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Hi :) I'm looking for a very specific accountability partner. What I specifically want in my accountability partner is the great appreciation towards gratitude about life. This is important for me, because it'll allow me and my accountability partner to deepen our gratitude/gratefulness...

I am not sure what to mention here and I guess that's it.

Hello everybody, I'ts been a long time for me struggling with porn and all what it concerns. Now i've became an adult, with family and children and this problem is still here. I would like to share with you my theory about this thing and the main reason why do we fail. Basically we were all...

Wondering how a lot of addicts and their partners have felt about porn. Did you ever try to get your partner to watch porn with you, feeling like sharing this interest would be connecting? Did any of the SOs want to watch but felt betrayed when they weren’t included? Or did everyone just have...

Hey guys, Looking for an accountability partner to set daily goals with. We can set daily goals and tell eachother. For example- "I'm gunna clean my apartment, do pushups, read a chapter of a book". Everyday tell each other specific goals to motivate us to do them. I think it would be a lot more...

Today, for the first time I looked up r/nofap on reddit. I had come across nofap many times but I chose to ignore it as I was never ready to quit porn and masturbation prior to today. I had tried a few times once I got a GF but got back into the habit. Well, long story short - Whenever I try...

So I went to meet my gf yesterday and we got intimate. So I have a history of 10 years PMO and PIED. So last two times when I tried to have sex with her, it got failed because of my weak erection due to PIED. So I decided to abstain many times but failed miserably. But recently I started...

I'm curious about why married men watch porn behind their wives' backs. Is it a lack of physical attraction towards your partner?

Hi everyone, joined today to start my rebooting journey. Looking forward to challenges, encouragements and success story at the end of it all. Not sure how to use the challenges thing in the forum, any help would be appreciated.

Hello all, So after talking to my therapist about what I thought was performance anxiety, she's diagnosed me with porn addiction. But it's a little different, maybe. A little background, around a year and a half ago I started having an affair, I didn't realize that growing unhappiness in my...

Had to get this out somewhere. Never shared anything on a forum like this. I’ll spark notes where I’m at: started watching P and M in middle school; in the early days of forming my addiction I also had a lot of catholic guilt, which contributed to even more anxiety and, in turn, more dopamine...

Hi, I have managed to quit P and M for more than a month but then relapsed (a month ago) and now I'm trying to quit again. I'm in a very busy schedule so I'm looking for a DM partner to talk to around the weekends and help if I can.

I'm a 28 yo guy with a girlfriend, and a long-term relationship with P and M. It's my 4th day without it and I think talking to someone who is in a similar situation (via PM's) can really help me out, and also give me the opportunity to help someone else at the same time. Is anyone interested?

(Bear with me here, tried not to make this too long) Without going into the long story that is my background, I want to tell you where I'm at and what just happened. I'm 23, and after I made a major switch in my life a couple of years ago I have found new life and hope. I have had some long...

Had a long talk with my wife tonight. Basically, we had sex last night. She felt a little bad about it last night, but felt much worse about it today (possible internal boundary violation). She's still struggling with the safety aspect of our relationship which is completely understandable after...

An Online Tool that has Helped me to Focus on Tasks! I have been off PMO for a little other a month now. That means I am one third of the way through my reboot. I am so excited! In the early days, I found it extremely hard to focus on tasks. I found myself drifting and wasting time on social...

See I'm lonely and you're lonely so hit me up. Simple. I'm polite and I don't have any friends plus I'll be your accountability partner.

Hey all, my partner and I just finished the 90 days of the reboot... he still doesn't feel healed yet though. I suffered extremely from the circumstances. I felt undesired, unwanted, unsexy, unseen... my self-confidence went in the cellar and I really don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I...

Hi, Im rebooting and the reboot process and the fact that my brain is craving to see sexy women or porn and fapping is hurting my girlfriend. She is having really hard time handling all the feelings about this and I feel so bad about this. She knows that Im better everyday and that I really...

Okay, well I am completely new here, but not new to this porn addiction "OBSESSION" I am sure so many of you have experienced. Once I learnt my partner had an ADDICTION I have been OBSESSIVELY watching youtube videos, reading articles, visiting sites with porn addiction info- and now finally at...

A Betrayed Woman is an Abused Woman – Sisters Quorum JANUARY 21, 2021BY JUNESISTERSQUORUM6569 A Betrayed Woman is an Abused Woman TW: Infidelity, adultery JUNE: Do you know what it is like to not trust yourself? Everything is upside down and backwards and all you can do is float through your...

Hello everyone, i practice semen retention to be disciplined and have a clear & motivated life. it started as a way to get over porn & sexual compulsivity but now i quite like the spike in energy. (trigger warning) anyways, im doing hard mode no PMO and last night i was having sex and my...

Hello guys, i really hope someone passing through this replies, i have been in a beautiful relationship for almost 7 months now with this kind and considerate woman that i was lucky enough to find. I am almost 18, i was pmo for a long time before my relationship, however i just started watching...

I don’t know why I know even here. I’m not dealing with addiction... my boyfriend is. And, it kills me inside. I feel so alone, undesired, unloved. I try so hard to make him happy on any way that I can, but I don’t feel like I’m enough to him. I’m so sad. I love him so much, but I can’t deal...

I'm engaged to a beautiful girl who knows about my addiction and she really supports me. We are supposed to marry in September but I have a very bad problem which I sometimes want to talk in a very bad and seductive way to her and sometimes to hold her hand and touch her. she doesn't accept that...

Hello everyone. First of all I want to apologize for my english as it isn´t my native tongue...I found this forum looking for some help. I am in a relationship with a man since almost 3 years ago (our anniversary is June 2nd). I moved to his country past august as I love him a lot (until then we...

-Heavy addiction since 9/10 years old currently 23 years old -I have been reading that in my cases real recovery could mean up to 2 years of no PMO -After 180 days of no PMO had a gf , experienced PE the first few times, then PIED which was getting better each time, then we broke up because of...

Your partner, whether s/he exists yet or not, cannot take up the slack provided by your lack of PMO. Imagine trying to have sex with your partner as frequently and for the length of time you consume porn. It's not possible. For some, this is the attraction, but you have to dial-down your sex...

***TRIGGER WARNING*** The reason I want to quit is because I want my future daughter/wife to know she is so incredibly beautiful without donning makeup, getting breast implants, waxing her nether regions, painting her nails, etc. She'll never be able to fully appreciate that if her...

Recently I got into a new relationship where I discovered I have PEID. I’m 20M and a virgin. Started watching at age of 13 daily since then sometimes more. Nothing happens downstairs when my gf touched me and made a move. I since started NOFAP and quit PMO and any self stimulation. After...

Hello Everyone, I wanted to get the communities thoughts on using male enhancement pills like, V,S Etc. I spoke to my doctor about my PIED and he actually prescribed me the generic version of a popular male enhancement pill. I am 23 and by all means should not have to be using these types of...

Hello Guys! I have a question about porn induced escalation or fetishes, i’ve read that our brains seek many things when it is desensitised such as shock, surprise, novelty.... etc, well something weird happened with me i never had foot fetish or high heels fetish but after binging to porn for a...

Through my personal knowledge and experience, I am writing what I hope is a pretty good guide for those with PIED. A lot of the stuff on NoFap is theoretical, unrealistic, and unspecific for many, so I'm gonna give what I hope is a good map for understanding and defeating PIED. What is PIED...

Goodmorning dear Reader, This is a thread I've been thinking about writing for some time now. And it revolves around an observation and statement which has helped my dating life. The statement is this: "One should find love for oneself, before searching for love from others." Over the past few...

This is going to be a long post, but if anyone can help I'd REALLY appreciate it. I feel so lost and depressed I don't know what to do anymore. I am day 48 hardmode, which is my longest streak (last longest being 47 days) and have been sexually inactive since mid 2016, where I was in a...

Hi, everyone! I am new to NoFap. I started about a year ago and have struggled with many relapses. My longest streak has been 12 days. I haven't been able to get past the 2 week mark yet. Looking for an accountability partner to share advice, methods and motivation with around my age (just...

Since 2017 what applies most to you:? -10 is worse because of nofap -3 = not had sex once sine 2017 -2 = have had sex 1 time since 2017 -1 = having sex 1 time per year 0 = having sex 1-2 times per year 1 = having sex once per 3- 6 months 2 = having sex once per month 3 = having sex some times (2...

I suspected my partner had a porn addiction but couldn't be sure. About 3 months ago I saw it in our computer history. He wasn't just watching porn now and again, it was every day, often multiple times a day, lots and lots of sites. I asked him if he watched much porn, and he lied and said no...

I only came across this section of the forums recently and reading some of your stories is truly heart breaking. I pray that everything works out for each and every one of you and I wish you all the utmost happiness in your lives because you are the real victims of our addiction. Thank you...

Hey everybody! I've a serious question which maybe sound a bit funny to some of you. This is my third try of rebooting. The first time I relapsed after 60 days, the second try ended at day 22 or so. Now I don't only wanna give it another try but make something different. This is where my issue...

We are 1 week clean but now he is having relapse dreams and starting to be distant again. We are in a 3 year relationship and I found out about the online accounts. When I told him that he cheated on me, and I needed to break up, he finally opened up to me about his addiction. We are still...

Hi So I've been porn free for almost 12 months. However still having issues reconnecting with my sexuality and mypartner. Would love to hear other peoples experiences with this. Most of the info and stories I can are usually from singles Thanks Pete

I need an accountability partner, been struggling with PMO since 12 years old. Really need some freedom. Looking to do the 90 day challenge, please help. Would really want someone who is committed and wants to quit completely. Would prefer someone in same time zone, i.e. India if possible...

Hello Fapstronauts, Today was my fourth day without PM and my brain played a big trick with me saying me that my girlfriend's photos would not be considered as pornography. I agreed with my brain in the beginning but then realized it is a trick and visuals / images even of my own girlfriend...

I tried to explain to my boyfriend how much porn hurts me, how I see it as a form of cheating. I’ve tried to be as nice as possible about it, but he says that there’s nothing wrong with it and ‘like all men do it’. Other times he says it means ‘nothing’ to him. If it means nothing to him, why...

Hy guys, I have a problem for a while now, it's basically in the title. So I live with my gf but sometimes we have 1 to 7 days where we don't see at all. It's often over holidays where I am not occupied with anything (work, study, chores,...). I start watching P often out of boredom or...

I tell you what I would like from this recovery to really feel good. The last time I had sex I could not reach orgasm, sex became worse than masturbation, but today I arrived on day 6 and I wanted to tell you what I would like it to happen. I would like to abstain so long to be able to reacquire...

Hi everyone, My name is Sam and I am starting my abstinence journey today. I have been a user of adult content for around 13 years and it was only a few years ago when I first attempted to stop that I realised how much of an issue it really was. I have attempted to stop many times now but have...

This forum is so great, it helped me tremendous to overcome this addiction. I got to day 167 but relapsed a few days ago because I wasn't busy and let my thoughts wonder. Anyhow, I'm looking for someone who was in the same boat as me 2 years ago: Broke & broken. I want to lift you up, just as...

Just a quick few bullet points from an article I thought I’d share. I encourage others to read these bullet points and just try to think about them without judging yourself (bad or good). Really try to see them and see who you are behind these images or conditions you’ve put yourself in...

About a month ago I found out that my husband of 7 years I’ve been addicted to porn and chat room sex, the whole duration of our marriage and the several years of our dating— prior to marriage. Needless to say this rocked my world. Also strange was that he posed as a woman for his chatting...

The truth is harsh but would you rather have it sugar coated or take it as it is? The reason I'm writing this thread is because I've noticed a lot of guys who trying to recover and reboot in a relationship have been a little selfish. Please read the rest of the post before attacking me. :D A...

Originally I had speculated on never telling my wife about my addiction and I ended up coming fully clean with her, she never discovered on her own. And I do think that one should come clean with one's SO, I found it to be an initially regretful experience but ended being quite refreshing as my...

There are many advantages of going through the reboot process with a partner: it can improve your relationship to be open you have a constant reminder of at least one reason why you want to stop with PMO sex, can be helpful in moderating the intensity of the withdrawal symptoms associated with...

Hey, all! As many of you know, it is extremely difficult to talk about the PMO addiction to anyone - especially to those you love. You have been hurt so much by this garbage and you do not want to hurt your beloved SO even further. After all, you re there to protect them and to take care of...

Hallo! So my husband asked me a few difficult questions on porn and now I am posting my answers here. This is not an easy subject to write about. It is an even more difficult subject to discuss with your life partner, especially if it is the first time. I've been on the block for a few years...

I just joined after doing PMO an hour ago. My biggest trigger is loneliness. Glad to find people from around the world. I'm looking fir some one to whom I can talk when I get the urge.

It's called Betrayal Trauma and PTSD! The person that should have provided you a place of safety is the person that has instead provided a place to make you feel the most unsafe. "I can remember one well known sex addiction therapist telling me that I married my husband because there was...

Hi I'm new here and am looking for someone or some group to be accountable to, been struggling with this for years and am considering getting rid of tech, but it just seems not doable in this society

I need a serious partner for the next 100 days being PMO free. I am 100% convinced I will never be able to do this by myself, I have been struggling with PMO for about 3 years, I just want to keep this force that has the ability to make babies inside of me, not outside of me. Not looking for a...

okay, so here i am again. been doing pretty well w/ my bf, but i just found out that he's been downloading an app called Orfox to use to watch what he needs to watch. he just lost his dad on Wednesday and went and downloaded the app to use. he texted me and said "i already know don't ride me for...

Hi fapstronauts fellow, how do you deal with making your partner feel insecure due to your PIED? I am currently in No PMO and have a strong flatline. As I am in a new relationship and we started to get intimate, my girlfriend experiences a guy not being able to get it up for the first time and...

I have never cheated on any girlfriend I've ever had, and 'common sense' has always told me that if I fantasized over someone other than my SO I could just masturbate over them, rather than follow through and I would be done with it.. So I'm 3 weeks into my reboot, feeling great, had sex with...

Hello folks. I joined up here a good 6+ months ago because I decided I really wanted to tackle (no pun intended) the problem head-on. I've been a PMA for probably 18 years, since I first really discovered P when I was an early teenager (thanks to a childhood friend) and began seeking it out...

Hi, Is it ok to have sex with partner during no pmo - rebooting process? I am on 20th day of NoFap.

This thread is geared more towards PA's and their partners rather than single rebooters like myself. I was thinking about this topic recently and decided to make a thread about it. A couple years back the manosphere (MRA's and MGTOW's) was defending the man cave from feminist attacks. The...

Hi everyone. I'm in a serious long term relationship with an addict. Tonight, right at this very moment, I can safely say I have never felt so much hurt and felt so insignificant in my entire life. And that makes me feel guilty somehow because two weeks ago I once again placed my trust in him...

This is a question that occurred to me recently. It won't be an issue for me for a while yet for me, but long-term, I'd be interested to hear other people's opinions. My question is: Do people think it's okay to 'use' (ie. view, get aroused by, and potentially masturbate to) nude photos of your...

well, we're in 2018 now... @icnvnu and i have come to the conclusion that we absolutely need to change... health mostly... it's time. time for us to grow. i would like for him to be more serious about his recovery and health... one and the same? i would like for me to be more serious about my...

he says all the right things, i can't help but wonder if he says them to just say them or if he really means it. i hope he really means it. i hope he doesn't really want to lose me. hope to be had... right? i've always said, "never expect, always hope", that way you're never truly...

well, we're supposed to... he asked me to sit down with him and go over this site so he could learn it. then i mentioned there were some lists i wanted to make that could help us, he said okay! i really hope he follows through with this. he's got a friend over now doing his silly RC car thing...

Hi everyone, so I had set my goals to no PMO for a month however my husband and I ended up having relations last night and MO ended up happening, I'd like to know if this is considered a relapse? I've seen 2 stances in these forums: 1) Yes it is a relapse because regardless of whether or not it...

hey, everyone. i'm just checking this place out. my boyfriend has an addiction and i am hoping to help him get help or just get help myself on how to work through this. if at all possible. it's getting to the point where it's excessive and he's started to have conversations with women and...

hey, everyone. i'm just checking this place out. my boyfriend has an addiction and i am hoping to help him get help or just get help myself on how to work through this. if at all possible. it's getting to the point where it's excessive and he's started to have conversations with women and...

My name is Austin I'm 20 years of age and have been in a relationship for 2 years. I car avout this girl more than anything but being around other women I lose track of who I am all thoughts, all feeling, and all standards are gone. Sexual thought rapidly fill my head with every girl I see and...

Greetings from the Frontier A query: Is talking to 'them' just as bad? We'll get to that... Intro: I'm 26 and on my first real NoFap journey - 22 days in, no MO and one great big internal confrontation over what "P" has come to mean in my life. Now you're probably wondering, who are 'they?'...

What is the worst part of the PMO for partners? Is it the content of the P? The fact that your partner wants to see it regardless of content? Does the M bother you even if no P is involved? Would it bother you if P was involved but never M? I feel like im in a valley where I can't truly see...

I'm new to NoFap but I honestly just need a place to process what is happening in my relationship and my own head. I figured that, since my partner has been keeping a journal, I could as well. My fiance has been rebooting for the last twenty-or-so days, but porn has been impacting our...

Okay. Here it goes. Im in a relationship of 4.5 yeara now, i love her very much, shes funny, inteligent, attractive and VERY sexual. Because of my addiction (wich i recently discovered is one, only about 25 days ago) ive neglected sexual attention to her (its been about 5 months o once a month...

Here's a question I would like to pose to SOs of recovering PMO addicts or to anyone whose life has been affected by PMO addiction in some way: What strategies have you relied upon to rebuild trust over the long term? My partner is four months into his recovery from PM addiction. I feel the...

Hello, I'm 27. Recently, about a month ago, I lost my virg...... She's 36. Anyways. I did more than my fair share of death grip, and now it makes it difficult to hold stimulation from her vagina. She is very understanding, but is convinced it's an "all in you head" issue I don't think so. In...

Just had a disagreement with my partner and my first thought is to turn to porn. Why is that? Am I trying to punish him? Am I trying to make myself feel better? Thank fuck for nofap. Every time I get an urge, I turn to nofap instead, sometimes hit the panic button, but reading about others'...

Hi guys! My boyfriend have both realised we have a definite porn and masturbation addiction. We'd like to focus on each other as our source of sexual pleasure (we're still going to orgasm but ONLY with each other) as well as undo the shitty way that porn has rewired our brains. I've been...

I'm rebooting; it's been three weeks so far and I'm down for the June free challenge, just signed up. I'm thinking talking to my partner about my porn addiction is an important step in the recovery process and might help me stay committed to the reboot, but wondering how to broach the topic...

In introduction, I should probably state that I don't struggle with PMO. I'm the former fiancée of an addict in recovery, and am starting this journal to document my own thoughts and goals, as well as to stay accountable to my former partner during this time of separation, with the ultimate goal...

My no PMO streak is continuously rising, but is it bad to continuously orgasm with a partner? Would it be harmful to the reboot?

First post here, though I've been here off and on over the years. I appreciate everyone on here who has shared experiences and support-- it has helped me through some dark times. My bf and I were ready to get engaged. A little over a month ago I was pretty confident I wanted to marry this man...

Months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that when he was growing up, he didn't know what masturbation was. He only found out about it when his friends told him how good it felt. So he went home after school and would experiment. When he was 14 he thought he would try on some of his...

How many times I´ve read that we want to quit porn addiction because "my partner deserves"...How many arguments do we provide regarding sex, orgasms and other crazy imaginaries so concerned on"satisfying". Im sorry but if my partner doesnt agree to abstain a little bit in order to get better, if...

My so and I have been together for a little over 5months now. Were perfect for each other in every way, except for one. In the bedroom we have a few issues. He has a giantess/shrinking fetish. When he first told me I thought it was strange but knew there was far stranger things out there and I...

Hi all, I'm on day 8 of my first reboot, and it can be quite challenging already. I'm fighting my brain at every turn. It's been 15 years or so since I started looking at porn, for prolonged periods at that. I have some questions, and am just looking for general advice from those who are...

Hey Guys, Need your suggestion/comments on how to go about telling your would be fiancee that you have been a pm addict for over a decade. I've been primarily been a M addict and a bit of P addict for around 15 yrs. Its time when my parents are looking for a match. But I don't want to start a...

After months of this viscous cycle, it's time to move on. Over a year of dealing with an addict in denial, I now find myself stuck with an addict who refuses to see that there is no repairing the damage at this point. The initial hurt and anger I felt upon discovering his addiction never...

hi. So I'm new to NoFap. My husband is an addict. D-day was 09/25. This wasn't the first traumatic event, but it hit me hard. I didn't function, or leave my bed for 4 entire days. Meanwhile no one seemed concerned at all. That was another red flag. I have amazing instincts and for whatever...

I am reading this forum and I'm suddenly sitting here thinking to myself.. why the hell am I putting up with this shit and then what if he actually tried to get better? One guy said it took a year to feel normal and he's still not really there.. can I as a partner really stick it out through the...

Hi, I'd like to introduce myself to this great community! I've been watching porn and masturbating for a lot longer than I'd care to mention. I want to gain control of my life. I've tried quitting before, but I've never made it passed two weeks. Those two weeks were great and I was able to...