dating game for the past years. Now I just feel that I need to get my shit together. In my younger years I kinda didn't have any problems. But now when I meet new girls I'm unsure how to act with them anymore.. So kinda weird...

RECENTLY, I've been seeing a girl who I met at a gym and fitness classes. We spoke to each other and got on well. Exchanged numbers and met up a couple of times. Yesterday, she flaked on me not once but TWICE on the same day. I kept my cool with her, but ultimately lost (some) respect for her...

First of all I'm talking about romantic love, between a couple not a family or parental kind of love. Everyone has a different perspective about Love some people think it does exist and you have to look for it and try different relationships, others think that love comes with time, the more...

So long story short I have been talking to a girl I studied with like 4 years ago and I really enjoy talking to her it's like you can't feel the time anymore even if I am tired I keep responding to her messages . My only problem is that I am on a very good streak of nofap and I'm afraid that...

Hello everyone I am 62 days pmo free but that doesn't mean i don't struggle with urges to M almost every week... I guess continuously engaging in this behavior for years has altered my perception of relationship... Every single boy i seemed to be interested in all these years within a week i...

Due to many deep personal issues, I refrained from dating for all of my teens and honestly regret it a little but not in a major way. Like a slow poison of sorts working its way and festering in my mind to the point where I feel I can't ignore it anymore. I will be 22 in a few months, when I'm...

Hey, all. I've been out of the dating arena for a long while, and I thought I might try it out now that I'm more grounded in who I am and what I want. So, I need to know some high level, professional dating advice.... When do I deploy the winky face to a girl? Disclaimer: We've been on two...

Hello fellow fapstronauts! I have been trying, for a few years now (geeze, just hit me) to abstain from pornography (P) and masturbation (M), on my own, with a mixed bag of success. The longest streak I have managed to ever achieve is exactly 28 days BUT on the 29th day, I saw a photo of my...

Okay the title says it all. At the gym I met this girl and we kind of flirt around each other.... I like her and it seems she likes me (she's HOT APEing me). Or maybe she's just bitchy, I don't even know if she has a boyfriend! Anyway I kind of feel childish to ask her out for a coffee or an...

I'm a bit embarrassed to bring this up, but seriously wondering if and how I will ever get around this. In short, I get really turned on when girls reject me (and kind of turned off when they are really into me) - is this just the classic "only wanting what I can't have"? I also get turned on...

I’m new to NoFap to support my partner who has struggled with porn addiction in the past. He hasn’t watched porn or masturbated in a very long time and our sex life seems healthy to me. But he’s a firm believer in the physical and mental effects of abstaining. He now wants both of us to go nine...

Hey All, Seeking dating advice texting someone you just started to date. Any tips would be appreciated! :) It's been almost two years since I started NoFap. I won't bore you too much with my whole story, but long story short. I was 2-3x daily PMO-er since my teens... I am now 27. See my...

so recently during a gathering for an event, everyone else left and i was with a guy that I met first time in that moment. I am 26 and he is 27. i was about to come back home as well when he proposed to grab to go to a coffee shop. eventually we went to a restaurant. we laughed a lot, i dunno i...

My girlfriend of 9 months had left me for a younger guy who just smokes all day with no job and is still in school. The simple reason for this was obvious and it was that I didn't have so it if time for her considering I juggle a job and college. But my problem isn't of heartbreak but rather of...

Things have been going really good for me lately and I am on a roll. I have been clean and have not had any desire to PMO! I have been single for a little and have found out so much about myself and feel that I am enjoying my own company. Unlike many others I have not been married but have had...

Hello, I am fairly new to the community and I needed to share what I am going through. It's been very hard to find non-judgemental friends to whom I can express what I'm going through. Though I have made some progress in the last 3 weeks like quitting pot, cigarettes and alcohol, it has been a...