psychology

I am looking for an AP hopefully in the same time zone and Age range (30-50). I live in Denmark and I am 41 yo. I hope to find an AP for support, check ins, exchanging thoughts and perspectives on the struggles of pmo addiction. I think 1-2 times a week would be ideal for me. I prefer longer...

I was listening to the "Art of Manliness" podcast (corny sounding name but seriously worth checking out) and he recently had a psychologist on who works with men who suffer from "enmeshment" with their mothers. Enmeshment means you put your mother's needs over your own needs, can't set...

These are just my thoughts, research and experiences as to why I/we use Pornogragry. The purpose for this is to better understand the problem so that we can better fix the problem.

I'm making the decision of doing my 90 days reboot. 3 days already NoFap, but scared of what's about to come and how I'm going to walk this path. I'm male, 48 yo. Starting with erotic/porn magazines at about 12 years old, on M for years, often with no porn involved. And then growing my...

Hello brothers, I am asking my question in the category „success stories“ on purpose. Has anyone of you, who seriously is free from PMO now and even more important free of a trauma induced submission fetish some practical tips how I can connect with my unconcious and how to heal my broken...

I get this FOMO-type feeling whenever I try to mentally prep myself for a long stretch of abstinence. Something I've wanted for a decade or two is to be 90 days clean. My biggest achievements have been periods no longer than about 3-4 weeks and I've only had a dozen or so of those since I...

James Clear wrote a great book named Atomic Habits, which explains the "Habit Loop" and how to get out of it. To summarize, the four steps to ending a habit are: 1. Eliminate the cue and your habit will never start. 2. Reduce the craving and you won't experience enough motivation to act. 3...

Whenever I go to view the newest posts here, I find myself reading the first posts of newbies. After a while they seem to all sound the same: Argh, I’ve been struggling with PMO addiction for 7 years. My girlfriend cried when I couldn’t get it up, and now I’m depressed all the time and anxious...

I just read a 1966 paper by S. Rachman called "Sexual Fetishism: An Experimental Analogue", and thought I would share a brief summary for those who are interested. The experiment was to see if men without a shoe fetish could be conditioned to become aroused by shoes. The criteria for...

I am in my early 30s and I have been addicted to masturbation from early teenage. I am not one of the people who got pulled into this due to access to high speed internet. Infact, I am not addicted to porn at the moment or never have been in the last 5 years but still have trouble in other forms...

NoFap Remastered – A Guide on How to Quit Porn and What to do After Foreword I joined the NoFap forum recently but had heard about that movement long ago. This community is a really great thing for many people. Nevertheless, very fast, I noticed reappearing patterns of posts in...

Just found this today and it's really the best I've seen! Doing these breathing exercises and following the advice would help. Haven't meditated in several months so this reminded me to get back on it. Relapsed yesterday and put filters on all browsers today.

Greetings, Are there any other Jordan Peterson fans here on NF? I adore his work and have been following him for several years. Perhaps an active discussion about self-discovery can be held here. Please forgive me if this question has been asked already in these forums.

Progressing into no PMO, many emotions & unattended thoughts hindered by years of PMO supression (running to PMO as an escape) slowly emerged one by one, giving me sense of realization on things, almost like I started noticing the enemies around me. Agreeing to this point, a video I watched...

Good day! I wrote a free eBook "Simple Truths of Life" (by Evgeny Meshkov. The .pdf of the book i attached to this post) about everything that I have experienced and learned in my life - masturbation included. The acquired knowledge includes, but is not limited to, topics such as the meaning...

Why are some doctors keep telling that masturbation does not create depression, anxiety, addiction? Like this guy here: Can masturbation cause depression? Can masturbation cause anxiety? Masturbation & mental disorders? search this title in youtube you will see the indian doctor. Is this guy a...

After abstaining from watching porn or even masturbating, I noticed a few physical and psychological effects. I'd appreciate if you listed what you noticed and we could peer review this. Physical: 1. I got 2 wet dreams in a 3 weeks period. 2. I don't get hard as often as I did before. 3. I am...

I believe it was Freud who said that will power, or the ego, is a finite resource. Meaning that once will power has been exhausted, it's extremely hard to fight the primal inner desires (ID). Those desires being virtually anything which brings pleasure, of course the most powerful of them...

Hey Guys, At the moment i'm trying to process Gary Wilson's Book "Your Brain on Porn". On page 23 he mentions the following: A 2012 study found that when participants tried to abstain from porn use for three weeks, they reported higher levels of relationship commitment. The study, to which he...

Hi all! Don't know even from where I should start. Okey. Small introduction: 25 years old, tried to get rid of PMO, had some success but still working on it. Recently I found out that I'm quite porn addictive person and it DOES influence my life. I even suspect that it has been breaking me...

After reading the reasons of relapses of fapstronauts and unfortunatelly after long streaks people still complain of some symptoms and conclude that nofap is not that usefull because they are facing the same problems even after quitting P , so one of the main reasons of those relapses is the...

So I was reading this book the other day on Habits, and one sentence that made an impression as soon as I read it was : "You cannot extinguish a bad habit; you can only change it" In other words, the author's point was that there's a cue-routine-reward factor for every habit we ever pick up...

Hello Fapstronauts, What do I say as an introduction to the community? Maybe the first thing is that it’s been a long time since I participated in an online community. Yes, I have social media, but I haven’t participated in an online forum since the early days of the Internet (I’m a bit older...

So, for the more academically inclined among us... I've just found this literature review on the current state of play (published this year, so fairly up to date.) I don't think it's particularly well written (the word "nowadays" should never appear in an academic article...) but it does give...

Hello all, I wanna share with my story. I was born witj high sex drive from the beginning. I had sexual thoughts from the age of 7 (maybe even earlier) and attaigned puberty at the age of 12. I suffer from hypersexuality... I also wanna point out that i am still a virgin... I wanna know...what...

Im looking for someone educated on the subject of fetishes and how they come about. Also the psychology behind it. Looking for a pm discussion on the matter to help me better understand it for my own personal reasons. Any help is greatly appreciated.

Hey guys! I would really like some help with a couple of topics. I've been doing some reading into psychology lately and I learned some pretty interesting things about myself. I've been aware of some of the emotions that I've been struggling with all of these years: envy,frustration, futility...

THE PORN GODDESS (Of course I wanted to make her very curvy and sexy, but I didn't want to unnecessarily trigger anybody. ;) ) Dear Reader This is an attempt to describe our affliction as clear as I can on a psychological level. I hope that it will help some of you to heal. I am not a...

Disclaimer: My streak refers to no masturbation to porn. But I did look at porn during my streak. Never to use as fuel for my fantasy or to tease myself or anything like that. I'll explain in detail why I did it. I understand if you dismiss my input for not being a pure no porn streaker. However...

Boys and Girls, When you come to a place where you have total control over your urges during the day, but EXACTLY ONE HOUR AFTER GOING TO SLEEP you wake up in a fever and PMO. This is my BIGGEST problem, with PMO. I haven't seen anything on it specifically, It could have something to do with...

This is from an APP I just downloaded, "Change your thinking, change your life", and I'm sure you guys will like it and find it useful too. In case you download it, Chapter 1 is longer than this, so don't skip to chapter 2. Hope you like it as much as I did, keep going strong. 1 Chapter...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201509/the-opposite-addiction-is-connection?fbclid=IwAR0wzd7W-gV5NR964g3soqK0-b6NymnqLTtAA9hoMDn4SU86dIkl7sU-7ak There seems to be a lot of tips for handling a no PMO challenge, avoiding a relapse and getting over porn...

I considered porn as a toy not as poison. What would happen if I just play with it for a while? yet this game shall come to the end! Usually I start watching porn when I have huge stress about my studies at college, responsibility to be obedient son, future worries and past mistakes. One year...

Whilst in a meditative process of scanning my mental and emotional environments with the intent to purge, detoxify and wash my spirit of all the chaotic, conflict-producing energy, I discovered quite abruptly in a spontaneous slap-in-the-face-with-a-wet-kipper type of insight that watching...

i am an infp-t, whats yours? https://www.16personalities.com/ take the test here, and try to answer as honest and accurately as possible. If anyone does not understand the test than i will explain, there are 16 personalities that make up the human race, when you are born you are stuck with one...

No matter the rationalisations used, the unavoidable conclusion is drawn that dating apps in all their variety and variation are crutches to one degree or another. Tinder, Bumble, POF… they all are designed purposely to hook us in, keep us coming back and turn wondrous human beings into...

I am a deep thinker and guy with a big heart but unfortunately deeply in porn and fapping. I started my own journal here - you can access it on the left side under my nickname. I wanted to have this "more visible" thread as well where I would love to share some thoughts which I have shared...

Given that part of the aim of NoFap is to combat toxic attitudes to intimacy, I wanted to recommend a book to you all that has been incredibly significant in altering the way I view romantic relationships for the better. "We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love" - Robert A. Johnson...

So I'm having intrusive thoughts that have arousal attached to them, for reasons that are beyond the scope of the this post. My first question is this: in my abstinence, sexual coloring seems to be accumulating on the objects of my paraphilia *much faster* than my old, conventional preferences...

I need some help in learning about the psychology of sexual fetishes. From what I have read and studied it would seem that sexual fetishes are not natural. They do not occur at birth. To my knowledge they are primarily the result of early childhood sexual imprinting due to various circumstances...

I read a lot about addiction. Porn addiction is inherent of the new era of technology. One of the most common fetishes is feet fetish. But what are it's foundations ? Someone named Sigmund Freud told me that feet fetish is generated because someone's foot looks like a penis, but is it realy the...

Okay ladies and gentlemen... That's my story... https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/femdom-addiction-for-7-years-please-help.94640/ Yes, it was my story when i was helpless and when i was so weak to do anything to help myself. But then i discover this wonderful forum which give me...

This is going to be a long one because I am explaining my psychology regarding nofap in detail. Before I start, let me make it clear that I totally support the NoFap cause and have been doing so for the past 1 year. I do understand that excessive masturbation and porn causes a plethora of...

So last year, actually a year ago yesterday, I started a streak that would go on to last 287 days, my longest ever by 250+ days. At first, it helped everything in a huge way. That all changed around the thirty day mark when I started to notice it was becoming harder and harder to focus on...

Well, I have heard in many places that the expectations of men from women are more straightforward than that of women from men. I am thinking on what I expect but I can not look into the hearts of others. And I think any relationship be as mundane as employer-employee or the warm friendship or...

Thinking of committing to Psychology full on when I go back to school and just want some advice if there are any psych majors here or people with advice or experience with it. Can I make a career out of it ? I feel like I enjoy doing work that helps me grow as a person and has a purpose so I...

Hi all. Have you ever wondered: how come I'm struggling with this when I see so-and-so, who is living life and not worrying about anything? I've come to think about it. This is all our own fault. There is deeper level of truth about taking responsibility and drop the excuses. That level...

For all the normal people here, do you know that these flat earth people are simply not gonna change their minds? There is a theory that tries to explain what is going on in the brains of these people, I accept this theory because it's very valid. It's a phenomenon called "outsider physicist"...

Anybody familiar with Patrice O' Neal?

Hey everybody! Being that I am at odds with my masturbatory skills, I've discovered different images/items/observations that make me think about want to use porn. Being that we are addicts, I noticed a number of people using the word "trigger" to reference their thoughts on this. I find this...

I made a post on a thread referencing this but realised it would take the thread of topic so I stopped further discussions on it. My question is why do you post what you post? What are you thinking before you post? Here's a quote from Jordan Harbinger: No matter how hard we try, we can’t...

I've stopped using Quora recently because of sooo many sex stories that floods my news feed. I stopped following topics such as Everyday Life, Psychology, Stories, etc. but they still keep coming from other "similar" topics. There was this question and answer about a business theory when all...

According to this Freudian model of the psyche, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego. SO YOU SEE IT IS A WAR BETWEEN...

B.F. Skinner came up with theories on operant conditioning and behavioralism. These concepts have a direct application to pornography addiction. Most people who have taken a psychology course in high school or college have heard of classical conditioning with Pavlov's dogs. The concept of...

Have you ever experienced that? looks like a programmed cycle of relapse in my mind

I saw my psychiatrist today. He, like many in the field, do not see the real dangers of today's online pornography, they openly admit their "non-traditional values" guide their response - that [PMO] is okay. I almost feel like I'm teaching them about rebooting. Nevertheless, he did comment in...

Sometimes I feel like I lose sight of why I've started nofap. But I always find a way to remind myself of why I started, and what my goals are. That's why I'm a part of this community. I wanted to share with you all a clip of one of my favorite authors, Jordan Peterson-- a very skillful...

Hello, I want to share this with you all. I'm currently having a class in U that's something like SE (sexual education). The teachers are feminist and all the classes they tell us how men and women are the same (of course, I think we should have same rights and opportunities), that the...

Tonight i joined NoFap. I had heard about it in the past, now im going to start this journey. Last september 1-nov 16 i abstained from porn. I started to get a lot more confident and i guess manly feeling haha. But i relapsed and my anxiety in school and around girls came back. I want to be able...

Hi Everyone from NoFap, I'm writing this because I needed somewhere to write all of the things that I have been going through over the past few months, if not years and perhaps the majority of my life. I have looked into this phenomenon generally categorized under sex addiction. Today, I...