performance anxiety

Hi everyone, I m new on this forum, i'm French, and even if i often use English for work, i can make some mistake as it's not my native language. I am 37 yrs old, single for 1 yr, and stuck with PIED since i was a teenager, because of porn i started to watch when i was 13. As i remember, i've...

So I got my dream girl, she is like the best person in both looks and personality. We started very slow and steady to let the passion grow and develop by building a solid emotional connection and trust first. In the moments of our being together I felt random solid erections when I was hugging...

Welp, I am about 25 days into reboot. Before rebooting, I had PIED and had trouble enjoying and staying hard during penetrative sex. Now, my ED is completely gone and I have no trouble maintaining an erection but I have the opposite problem. I now have really bad PE. It is causing me to also...

Hi, I'm completely new to this site , and I don't know i'm asking my question in a right forum or not. I'm 35 years old which had PMO for 12 years, I used to get erection with watch P and simulate my nipples , every time ! Now I realized I can not get an erection with normal simulation , and...

Hi, today is the 8th day of my new reboot and i suddenly have the idea of my penis is small, so i wanted to measure it and when i tried to measure it i masturbated although i didn't have any sexual image in my head but i consider it as a relapse but i don't intend to watch porn at all. I...

Warning possible triggers !!!!! I made this account just to tell my story and I gotta say continue the fight I’ve never been an overly sexual person maybe because I’m too much of an introvert so I would watch porn because I use to never get out there with females and I’d be watching extreme...

Does anyone know how to deal with flatline depression and performance anxiety? I’m about 4-5 days into reboot and I sometimes worry that I may not go back to normal. I’m trying to remain optimistic because I still get erections, but they’re about 70-80% full. Any advice helps. Thanks I’m advance.

Mods please guide me to the proper section if this is not correct. Apologies in advance. Sorry it is long... Ok guys...I honestly dont know exactly what is wrong with me, is it PIED? Is it Sexual Performance Anxiety? Is it both? Help me figure this out, I'm going crazy on my own. Ok here we...

Hi Here's my situation: I've been watching porn ever since I was 13 or so. Never had problems until my last 2 hook ups. I couldn't get an erection anymore. I had to think of extreme porn to get it somewhat hard. So I've gathered that I have 3 problems: - Performance anxiety - Porn/fetish...

I am losing the battle before I even start. At some moments I’m so ready for sex and others I feel like I’m doomed to fail (and at those times I literally always do). I know all of this is mental. I’m so fucking embarrassed and emasculated by this and the shit I think to myself is so awful. I’m...

Hello Guys, how do i know wether i exactly have PIED or not? I kind of still do not exactly understand this Topic. So with Porn and my Weird Fetishes, obviously i get arroused easily and hard when watching that shit. But since i never had real Sex with a Girl i can´t really tell if i actually...

So I just wanted to post to nofap. I’ve been reading forums on this site for a few years now. Started out similar to many people with vanilla porn/pics. I’ve kissed and messed around with girls outside of actual sex and never thought twice about anything. But when I finally had my first sexual...

Hello community, I'm 26 and only had sex a couple of times and now it feels like I never have. 2 years have passed since my last time. I used to masturbate to porn for the past 8+ years, lately I used to do it 2 times a day. the moment I think of porn, I instantly get hard (rock hard) and I...

I'm a nerdy 27-year old dude who's never had any serious relationships (and afraid to get into one), can recount the few times I had sex as mostly bad memories, and for as long as I can remember I've always had a huge challenge with loving / accepting myself. After failing the 90-day hardmode...

Hey guys, understand this. Covering the following issues: 1. Dealing with performance anxiety. 2. Dealing with fetishes. 3. Dealing with PIED. 4. Feeling depressed. Solution guide step by step: It's all in the head, every single problem exists in your mind. It got there because of certain...

After being a lurker on these forums for the past 6 months, I was hoping to come here with a massive success story to bring hope and motivation to all of you struggling out there but unfortunately I’m not there yet I’ve suffered a terrifying setback and need answers. I’m a 24 year old long term...

I am new here but I have been watching the forums without making an account for about 6 months now. I decided to delete porn from my life only because in my opinion masturbation and orgasm without porn are not dangerous. I have been able to cure my PIED to some extent. I have developed...

I recently started my NoFap journey alongside No Nut November, because I suffered from both porn addiction and PIED. In terms of relapse I'm going pretty strong, but I am having troubles with not watching any porn at all, since I have made it a subconscious habit of whenever I am bored to just...

Hello guys im 19 and a virgin, i look at too many guys writting about the performance anxiety,ive never had a girlfriend but im a really nervous person and i think that when the day will come i could not perform,so i want to ask if some of you the first time they had sex where really nervous but...

Hi everyone my name is Paul and Im 22 years old. I'm a new here and looking for help. I think I have erectile dysfunction. Recently I found a beautiful girl I have always dreamed of, but I cant make love with her. Previously, I was with a girl for 5 years and never had such a problem. Then we...

Hi everyone. I’m new here to the community and I think it’s a great idea to have this place to come and help/seek help etc Hopefully without rambling on this is my story of where I was/where I am now/ where I want to be. Where I was: Since the age of 13/14 I quickly found the internet and...

I’ve been feeling down about this subject for awhile, but the truth is I have performance anxiety. When my gf hugs, kiss, touch, or smells good I get erect, but—it’s like whenever we try to have sex my erection dies. I really want to have a sex life, especially with her, but I don’t know how to...

Hi guys, I’m 24 years old, from Nigeria, I came across Nofap from a lot of googling about the cause of my inability to get or maintain an erection when it comes to sex, i knew from the start that it was caused by anxiety because I get my early morning erection and I also get hard enough to...

So I watched a video on youtube about a guy talking about PIED and rebooting, and he said if you can’t get an erection/climax with no porn and no thoughts than you have pied, if you can you probably have performance anxiety. “a healthy young man should be able to masturbate with out any porn or...

I’m a 21 year old, extremely athletic, lean, healthy eating (vegetarian), handsome, all you can think of, but I have a problem. I recently got a hotel with my girlfriend off campus and we tried to have sex for the very first time and I could not maintain an erection. I get erections regularly...

Hi all, I don't fully understand what's wrong with me - it has been about 7 months that my sex drive is at an all time low and that I've had ED problems. This isn't just during sex but during solo masturbation itself, my penis will reach maybe between 70% and 90% of hardness but won't get...

Hello, I am 32 years old and I am currently dating a girl. Back story, I was in a dying relationship from over 10 years the sex was great but the thing is we grew apart. Towards the end of our relationship I’ll say for the last 2 years of it, We wasn’t having sex often at all. During that time...

Okay quickly I need to provide some background info on my situation. I've been emotionally invested in this girl who lives across the US and I have never met her in person (we webcam and etc). When time came, we finally met in person and we had 5 days and 4 nights to spend with one another...

Hey everyone. I was a silent reader for a couple of weeks. Now i feel like i wanted to hear some of your guys opinions.. I am 28 yo. I quit watching Hardcore Porn something like 2 1/2 years ago because i already learned about the negative effects on my brain. That i would need to watch more...

Where do I start... I've been into NoFap for quite some time now, had a few resets during the streak, but at long last I did it, I started talking to a girl, a few weeks ago. Long story short, we are now together. The problem here is, I can't get hard during foreplay with her. I'm a 21 year old...

Friends, For those who have been successful to any degree in this nofap journey and have had to overcome PIED. Do you have any advice in overcoming performance anxiety the first time up to bat after doing nofap for some time?

I'm 20 and I've been watching porn since I was probably 13 and for the past year been trying to slow down but haven't watched porn in about 2 weeks because I'm trying to stop completely. I've had sex with a lot of females and every time I do it's hard for me to get my dick up sometimes more than...

I'm 20 and I've been watching porn since I was probably 13 and for the past year been trying to slow down but haven't watched porn in about 2 weeks because I'm trying to stop completely. I've had sex with a lot of females and every time I do it's hard for me to get my dick up sometimes more than...

Hey george here, im 12 years into heavy porn exposure and masturbating 3 times a day,2 years addicted into transexual porn i have been with girls before, in my 15 my first experince, amazing ! strong erection and cumed multiple times, second at 18 a relashionship, no foreplay used a condom...

Hello everyone. I am fairly new to the whole new fap thing and I believe it may be just what I needed; I am otherwise really fit and healthy despite these performance issues. I am 22 now and since I was 12, I have been chronically masturbating day in and day out. I believe that this has caused...

hi everyone. I am a 27 year old. I have a gf and we been dating for about a yea and a half. This is my first time going on a website system to help me stop my addiction to porn. I did not think my porn addiction was bad until I got a gf and I realized that I could not climax while having sec...

Hi, Not sure if this post belongs here but it did not seem appropriate any where else. I've been doing nofap on and off for the past couple of months. I realized for myself, going too long without PMO is not good for me. Well perhaps only MO would be better but I do miss something to look at...

Hey Fapstronauts, I am 22 and I have been watching porn for past 5 years and was a regular masturbater. Since the start of 2018 I have stopped PM, I have relapsed 5-6 times. I was a virgin till 2 weeks before. I and my gf planned to have sex. It was her first time also. She is 19(also a...

I don't want to make this too long, but I've changed the way of living on December 10. 2017 when I finally understood the effects that pornography had on my life. Erectile dysfunction, low to 0 excitement in life overall and performance anxiety due to the fear of not being able to get it up. and...

Hey guys, my name is Warren and I am a 20 year old guy who has been suffering from performance anxiety since high school (specifically 11th grade) I've decided to be apart of this community to help better myself and my health. Here's my back story... As I was young, I've always been pretty...

As what my username says, I've finally completed my 30 days challenge. The reason why I started this challenge was that I thought I had PIED. I came to that conclusion because the first time I had sex, I couldn't get it up. for anyone that wants to know more in-depth here's a link to my first...

Hello, I'm a 28yrs old male. Thank you for taking the time of reading my story, I'll try to put it in short words. I'm virgin and tried to lose it twice using escort services, failing due to performance anxiety. During my younger years after a hard heart break with my crush I focused myself to...

As the title states, I suffer from penis/performance anxiety, which continues to fuel my porn viewing habits. For the past year, I have been attempting to stop watching porn, but with no avail. As I become older, I find myself being seen as a viable option for potential partners (sorry for...

Hello Friends, I am 33 yrs and i have not yet been able to perform a normal intercourse. Condition: 1. Have only one testis (Right one atrophied 17 yrs ago due to torsion) 2. Varicocele Grade 3 and Hydrocele on left normal testicle side I don't smoke and drink. I do exercise at-least 4 times a...

I have to be brutally honest with myself. I masturbate with my thoughts more than I watch porn and masturbate..some say that's better. It's all the same in my eyes, I've come to this thread now in the hopes that's I could throw away my immature thoughts..that this is something I could just...

I went for 15 days no pmo and relapsed last night. I went over my girlfriends house today and managed to have sex and O. This was my problem all along and I wasn't able to hold an erection with her until after I relapsed. This isn't meant to be negative towards anyone still going strong but for...

Hello guys, First, let me tell a little about my story... I am a 22 year-old male. Like many of you here, I have been addicted to PMO since I was 12. I have always been a shy guy, mainly when talking to women. Until the age of 17, I didn't even have female friends, only men. So, I went only to...

Hi everyone, I spent the day with my girlfriend and we tried to get intimate and I failed once again. I seem to have a harder time getting erect while standing because when I used to M I would always be lying down. We tried a few different positions and I would get hard and even be able to say...

Hi I've been pmo free for a week now and I've been struggling to get it up with my girlfriend. I'm having a hard time telling if my problem is PIED or just performance anxiety. I can get hard with my girlfriend but cannot stay hard after I get a condom on. I can achieve an erection and hold it...

For the past 4 months I've been dating a new girl, I really love this girl and want the best for her and our relationship. Last month we started getting hot and heavy and she decided she was ready for sex, as was I (I thought). I had an erection when we started cuddling and getting ready and...

For the past 4 months I've been dating a new girl, I really love this girl and want the best for her and our relationship. Last month we started getting hot and heavy and she decided she was ready for sex, as was I (I thought). I had an erection when we started cuddling and getting ready and...

Hi nofap community, I'm a 19 year old virgin who regularly watches porn. For the past couple of years I had begun to take a liking of (what I now think is perverted) hypnotic videos. I always thought that what I did in my spare time would never affect my outside life until recently. I had...

Hey to you all! Iam 26 year old male who"s tried to stop watching porn and jerk off. I have lasted almost a month then relapsed so i diced to join NoFap. I suffering from PE and sometimes ED but it haven't allways been like that. To cure me PE I tried to edge but haven't seen any results off...

Whatsup everyone, I am in the beginning stages of my reboot and am about to turn 20 in college. There are plenty of opportunities for me to meet new girls, but I am afraid that if things go well they are going to expect sex sooner than me and I won't be able to perform. With that being said...

Feeling a bit tense and turned on today, mi worries about ED keep me checking if I get horny about this or that, what happens if I touch myself etc. I feel like I have very unrealistic views about what turns me on. I feel like I don't know my own body and what activates it. Before, my body was...