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Hello reader, I plan to not come back here, but wanted to leave some encouragement. Here's my story. It may be worth saying I am a Christian and my goals have usually been total abstienence from masterbation and porn. I appreciate not everyone here has those same goals. I hope my story might...

I am stuck in a vicious cycle and am doubting my marriage… as of the last 2-3 months I have been getting into petty arguments with my wife, these arguments typically end with us cutting the conversation and just going to sleep. It has been like this ever since our marriage a year and some change...

Hey there. Im tucket, and Im trying hard to practice semen retention or sexual abstinence while at the same time being married. I've had some success in the past. But for the longest time now Ive felt like a slave to my wife's vagina. In my opinion, NoFap and sex are basically the same in...

We came home together from a beautiful concert followed by a walk along the lakeshore. It felt good, relaxing. I told my wife that I didn’t feel like listening to the TV now. And switched it off! I wanted to have some moment of calm. She was completely mad at me, totally angry, called me a...

I'm on day 28 of hard mode NF. I'm currently on the verge of engagement, is there anything wrong with getting married after I complete only 90 days of NF? (obviously I wouldn't relapse ever hopefully) I heard that you should start having S slowly, so your brain adapts and gets rewired to see...

I'm curious about why married men watch porn behind their wives' backs. Is it a lack of physical attraction towards your partner?

Hello everyone. I am a 24 year old male, and I have been married for 1 years. My wife and I are highschool sweethearts. I have been viewing porn and masturbating regularly since age 12. I was able to hide my porn use, and it didn't become an issue until a few years ago when my wife caught me and...

I’m 33 years old, I’m married to a wonderful woman of 30 years old. I have struggled with porn my whole life and have bizarre kinks because of it that CANNOT be roleplayed In real life. The details of that do not matter. What matters is that I cannot stop. I have blockers on everything, and...

This may get lost in the deluge of posts here, but I wanted to step up my efforts to rid myself of this lifelong struggle, which is now tearing apart my marriage due to my cyber infidelity. Without getting into the details of its personal impact on me, I wanted to create a space where I could...

Just wanted to analyze. Nofap has greatly benefitted and got commited. Both in the honeymoon phase and planning on doing the deed daily at least once .Been a virgin so long that's why asking this Trust me guys, abstain and wait for real sex those who wish to lead a married life. Sex with an...

The last 7-Years have been very trying. My husband and I have experienced an extremely difficult yet blessed 7-year journey in overcoming our abusive childhoods together and the abuse from our family systems that resulted in early porn addiction and trauma for both of us, which our family...

This is my story. It will be a lengthy post, but I want to share what's on my mind while being as concise as possible. I am a 40-year-old man who is married with two children. I discovered my sexuality when I was 10-11 years old after finding my father's popular magazines. In my mid-20s, I...

Well, I’m here now. I’ve accepted that I have a problem with P. This is by far the most vulnerable and anxious I’ve ever felt. Like most here, I was introduced to P at a very young age (about 10 yrs old). I’m 35 now and it’s clear that I’ve become a slave to this poison. It’s caused me to live a...

I decided instead of constantly adding to my self-intro thread, to start a new one here and turn it into a journal. Prior posts copied over below. Day 1: Self-Introduction Thread Hello world, I'm 35, married to the love of my life with a wonderful family. And I am miserable. I have been using...

Hello, I’ve had different types of porn in my life since as far back as I can remember. I can remember the first time I masturbated as a child and it has been a part of my life ever since. I quit watching “intercourse” porn probably around two months ago, but did not quit looking at skimpy...

I came across a girl on a matrimony site. I like this girl. The family background is quite similar. Others don't consider her that beautiful. But I like her. I am trying to meet her in the city but she has postponed the meeting. Shall I open up to her about my obsessions for her? I have been on...

Trying to maintain a friendship with my ex-wife who left because of my PMO is difficult, and at times, stressful. This has led me to relapse with a who-cares attitude after a recent argument … this two days into a new year with a great attitude. I want to remain close, but it’s also making...

Porn, masturbating, over-ejaculating. These things have been killing my morals, my manliness, my emotions, my love for people, and most importantly... My relationship with God. After I have succeeded on nofap, I now feel more love. Love for God, love for my family, love for people. And now, I...

So i started my journey with the 100% intention of going full no PMO. Thats proving challenging, however, not for myself. Is anyone here married? and if so , what strategies do you use to stick to the plan?

So, it's been a while since I don't post in this community, but I feel like I must do it again. Why? Because I completed my 90 day hard mode re-boot from November 2021 - January 2022. After that, I relapsed once, and then another time, and another time, and so on. In total, I've relapsed...

Hey good people, I would like to extend a thank you to the creators of this website. Having a forum where people can reflect on their choices to delve into pornography and excessive masturbation is valuable in today's sexualized world. We live in a society that promotes sexual deviation in all...

Hey. 30yo married male. I feel that I'm stuck in this loop: (1) Seeing and beeing triggered by other women everywhere (street, gym, internet, etc). (2) Desire for other women other than my wife. (3) Feeling "a miss" that I don't try to hook-up with other women. (4) PMO and questions about my...

Hello. I am 30yo male, happily married. I am addicted to porn since I remember myself. I consider myself as having a really really high sex drive. I tried to quit porn several times, but never succeeded for long time. The only time I did succeed to quit porn and masturbation, was during a...

Hello, I am new to this community, I just joined. I have been addicted to porn since I was 11. I am now in a relationship with my partner, we are married, and Porn has taken a tole on our relationship. My partner used to normalize porn, like many of us have. Until, they did more research and...

Bill gates is getting divorce and he made no prenup, now he has to split his 146 billions with his soon to be ex wife. Not the best financial move in not making a prenup Bill, not the best move...

Hello there! I'm 22 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for about two years, he's 29. He told me that for time to time (maybe once or twice a month) he has this kind of compulsion to browse some porn sites even though we made an agreement we won't watch porn and he...

My DH and I have been together 7 years. Around the first year of dating I found he was visiting several dating/hookup sites under a fake profile with intentions of sending sexual messages and trading photos. No meet ups while we were together as I saw everything. However, he did lose his...

I have a question, and I thought many other people will also have the same question, so it might help them. Thats why starting a new thread. . I am on no-porn since 1 year and want to get married 1 year later. Currently a virgin. Suffers from PE ( Had a relapse: penis ejaculated after just 1,2...

I just turned 30, few days back. I would like to mention that I finally went for my first ever date, on the 149th day of NoFap. We found each other on a matrimony website, some 3 weeks ago. Earlier, I lacked the self-confidence and didn't have the mindset to even think about marriage. This date...

It's a bit long , please bear with me. But , I desperately need a help. I'm a 33 years old man and have been married for 2 and a half years. I don't want to call myself a porn addict but I used to watch porn at least 2-3 times a week for the last 10-15 years. When I was not watching porn , I'd...

It's a bit long , please bear with me. But , I desperately need a help. I'm a 33 years old man and have been married for 2 and a half years. I don't want to call myself a porn addict but I used to watch porn at least 2-3 times a week for the last 10-15 years. When I was not watching porn , I'd...

It's a bit long , please bear with me. But , I desperately need a help. I'm a 33 years old man and have been married for 2 and a half years. I don't want to call myself a porn addict but I used to watch porn at least 2-3 times a week for the last 10-15 years. When I was not watching porn , I'd...

As a disclaimer, I am a Christian and, as a result, I condemn dating for the sake of dating. I believe that dating is essentially a test to see who would make a good partner for life. With this in mind, what characteristics should we look for in a wife besides physical appearance?

Hey I'm trying to quit my porn addiction since being a teenager. I am 27 now. I could be married to my wonderful SO within the next 2 years or so. And being Christian, we're doing the no sex before marriage. I'm not a virgin, but she is. Am I going to explode at first touch, and ruin her first...

Hey I'm trying to quit my porn addiction since being a teenager. I am 27 now. I could be married to my wonderful SO within the next 2 years or so. And being Christian, we're doing the no sex before marriage. I'm not a virgin, but she is. Am I going to explode at first touch, and ruin her first...

Some month ago a friend here told me he was writing letters to his future wife. Isn't that a wonderful idea? However I haven't done it myself since. So I thought, why not do it here, together with others that are looking for a mate (boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband or simply friend)...

I decide to marry after achieving my 90 days first streak. I've proposed my future wife this month and decide to marry 2 months later. I know marrying and having partner is not the solution for PMO but it can make your recovery easier when we have someone to intimate and support us when ever we...

Does anyone feel like (especially early 20s) your choice of remaining without sex till marriage makes the thought of not PMOing ever again almost impossible? Like the idea that you wouldn't have an orgasm till marriage makes you feel like you can't defeat this addiction. I always imagined I...

Hey guys, I'm 22 and trying to make a change in my life. I met a beautiful girl we have been dating 5 months now. But we have know each other for a bit over a year. The major objective is marriage. I have been in the past watching porn and manstubating, I wasn't addicted but. After seeing how...

Hey there! I've started to reboot several times in the last two years but this streak is different. No urges, no carvings and also no meditation, no cold showers, no magic bullets. I just get in real contact with my wife - for the first time. We speak a lot about my nofap journey, about PMO and...

I’m struggling to come to terms with the person I was before recovery. I see the damage I’ve caused my wife every single day and the guilt I feel is overwhelming. I’m trying to be a better person and a better husband and I’m cleaning, cooking more, trying to get into shape, talking openly about...

So. Hello there. I am 18 old. Have been dating with gl for like 6 months. Todays my 31d and 23h NoFap journey. So, I easily fucked off fap, really. I really love her and realised that NoFap challenge made me better at "loving". I do appreciate feelings, emotions and "clean" love. We are...

Over in his thread Looking for youtube videos to more eloquently introduce wife to.... @JustADude posts this YouTube video 4:10 into the video Rebecca says: I added the emphasis because I'm struck by her phrase 'spiritual intimacy' in a relationship. What does it mean? I know lots of couples...

She’d never understand. We’ve been married for 25 years and I’ve been keeping this side of my life secret all this time. I need to recover so I can keep my marriage. I know the inflammation is also effecting my health...

Possible NSFW but won't be detailed... Guys....it's Sunday morning in Europe. Two weeks ago I went into my hotel bathroom, let down and upset about another PIED event with my wife. It was early morning like now, and I did PMO to validate myself. To feel in that way what I couldn't with her...

So heres my totally fucked up story. I grew up in a rural bible town in the south. The only thing my parents ever taught me about sex was "you dont have it until you're married" and "masturbating/porn is sin". Naturally as a kid in the early 2000s I eventually found porn. It was my sexual...

Hi everyone, I’m new to this forum and need some support/ advice. This is a long post so apologies for that! I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and married for about 1.5 years. Met my wife, who is from another country, when we both moved abroad to look for some meaning and direction in...

Hi my wife and I are trying for our 2nd baby, and with my historical ED issues (linked to PMO), it's frustrating. My wife and I don't have a good sex life; never have for 2 reasons: (1) my ED from PMO before we started dating; and (2) we were friends for years before we became intimate, and from...

I wanted to start a thread to discuss something that's been on my mind for a long time. My SO and have mismatched libidos, like many if not all of you. She very infrequently initiates sex (maybe once or twice year, for my birthday or a holiday). I often feel that when I initiate I am asking...

Five Things to Build Trust I want to share some information I gathered in the podcast The Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert. These are things that were shared by the expert on the show in regards to building or rebuilding trust. This is such a common question for SOs and is one I struggle...

I'll repeat some of my intro stuff here, just for context (see here). 32yo, Male, Christian, Married-with-kids. After 10 years of marriage, I'm realizing that my growing discontentment with our sex life lays mostly, if not fully, on my shoulders. My addiction to PMO has damaged my...

Is there any reason for a non-religious person to get married? I was listening to recent a recent episode of Fresh Air where this former Jehovah Witness said she doesn't know why anyone gets married now that she's not religious. As a JW she was married but after leaving her religion and the...

Hey everyone, new to NoFap here. I’m a 21 year old female who has been struggling with porn addiction for almost 5 years now. I was first exposed to porn in the form of pornographic online games when I was 10. What I thought was a kids’ gaming website apparently also included adult nudity and...

Hi everyone, I've posted on another forum but I wanted to post here because I actually want to hear from porn addicts, especially those that are married and have a failing marriage. I got married just over two years ago. I knew somethingwas off straight away in terms of intimacy and sex even...

*Spoiler alert* My name is Drew and I am addicted to adult content. I have been addicted since I was an early teen and I am struggling to stop. Over the years I have found different ways to satisfy my carnal desires. However, now that I am dating and trying to commit to someone, I have noticed...

It's been 7 weeks and 2 days since the last time I "got busy" with my husband. He suffers from PIED and hasn't made any effort to try anything out, which is OK. Unfortunately, I have a very bad feeling he has relapsed, but I'm not mentally strong enough to go and investigate, which is an...

I admitted to my wife that I'm addicted to porn on Saturday night. Since then, it's been a struggle for the two of us to communicate, and it feels like every time we have spoken, some new piece of information to her has emerged that has pushed her even further away. The result of this is that I...

Hi Fellow Fapstronauts, I’m 33 and have been married for nearly four years, in a relationship for five. I have two daughters. Last weekend at a friend’s wedding I got extremely drunk. I remember trying to have sex with my wife in our hotel room one minute, and the next thing I knew I was on...

I am 29, married for one 1 year, been together with my wife for 7 years. I am struggling with depression. I hate porn though I have to admit to myself that I am addicted to it to a lesser degree. I often say to myself 'porn is poison'. I firmly hold this belief. It is a new plague. The fifth...

I want to share my experience and have a couple of questions. After 2-3 days on Nofap i noticed a huge increase in confidence and motivation. Fapping and lust addiction has been a big downer for years. I love the freedom and energy I've found. It's an untapped reservoir. I told my wife about...

Hey, guys! A brief background story: I started my addiction to PMO at the age of 12. I am now 23 years old. I didnt try to stop this behaviour until I got caught during my marriage. This was approximately 18 months ago. When we divorced I slipped with PMO during two occasions and masturbated...

Hello I’m a new user and this is my first post. I wanted to tell my story to get it in the open and spend the time processing it. I first started heavily watching porn while I was deployed and away from home. I was in a loveless marriage at the time and I was an angry sad man who couldn’t...

I simply want a healthy and happy life. Age 18: When I first discovered stuff on the internet, before that I used to be a religious person with a connection with God. That night I was just googling stuff on my first ever bought smartphone. That night I lost a spiritual connection, and it became...

Quick question: can anyone tell me where to find the intimacy anorexia workbook? It will be the difference between divorce or a long happy marriage. I am sure of that.

Note: I have a bizzare fetish paraphilia: h0rny when i see girls/young women wearing sarong. I've asked my wife-to-be for send her picture when she wears sarong, but she refuses to do it. Until a moment, we have a photo exchange: i sent my photos but she must sent her photos when she wearing...

Hey, all! As recommended, just posting my own situation as I join the movement :p I'm a 29-year-old guy in a relationship (recently engaged). I'm also a therapist, and super intrigued by the claims that many on here make about the outcomes and the science behind it. I'm not shouting it...

Posting here instead so I might get some help from others with SOs they need to regain the trust of. Day 0 Here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/starting-this-out-right.212608/ Day 1/2 Missed yesterday's post by trying not to dwell. Not dwelling seems to always be the hardest...

My first post on nofap. This is tough because googling what’s wrong with me is always a negative reinforcement and I’m a bit afraid of what some comments may be...here we go. I’m 25. Been with my wife for 7 years and married 3. She is good and loving and sensitive and God-fearing and caring and...

In short,i am determined to cut porn out completely and i have no fear that i will reach that goal. However,my wife and i have conflicting schedules almost each day and we have had troubles in the home. I think im suffering from PIED but i could be wrong... either way, im cutting that aspect...

Hello, I'd like to introduce myself. I am a 35 year old male, married with two children. I have struggled with addiction to P and M on and off since puberty. I have many motivations to quit including my religious beliefs, improving my marriage, being a better father, etc. My biggest challenge...

Hello, I'm a young 21 year old male, I have been married for just over two years now and I want to quit porn because it is eroding my relationships, my health, my mood, and my life. I have lost intimacy with my wife, I have gained weight, and in general I find it difficult to enjoy the things...

Don't know what the point of this is, just putting my thoughts down. I have appropriate pictures of my wife on my phone and computer background. She is extremely attractive, however due to mental or emotional issues, she cannot have sex. She has tried for years to get help on various fronts, has...

I’m brand new to this page and after 19 years of heavy porn usage I’m finally getting clean. The rock bottom for me was sleeping in my own bed with my wife down the hall and just wondering if she and my one and half year old daughter would still be there when I awoke. I was given ultimatums in...

Hey there I'm a homosexual man, 24 yo and engaged to another man that loves and respect me above all things, and it is very reciprocuous. Thats why in this relationship I realized that I am addicted to PM since I was 12, because I wasnt feeling attracted to my partner anymore, after 4 months of...

Hi I'm new to this. I have someone very special to me who I have a strong conviction and believe one day will be married to. I've stopped masturbating for about a month a a half, almost two months now from the time of this post. But I confessed that I have masturbated to that special someone to...

Hi guys. I started NoFap 201 ago and now I feel better than ever in last 15 years. I got married, started to rebuilding my business and met some new exciting people. I read a lot of tips how to deal with PMO. I tried a lot of them, some of them I recommended to other people, some of them I mady...

Hi nofap guys, Streak 41 days. I can fight with pmo addiction easily at day time. But it's so hard for night time. 5 minutes span also is enough to produce thoughts of sex, adultery, massages, masturbation, porn.. If you suffering from these thougts at night, How are you avoiding these random...

Guys, it's taken me a lot of time and thought to summon the courage to write this confession. Overview: I am a 33 year old male who has been indulging in pornography and masturbation (to varying degrees) since I was 14 years old. I never really realized how big a problem it was until recently...

Im curious to what many answer because I am in a relationship and am just starting nofap

Hello guys This is the first time I join an online community. A bit sad that is not about a happier subject but happy to be able to recognise the problem and take action. Or at least I hope so. I am 35 and have been masturbating throughout my life. Since I was a child I was in love with my...

I started this challenge about a year ago under a different name. I failed pretty hard back then but it felt good while I was trying to overcome this problem. Now I am struggling with a massive, 20-year porn addiction that has badly damaged my marriage, faith, and career, and led me to...

Yesterday I went to my sisters' wedding and in all honesty, she didn't seem happy. Hardly ever smiled, was stressed out and tired. The only thing she seemed to be happy about was that she finally was married to her husband because she loves him very much. Thinking about it, my other sister was...

In avoiding PMO, my desire for real connection with another person has entered steongly into the forefront of my mind. I used to artificially medicate these feelings with PMO, but now that ImI choosing not to, I'm not sure what to do with them. My relationship with my wife isn't a close one...

Hi! I'm a 26-year-old man. I've been married about 2 years ago. I used to masturbate since 4 years ago until the marriage day! After marriage I rebooted. But about 6 months ago I started again:( So I started rebooting again about 1 months ago. I hope to be successful:) Note that when I want to...

This is my first post in this forum, although I have been lurking for a long time. I learned very recently that my wife and I are going to be parents. She is less than 1 month pregnant but already showing a lot of symptoms and has gone through many pregnancy tests. We are both very excited for...

Hi guys. Today I want to share with you something really important to me. It's just not about porn and fapping, but i believe it's really crucial part of reboot. So what I know about commitments? Well im maybe the worst person in the world to tell you about commitments. I was afraid of them...

Hi, I want to have more relations with my wife(more than 3 or 4 per month) but she claims she feels like an object because she has no desire. I know there are other issues like kids, sleeping, the house and so on but my question here is - IF IT IS OK to masturbate or use porn when she doesn't...

Hello Nofap community, I want to start of with THANK YOU. Thanks to you all, to God, friends and fiancé I have completed: -18 months without porn - 60 days on hard mode - rewiring of my brain It would be silly to say I don’t go through temptation still, but i feel largely freed from my...

Hi So....it's been a long road. Started early in life with images. Got married at 21 going it wouldn't persist. It only morphed. Eventually visited my first of hundreds of massage parlors then escorts. Lost the marriage when I confessed and couldn't promise to abstain. Divorced. Lost my...

So guys, I've relapsed on my 79th day no PMO. All it took was 1 urge, 1 urge in 79 days and my brain hit the self destruct button. Why is this so damn difficult to stop? I thought for sure this time would be THE time, I even moved out of my old place, got a freelancing job, got a new diet, am...

I'm sick and tired of porn ruining my life, my marriage and my brain. I have been hooked on porn since I was 14 years old. Met my first love when I was 17 and we got married right after I turned 20(June-02-12). After we got married I slowly started watching more and more porn. By 3 years of...

Dear all, I said to myself I would stop watching porn a week ago as an experiment. I challenged my best friend to join me and he refused (!)... and yesterday, guess what, discovered NoFap! I am so glad you all exist. I thought I was weird and alone to experiment with ditching porn. I realized it...

Hey everyone, Brief overview for now: I'm 30 years old and have had PMO problems for about 15 years. This has seriously effected my life. I didn't realize PMO was the cause until about 5 years ago. I have tried to reboot countless times in the past 5 yearsbut have never made it past 20 days...

What do you think of them? If someone wants a prenup are they planning to divorce you? And if they are what's the point in marrying them in the first place? Rt. Rev Mark Davies, Bishop of Shrewsbury said this: It is a legal provision which would surely empty the words of the marriage promise...

I think it's good and healthy to be virgin, so if you want to stay virgin for any particular reason, feel free to contribute to this thread. Those who aren't virgin but would like to participate are invited to share their own perspective or experience, as long as it encourages the 'challenge'...

Sorry my bad english. I am from indonesia I need an advice from you, i am 18yo and i have PMO since 10. I have through with many ways to overcome this bad habit, i am so stressful with this, but i can't stop this pmo, my best streak 70+ days only, can't farther than this. I joined nofap since...

I am a PA, I have been for about 17 years or so. Started when I was 11 and carried on throughout my life. I have fought it for years and am currently on the best streak of no P that I've ever had. Almost to 70 days. It never escalated to anything more than hardcore videos, but I'm not trying to...

What age should someone start dating? Personally, I don't think anyone should date until they're past25. Before that age most people don't know what they want in life and haven't developed into the person they will be. In my early twenties there was this girl who I liked but honestly, I'm so...

I'm an almost 22 yr old male in his last semester of college for a while. I've struggled with PMO for as long as I can remember. I think it started in middle school and has taken over a significant portion of my life ever since. My two most recent relationships have both been long term with my...