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I am a 26-year-old male that has no interest in sex with real people, and who has never had a stable relationship. I know my compulsive porn usage and masturbation has negatively impacted my sex life and relationships, and after trying many times unsuccessfully in the past, I am ready to commit...

Hey Folks, I´m 34 and trying to get my life back together. About two years ago my then girlfriend dumped me out of the blue to "find herself". Since that day i struggled to abstain from porn and masturbation. I felt no self esteem, my life was kind of dull and i slid into a depressive state...

Hey guys, Looking for an accountability partner to set daily goals with. We can set daily goals and tell eachother. For example- "I'm gunna clean my apartment, do pushups, read a chapter of a book". Everyday tell each other specific goals to motivate us to do them. I think it would be a lot more...

Another year, an eclipse before me. And here I am again, doing all of the things I chose to do this year, yet failing all the same. Some parts of me hate myself for it, some parts are just quiet, and some parts just don't care as long as it is easy. I think I lost the part where I was angry and...

This thread is dedicated to my return to the journey of freeing myself from negative habits associated with my porn use. If you can relate to what I am saying here, any questions or comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading! My Past Struggles/History of Current Situation I would...

I am getting close. So close I can smell it. So even though I know that when it happens. I am going to start thinking about my new decade and what it will bring. Sadly, it will be more of the same. Someone said if you dont like the curcumstances you are in, change them. We know, however, that is...

Yesterday i read an interesting sentence. It was part of an article in an IT forum, but it immediately caught me because I think it had a very valid message for us: "You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your system" (James Clear, Atomic Habits) Many here have very...

I clicked the panic button on this site and got sent this link of a youtuber I hadn't heard of despite having millions of followers and man this was pretty inspirational.

Hi I'm from Germany and I hope my English will be good enough. First of all i am really glad that I found this blog. Exactly 31 days ago I started with nofap/no masturbating. And Exactly today I relapsed. 31 days is something I struggled really hard. After much I've read about nofap and...

It has been very hard for me to complete 15 day of NoFap these days. But I believe I can do it and even more than this. This streak is not only of doing NoFap but also making my day productive in terms of health and work. I will be glad if any of us will join me in this streak. @Lotus Heart...

i saw something on here the other day that said if you set goals you won’t have time to fap. What kind of goals? I feel like this could help me bc i don’t even think about fap when i’m busy, only when i’m alone.

Hey guys, I haven't been on the website in a long time. What's worse is that I feel like I've forgotten what my goal regarding self-improvement was. Back in late 2020-early 2021 I had my sights sets on achieving certain fitness goals, improving in my sports, quitting pornography for good...

Welcome ,let me start by introducing myself... I am 17 year old boy you can call me whatever you want, I started masturbation when I was about 14 years old but it was not so serious just about once a month but as I grew my addiction too grew with me. Now I am a horny teenager, who masturbates...

I've been pushed down by this pandemic. Having my goals put in hold... Feeling stuck , sentenced to a jail life. On top of that , I haven't been able to meet my girlfriend for a long time. All of it ideal breading ground for porn . Looking back ,I first met this hideous monster in early...

my question right now is "what are my motivations to do nofap ???" i know i don't want porn (because it makes me feel disconnected from the real world). as far as masturbation is concerned, i don't know. the last times i had an urge to masturbate i did not care, and just went with my feelings...

Hello everyone. It is blue3shiv here and this makes a restart of nofap. I got into it heavily today on the internet despite forbidding myself. I promptly took action. More on that... That even though I had taken a vow! Luckily I wanted to protect my parents as well I swore on my parents but I...

think! what do you do when you're competing? you fail and and you retry you fail again the cycle continues until you give up. Why Do People Give Up? -> lack Of Motivation -> because they fear what other people will think if they fail. Now, I won't promise this thread will be life changing or...

Hi guys, I was listening to Jordan Peterson this morning. He talked about fears and their important place in setting up your life's goals. Anyone else here listen to Dr. Peterson? Anyway, he talked about having to place some fears behind you. To have them right hot on your tail. So they...

Day 101 So I've reached my first triple digit streak ever. And it's been a journey to say the least. First of all, I decided that I would stop directing my energy towards fantasising and essentially cleanse my mind of any residual images and content that have been floating there since I...

So I was seeing someone for a couple months virtually. I have never felt such a rapid connection with a woman in my life. We went from 0-100 really quick! The connection was undeniable. It had been forever since I've felt like this about anybody! I thought she was "the one" on more than one...

For me, the idea of following a "calling" or "purpose" can be helpful, especially on those dull days when when you feel disconnected from every action and person in your life. The idea is to look beyond goals that may have been planted in your mind by other members of society (like scoring a...

Hello everyone. These first few days of March have not been the best. So I want to set some of my personal goals for the rest of March. 1. I want to not look at porn/masturbate for the rest of March. 2. I want to run at least 4 times a week. 3. I want to cut down on my swearing habits, or...

Created by @Slider8 and @Cartographer In this challenge we work on establishing the healthy habit of running as a means of improving our health, willpower, discipline and ability to finish what we started. Our idea is - "Reach your long term goals through daily efforts." Including but not...

Porn vs. our Goals: as Cognitions It is far easier to conceptualize the things we have experienced than those we have not. Porn surrounds us and is rooted firmly within us - we have all seen it and do not require much effort to form a clear picture of it. We can choose from a number of scenes...

I've relapsed on day 35, so this is my previous streak. I noticed that my jawline became sharper/more gaunt. Usually it is a triangular mess. My spots were less noticable, although I did zoom in on them with a microscope to find that they were still there. My skin going a lighter colour had a...

Hey guys, Let´s get straight, I need your help. Firstly I must say that this post has barely something to do with NoFap, but rather is dealing with the constant dread of Fear of Missing out. In general my life is good. I work a job as an English teacher in my leisure, while I´m trying to...

Compulsion... is all I can say after 7 complete months of recovery will reach 8th in 11 days time. See I started my nofap journey almost an year and a half ago and I was kinda stumbling across with some good streaks here and there. My problem with nofap was that it shows me the reality of who I...

I don't know if this will help any guys out, but I want to share some experience. When I was divorced in 2017, I went through a lot of bitter loneliness. Trying to get a date was impossible. But what I started to realize was that I might be on my own for some time. If that was the case, I...

I read a lot of advices here from men that say: Don’t focus on women, focus on yourself, your growth, your goals. Women are a waste of time. And it is precisely these men that I see relapsing every time.. How crazy is that? Is it to convince yourself not to focus on women? Who are you kidding...

Changing our relationship to our OWN sexuality, can be one of the most challenging growth initiatives ever! Using porn or compulsive sexual activity is full of isolation, secrets, shame, guilt, confusion, on and on. How effective our changes and how long term they will be, is going to be...

Hey there! Hope all of you are doing alright and staying safe given everything going on in the world right now. I guess I'll start off with a bit about myself. I'm 25, a software developer, and kinda an all-around nerd. I've got a variety of hobbies ranging from tabletop games, to photography...

so, this is my view. i think that pmo is obviously a huge problem for people who get bad effects after using it but i also think that there are other very important things which we should not ignore. i do not think a big streak will have alot of benefits if u are just watching tv and using...

Picture yourself sitting at an empty table. Now add a good friend, real or imagined, sitting by your side. Maybe add one or two more. Guys you know and trust. You just know they care about you, want you to be happy, competent and strong. They accept you the way you are with your quirks and...

So, from tomorrow I have planned on 3 "3Day Challenges" and will start from 20Nov and end on 28Nov . Nofap on hardmode, meditation and content replacement therapy on forced mode[something I created for myself] will be a constant through out all 3 challenges. In short , first challenge will help...

Now let's be honest, I'm just some guy on the internet to anyone who reads this, but I want to share this idea for those who truly want to reach their goals in life. We all know that life is so much more than trying to beat an addiction. I think it would be sad if we let that part of life...

Whether it's time, reps, or sets, keep a count or tally. It's how I got to 1000 pushups a day or literally hundreds of pullups. Not all at once, but in sets with a minute or two in between. I mark it on paper. Then week by week I want to increase the tally marks. Before I knew it, I saw how...

Hi Guys! This is Daniel, an ex-porn addict. Reading your stories made me realize how we're all struggling with the similar addiction, that completely alters our lives beneath the surface while of course makes us feel freaking good, makes us feel like real alphas and true men - for a couple of...

As I write this, I'm a single man and from time to time I have felt lonely. But in recent times, I haven't felt that need of wanting and having a girlfriend, sex and being in a relationship. That it is no longer high on the list of priorities. As I've been focusing on my life. Working on my life...

Hi. I'm not new to NoFap, as I've been on and off of it since 2013. I had a previous account on this site, but I deleted it due to a lack of commitment to NoFap and thinking I could find better ways to overcome my PMO addiction. Boy was I wrong! The longest I've lasted in NoFap over the course...

I know it's hard. We all suffer from reboot. The lidibo is crawling especially after few weeks and months of abstaining. BUT in my experience, all i can say is you need MINDSET to fight these demons. How? By using your most painful experience brought about excessive PMO. Here's mine: - limp dick...

Hey I would like if anyone who wishes to do so would share music that inspires them to grow and accomplish their goals. As the starter of the thread I’ll share one, which is also by my favourite band so here it goes. The concept it’s very much related to personal growth.

I do often feel regret or worthless and embarrassing for not able to succeed and for mistakes that I had made in past. I will say that procrastination, severe level of addiction had took a major place for my failures.. I was a victim of severe addiction to social media and music. i will seek...

Hi everyone I've quit this community about 9 or 10 month ago. The reason was too many relapses and I felt like I perpetuated porn-thoughts in my mind by engaging in a forum that is about quitting porn. I still feel that way, which is why I still won't be an active user so to speak. However I've...

I am day zero of this long journey, but I have failed this challenge more times than I can count. What is different this time around is this community I stumbled across. I appreciate all the passion people are pouring out on trying to improve their lives one way or another. Everyone is fighting...

I don’t normally do New Years resolutions. They are silly right? And who really sticks to them? I lived a lot of my life in this “go with the flow” attitude. But did that really get me anywhere great? So this year I’m setting some goals..but I’m also keeping track of them. Like we do here...

Hi my fellow dudes (and dudettes). Here is a question i wanted to ask for a really long time. When you realise you have a problem? Why you decided to quit? And did NoFap make you change your mind about P? I asked because me myself am not sure why i decided to quit. I knew Nofap before i realized...

Today i finally made it to 30 days and I can feel the benefits of nofap. Less anxiety, less depressed and skin is glowing and I'm gaining confidence, i joined nofap because i was a porn addict and I was suffering from PIED, so I am planning to go for 60 days this time. No more going back. I...

Hello Fapstronauts! i'm really sorry for my horrible English, but i will try anyway. "My life would be SO much better if i had a Girlfriend..." You probably already said that. Yeah, me too, and many times, but recently i finally came to a realization, and i think this tought is something to be...

Eversince i joined nofap, i am starting to realise that i am very good at procastinating and that makes me perfom very bad in my academics and business. i have decided to change from today. from now on i want to structure my day and list all things that i must do during the day to keep me busy...

Hi I'm Randall. An 18 year old senior in high school trying to overcome his struggle with porn addiction. It all started last year once I started finding content that "made me relieved." The first few times I did it I got this satisfied high and wanted more of it. During this time I had hit...

This was a shorter podcast than the norm for Jocko Podcast, so what I took away from it that was relevant was a lot less than usual. Nevertheless, for consistency, I will post what I feel is helpful to any small degree below. Choose to be a fighter Humility is the most important character...

As I said in a post recently, the human mind exists to be challenged. You are never meant to settle in conformism, your happiness and satisfaction will come from the release of hormones when you get results in your life. If I gave you a million dollars every day for the rest of your life you...

Hi Guys and Gals. Interested to know what things are on your 'Bucket Lists'? ie. What things do you want to do before you die or hit a certain age? Or perhaps you've already achieved some things? Let's hear those too! For me: Visit Vietnam Visit Niagra Falls Be a one off DJ in a venue! Be a...

You're afraid of not achieving, of failing, of being humiliated. You're confused, you see your goals as unrealistic, you fantasize all day about what you want to be doing or how you think your perfect world can be. You are so afraid of failure that you even find yourself comfortable in not...

Hi guys i dont know where to post this shit, but i need to write it off. So today is my 100th day. I planned to go to success stories with some good positive shit and so. But my day is not positive at all... I just feel sad and i think about relapse. Just let it all go, break things, break...

Hello Everyone, My name is Victor, I am 23 yeard old guy from Colombia and I have been addicted to porn since I was child. In the past two years, I have been able to assess a lot about myself, mainly because of the loneliness I have experienced during my music program in the U.S.. P and S...

Hello folks I started NoFap two Times, 5 Weeks and 3 Weeks.I had many benefits, but the last tries failed and led to relapse binges. But that helped me to understand why masturbation is posion for my life.I struggle with many problems (I had so much ups and downs)and I am very lazy, but recently...

It is said that 21 days are required to make or change a habit so let get started with 21 days no porn and no masturbation challenge. Things to do:- 1.No Porn 2.NO masturbation 3.stay motivated 4.whenever feels low, open Nofab and chat with its users 5.focus on your goals 6.share your...

It is said that 21 days are required to make or change a habit so let get started with 21 days no porn and no masturbation challenge. Things to do:- 1.No Porn 2.NO masturbation 3.stay motivated 4.whenever feels low, open Nofab and chat with its users 5.focus on your goals 6.share your...

Hey all, (TL;DR: only porn abstinence, I'm being vague with my definition. I don't masturbate frequently and besides yesterday was good for a while. It'll be good for me and my wife all around.) 24, m, "Lite-mode." I am blessed with a healthy (married) sex life, and I am joining this to keep...

I want to write this post without talking about porn or addiction I want to write simply what are the areas of my life where I DECIDE to take a direction 1- shortly I will go to live alone, I have already bought a house 2- I decided to go to the gym and constantly improve my eating habits 3-...

Okay yesterday was my first day I had urges. They came suddenly when I had nothing to do while watching American Dad. I just drowned out the urges with music. I'm afraid though because I know my urges tend to intensify. I have no plan on how to avert my attention other than music. I really hope...

If I have been PMOing three-ish times per week for five years what is a good goal? I have been trying to stop for years. I have been talking with a counselor. From age 17.5 to 21 I was clean (but very anxious). During that time I fasted regularly, prayed for hours daily, and was successful in...

Hey everyone, My name is Chris and im new to nofap. The reason for me joining is to get some support with this challenge and hopefully be successful in my goal. I've attempted nofap by myself a couple times in the past, making it about 2months before relapsing. Ive noticed when i relapse and go...

Hey guys, I just graduated high school and somehow I made it this far (and into a nice college) despite my addiction to Porn and Masturbation. Honestly, high school didn't go great for me, my excessive addiction to porn and masturbating didn't let me focus, my memory is shit, and I spent most of...

Hermes Lupus' new discipline is to perform insane productivity of filling all possible transition times, downtimes, breaks, gaps, etc. with activities connected with personal development and realising artistic goals. This obsessive devotion to work and performance has already turned out to be...

Hi everyone! This is my first time using any forum, like ever. I guess I'm looking forward to talking to real people about rebooting. Quick intro: -I'm 23 -started masturbating in 8th grade / haven't really ever stopped -got a new grip on pornography a number of years ago -since discovering...

Just 26 days ago before I joined his incredible movement; I was eating junk, using tons of a substance that I will not state specifically. I had no confidence and I always felt angry. There are still bad days, but keeping count of the good days is quintessential to self improvement. Instead of...

I was reading another thread which got me thinking about what motivates us to do or not do things. I feel that my greatest weakness is that I fail to find the proper motivation to my goals. And that if I could work out the correct motivation, I could do anything I set my mind to. I try to...

It's been about 7 weeks on NoFap and noticed these changes: - Attraction to the opposite sex: Women have taken notice and honestly, it feels pretty awesome. -Flatline: 6.5 weeks in, I felt a day of just depression, which sucked, but I recovered. -Energy Boost: Waking up every morning, I...

i came across this website through a youtube video.i think i have addiction of mastubation and watching porn.generally it happens in my free time and in stressful time.i am sick of it,because its harnesing my productivity. i want to do better in life with my grades and relationships .i want to...

5 weeks in without watching porn or ejaculating Honestly the first 3 days were the hardest. However 5 weeks in I have noticed incredible results - improved confidence: talking to women and speaking my mind finally come hand in hand - success at work: Finishing assignments at work are...

HEY FAPSTRONAUTS Hope You Guys enjoying Christmas! and new year is just near so,today I am celebrating something that has been a life lesson and a challenge to me YES! 30 DAYS OF NoFap! no porn no masturbation or sex.Guys its been really great I enjoyed being with my family and the...

I tried 'I won't PMO NO MATTER WHAT' and I PMOed. My thoughts on this seems that I'm focussing much more on the problem than the solution. The solution is transmutation. Bramacharya is the act of transmutation. Thus bramacharya is to be my focus. I am to accumulate ojas each day and use it...

Level 2 Rules! 1.) No PORN FOR 3 DAYS 2.) One Positive Daily Goal Accomplished each day! 3.) One Positive Goal for tomorrow! 4.) Daily Updates! Example: 1/3 Made my bed today! Will workout tomorrow! If accomplished you name will be added to Level 2 winners list! (Make sure to tag me when you...

I keep hitting a wall. Im starting to feel like im just trying to count days but im not Growing... I need to create new Healthy habits My Day List: 1.) Make my Bed 2.) Read 30 min 3.) Meditate 30 min 4.) Workout 30 min 5.) Clean 30 mins 6.) Motivate one person in Nofap/Update My After work...

*Male *27 *Been in the Fap route since I was 13-14 * It's been a really bad habit of mine to fap at night before bed or in the morning when I wake up *Making the decision to quit because I am fully aware of the scientificn & phycological benefits of not doing it. *I am starting the challenge...

Hello everyone, I fell off the NoFap train for awhile but its time to take control and make a comeback! I'm going to post my ideal day and goals so I can have a steady idea of what I need to keep doing to reach them, as well as inspire others. Feel free to drop your...

So many things are racing through my head, "Start by saying, 'Good Day Folks', no, no, no, start with, 'I don't know how to start this,' gahh no, it's obviously the right choice to say, 'Hi'." LOL, truth is I don't know how to start, so that is what I really am thinking, not what I want to tell...

As I start off my journey to recovery from my PMO addiction, I look forward for the best results and with absolute effort! I hope myself and all of you can achieve the goals we made, by putting excessive effort into our work and mind.

Hello NoFap community Who am I ? Call me Itsgonnabeok, I am 24, French and one day a successful artist with a clean body and mind. I've heard of NoFap before and I discovered my porn addiction. So far I didn't know it was a thing until I tried my first NoFap challenge on my own and relapsed...

There is a place where a hidden drive dwells in all of us. A place that for many of us will be hard to find. It will take you to the very BRINK of your efforts but in this place you will find that drive and once you do... there will not be a SINGLE THING that will be able to hold you back. Dig...

Hi, I am a 32yo male who discovered PMO so long ago, lets say age 12 give or take a year(~60%). Back when edging was not just part of the end game but a result of poor internet connection and the use of newsgroups. I had never really considered this a problem though, until I read some nofap...

So I've been reading some stuff in forums and I learnt relapse can happen at any point in time.No matter how far you've made it.A guy had relapsed after 180 days which was pretty shocking to me because I have this 90 day challenge and I thought It'll be easier after that length of time. I've...

Have a 4 day weekend (Rash Hashana) and I need things to do during the long weekend. Anyone have any suggestions? Here are some things I've been doing to not be bored and not think about P&M Things I've Been Doing Working Out (Swimming and cardio) Drawing (Soccer Club Badges) NoFap Forums/Subreddit

Hey everyone, I'm kinda nervous about signing up for something like this but I know it's for the best. I don't want this lifestyle anymore and I am determined to change it. I will become the person I want to be and I will focus on my goal of self improvement each and every day. My streak starts...

Hey NoFap Community, Im Niclas, 19 years old and im living in Hambourg. I want to quit looking porn videos and masturbation. I think that this community and the tools on the website will help me to achieve this goal. The reason for quitting is that im feeling not good after masturbating. I cant...

As in what I should expect to happen, certain checkpoints, timescales, to manage my expectations. Links appreciated!

Hi all, To keep it short and sweet, I'm Alex, 23, started watching porn when I was about 14 and because of it I've never had sex and I've realised I'm never going to be happy or succesful with continued porn use. I've struggled with depression since I was young, always had very low self-esteem...

I think it's time to discuss my current goal regarding NoFap. Over the past months this year I have been struggling to stave off masturbation and earlier this week I joined the site to help make a fresh start on this journey. Now a few days ago I relapsed again and jacked off in bed one...

Hello people i will try to introduce myself briefly. My mother language is Spanish sorry. I was PMO addict since 12 yr old especially Masturbation. No luck with girls also. I am 26 year old and finished medical school 2 yr ago, I didn't know what to do with my life back then i was kinda...

Hello people i will try to introduce myself briefly. My mother language is Spanish sorry. I was PMO addict since 12 yr old especially Masturbation. No luck with girls also. I am 26 year old and finished medical school 2 yr ago, I didn't know what to do with my life back then i was kinda...

Hello people i will try to introduce myself briefly. My mother language is Spanish sorry. I was PMO addict since 12 yr old especially Masturbation. No luck with girls also. I am 26 year old and finished medical school 2 yr ago, I didn't know what to do with my life back then i was kinda...

Tl;DR - I struggle with defining "relapse." I struggle with fantasizing and edging. I'm as addicted to masturbation as porn. For me, fantasizing leads to edging, leads to masturbation, leads to porn. So, stop the fantasizing stop the porn addiction? Tips for not fantasizing or edging, esp. at...

Hello! I'm not exactly new to the idea of NoFap, I've been working on it off and on with varying degrees of success for the past year now, my longest streak being a little over a month. My goal currently is to make it to 90 days on hard mode. A little background, I started with PMO when I was...

Hey all, I currently struggle with PIED, I am 16 days PMO free and going strong. I have a beautiful girlfriend that I was lucky enough to meet in high school and was my highschool sweetheart for a time. She later left my school and we only reconnected a few months ago after her family situation...

Greetings fellow Fapstronauts! Quite recently I embarked on a very difficult but glorious quest,to overcome my addiction to pornographic imagery and masturbation. Unfortunately in my case,pornography and masturbation affected me severely. From the age of eleven 11 I was addicted,all of that...

Today marks my first day on NoFap™ and I'm hoping that with your help.....you, the reader(s), I will be able to finally quit my 5 year long porn addiction and 1.37 year long masturbation addiction. I've always known that fighting is always better with support on your side, especially if your...

Hello, My Name is Steven Ray Conrady. I'm a 31 year old single male. I currently work for USPS as a Postal Support Clerk. My porn addiction started at a very young age. I can remember when I was about 5 or so digging through my father's playboy collection. I'm attracted to both women & men. my...

Hello there! I am 17 and i've been doing nofap for 2 years since 2015. It has been a rollercoaster with ups and downs. This is my third post on nofap and I am writing this as of 23 april because I am tired of suffering form porn. Prior to PMO I was an outgoing person with happiness, energy and...