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I'm not fapping for a little while now thus, noticing some withdrawal symptoms, one of which is sexual frustration which is turning into a REAL frustration and making me bitter, agitated and angry all the time. I was attending a wedding (of my close family member), there I was helping others...

I’m someone who doesn’t smoke weed for multiple reasons. I’ve had problems with it for a short while and my family has had family member that had problems with drugs. My girlfriend, on the other hand, used weed. This has been a problem in our relationship since we started dating. She stopped...

Hello all, I'm an addict in recovery and engaged to be married. I have been free from porn for 3+ years thanks to NoFap. There has been improvement in my masturbation habits as well - less frequent and less compulsive. I have been working with a very supportive AP and we have determined that I...

Tomorrow I a going to meet my gf after like 3-4 months. So we would be having our private time together. So I wanted to know would if it is considered as a relapse and will slow down my progress in this journey or is it fine to be intimate with my gf and see how it goes for me. I don't think I...

Imagine a scenario, You came out of PMO addiction and got productive and even attending school while working full time. You met a traditional woman who is feminine and also hard working. You start to notice that she is one of those woman you could start a family with and walk in love. After...

Hi everyone, I am not even sure where I should start from, so I guess I'll just start from the very beginning and let my thoughts guide my fingers over the keyboard (WARNING: is going to be a long post, maybe not even a cool one, but I really need to do this). To give you a broad idea of how...

So I got my dream girl, she is like the best person in both looks and personality. We started very slow and steady to let the passion grow and develop by building a solid emotional connection and trust first. In the moments of our being together I felt random solid erections when I was hugging...

The Huge Battle in response to "" i have few questions as means of exploring and building a better alternatives in the lifestyles, so here on the forum those who are around long enough are quite aware of personal development on the individualistic level, then lets say - what advice would you...

Hey guys, girls and partners of nofappers I have some questions about how to bridge the gap between openness and honesty, and hiding tendencies from your partner. I have been battling back and fourth within myself about telling my girlfriend of a year and a half about when I’m not doing so...

I have everything in life from the top, a good family, fortune and respect in society but deep down I am completely lonely, I have no good friends whom I can really call upon, no girlfriend even I haven't dated anyone in my entire life. This fact just drives me crazy that I am wreck from inside...

I want to discuss the issue of uptight women. I see this problem a lot in these journals and I don't find this topic discussed openly, so here we go. It's important for a recovering porn addicted man to choose wisely the woman he will be with. Because what then, if you choose someone who can't...

Hey, I am a (21 M) who has been PMO since 11. Although I have had plenty of sexual encounters throughout my teens, with only problems being lack of satisfaction in the bedroom, after COVID hit I reverted to PA which tbh has spiralled out of control. Ever since then I have noticed slight ED and...

I have been dealing with a porn addiction for the last 13 years. From early exposure to porn, being molested by an older “friend”, and sexting girls all though middle school and high school, it has been a very difficult time. Although I have been dealing with my PMO addiction for a very long...

I had been on Singleflirt for about two years, but I had fewer than a hundred matches because I’m so picky. I saw Marianna’s profile and what really stood out to me was the photo that showed his huuuge…library! I’m a bookworm, so seeing that he had even more books than I did was what really made...

Only answer the poll question if you have experience with your partner. Is it wise to have sex with your significant other during a reboot, for example after 2 weeks? If so, how does the partner of the addict experience it? And how does the partner of the addicted partner experience it?

My boyfriend (32) has a pornography addiction (He was diagnosed with ADHD combined type last year). He disclosed this to me before we started our relationship and promised to quit. However, 1.5 years later, he has broken this promise several times despite assuring me that he would try to...

I want to pursue ms in usa and i though my dating life would be ruined if all the girls (in the usa stressing very much about looks, chad and all) are like what we see on the internet. Then how will i survive with these girls and i even wonder will i get any . All the girls in us mainly are very...

Hi Community, I am a 31 years old guy who is not new to this space, like many of us. And just as many of us, I underestimated how deeply an addiction can take root in your body and your mind. In fact, I had already joined this priceless forum a few years ago, when the feeling of having hit...

Hey guys, I'm beginning a PMO reboot for 90 days, which includes not having sex with my girlfriend. She's aware of my porn addiction, she is also suffering a lot from it which is one of the reasons why I'm trying to do this. However other than the fact that every human being simply has...

Hello everyone, My Name is Arthur, I'm 23 Years Old. I'm french. Today I'm writing a quick overview of who I am and the challenges I'm facing with porn and beyond. Trust me, I'm not proud of anything I'm sharing in this post, but I'm trying to see this as a new start but more so to connect...

Hey folks, Not going to write a massive story here but instead I want to give you some brief points about my sexual preferences with a little background. Started watching porn young (7 or 8) Very quickly became obssesed with pornographic images and videos Watched straight, lesbian and gay porn...

So one of the main problems in me and my significant others relationship is that she isn’t a really intimate person, but I am. I’m more talking in the sense of cuddling. It seems that most of the time that I’m the one that’s initiating it. Am I demanding to much by asking constantly? Only reason...

Yesterday I went on a date that I was looking forward to. This girl from work nearly begged to go on a date with me the week before thru text. We go out to eat then drive up to a spot for a for a few hours. After awhile the constant talking starting to bother me due to me having a headache and I...

I have learned in these two years of dating: - Look beyond lust, love, beauty and emotions so you can see a woman for what she does and who she is because if you don’t you will experience a bit of hell living on earth. - Let go, no matter how much you have invested in a girl, if you love her...

hello, some background before i ask the question : since the beginning of the year, i have been actively trying to get into relationships, however in april/may i suffered very badly from love. a girl had me in her pocket, but make no mistake, i was her puppet. i could be happy to recieve a...

Hello guys I’ve been on a PMO streak for almost a month now. I have been experiencing all the benefits of NoFap and avoiding pmo. However, lately I have been getting intense urges and struggling to manage them. I tend to go running which helps temporarily, but it is still lingering. I am...

It's a closing circle. I finally reached 90 days of no PMO just when you decided to leave... So, this is my story. I came to this forum many times in the past years. In late 2019 I was searching for an AP group of gay people. In this group, I met K. K. has become my AP partner. We used to chat...

Hey all. I've decided this month will be the month I do a reboot. Between an over-reliance of porn, medication, and major anxiety/depression disorders it's basically impossible for me to climax by penetration. While I know the latter two have an impact on inorgasmia it doesn't excuse the fact...

As the title suggests (a reference to Link Park's Given Up, with no disrespect towards those who use it suicide coping mechanism), I think I am done with dating for good. I really hope someone who reads this can give me advice instead of just moving along with their day after seeing it. Please...

I need advice because I do not know what to do. My boyfriend has an issue with edging (http://spaa-recovery.org/wp-content/uploads/What-is-Edging.pdf) and we both want to work towards sobriety. A few days ago he requested some videos/photos of me and I happily obliged, but he has told me that he...

My boyfriend wants to stop both masturbation alone and together (the two of us) and I completely support him. The thing is we don't know where to begin because it only leaves us with few options 1) We continue what we are currently doing and remain miserable. Right now, we have dry sex until he...

Hey guys, so ive been dating this guy for like a month and a half and he's my first bf. We've already kissed and made out, and we've been doing some sexual stuff to, not actual sex though. The thing is i'll do sexual stuff to him, but he wont do anything to me when I ask. I feel frustrated cause...

I believe that the idea of trying to find a relationship/ partner support to cure porn addiction flawed and futile approach. The addict's brain sees no difference between pixels and real women! Once you see a porn stuff, you feel the dopamine hit and when you decide to act on it, your...

Hello I am an 18 year old male who is struggling to get rid of my fetish for women's feet. I have had this fetish since I was a little boy and this fetish continued throughout my teenage years. I thought this fetish was fine except after years of watching pornography this fetish has gotten out...

Okay I feel like I have posted a lot of hot takes in the forums lately (swear I'll stop LOL), but I had to say this one somewhere. ~~ In the forums (and society to be honest) its so frequent to see people clumping women into one monolith, or perhaps even a few arbitrary categories to describe...

Is it possible to have a girlfriend without having sex with her? Im seeing various posts of people in relationships while doing nofap but am wondering how is this a thing? Is it not the sex that differentiates a boyfriend girlfriend dynamic from a male female friendship?

Hello, I'm new to NoFap but have come here out of finally facing my reality. I have been using P as a MO aide for awhile now, for many years in fact. Until now, I have always coped fine with it, I have been able to maintain erections while with partners, I just suffered with DE which wasn't a...

Here's the thing: My wife's not okay at all with me doing PMO, I understand her reasons, but I'm hooked since I was young and I really want to quit PMO now. I want the best kind of reboot, which I've come to realize, that for me is the hard mode (No porn, no masturbation, no sex for 90...

I've been dating a girl for quite a while now and she's really good and I love her a lot but we can't really meet in person and go on dates or other romantic enjoyments as couples...instead we're stuck in this online platform waiting to be together. And really I just mostly talk and flirt and...

Hello everyone, A few nights ago my fiancé found on my phone that a I had a secret separate Instagram account that the only thing it was dedicated to was following hot girls to look at and jerk off to (hundreds of liked photos, and I had sent videos/pictures from my personal account and then...

So, the strangest thing happened about three weeks ago. A girl who gave me her number six years ago randomly texted me. I remember that we stopped talking years ago bc I thought that she was too good for me. I was a good-looking dude with the confidence of a basement-dweller, and I thought that...

Hi, I have had modest success with NoFap till March 30, 2020. I was sober for 178 days, I was single but physically, mentally and intellectually fully engaged. After the pandemic hit I was not able to bring myself to practice with same vigor and was not able to stay sober for more than 7 days...

I am a 15 year old boy struggling a lot recently with HOCD. I know im young and still in puberty and probably being overdramatic. I have been watching porn since i was about 11 and have always identified as straight and always liked girls (a lot). I am currently in a relationship with a girl I...

So I've been feeling emotionally distant from my boyfriend recently. Btw I'm gay, not sure if that will affect the type of responses I get, but I welcome everyone. We've been dating for a month. For context, he and I went on two really awesome dates before quarantine while we were both on spring...

So after I was able to O for the first time with my girlfriend I thoughT i was cured! But I wasn't quite there yet. I was able to O during sex about evert 3rd time we did it. but as time continued and I was religiously refraining from any form of masterbation and porn It happened more...

Hello everyone, I'm just putting it out there in hope to find some clarity, if not some answers. My boyfriend's porn addiction is a struggle for both of us. He's one of the ones who recognized long ago that he has a problem and he wants to solve it. He wants to quit, for good, but so far, there...

Hey guys, Just think that you may have watched porn for years and years and suppose your wife will be clean from all this dirty things, and she comes to know that you are no longer working as a normal man because you may have many problems which might stop you from satisfying your wife. Please...

Hello, There's a trend in my relationships with women that kinda annoys me and I wanted to talk about it here. I'm not necessarily asking for advice, as my situation has a lot to do with my life context and I accepted the fact that not much will change for the next 1-2 years and best route for...

I am a university student and, there are 25 girls in my batch, I have fallen in love with one of them. She is a foreign student. She never talked to me, I tried many times to start a conversation with her but she is a very shy type of girl. She only talks to the exact matters. But I want to make...

Greetings to everyone of you, I have been here since two months ago and I have read a lot of posts from both male and female pornography addicts. What I found to be shocking is how many addicts reported that their addiction has shaped their sexuality in a way they do no longer recognize...

I am 28 years old and single for the last two years. I’m tired of the attitude of American women and now I want to have a relationship with a foreign girl. Next month, I’m going to Saudi Arabia on a business trip. I have heard that Arabian girls are very sexy and beautiful and I am looking for a...

Hey, So I have been in a committed relationship with a woman I met of my dreams. She is everything to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I gave up everything porn and anything that didn’t have to do with her in regards to flings and other side business and have only...

Hello, So, I’m a 21 year old guy who recently got their first girlfriend (about 3 months ago) up until this point I had never had an sexual interaction with anyone. I always turned to P when I was horny and found that I would always end up watching exhibitionist/risky P until I finally decided...

Hey there! That’s my first post ever. I’m into NoFap for about more than a year, had a few relapses throughout and currently I am on day 60, for the first time ever. I also had wet dreams again( which I didn’t had since I was 12 I guess) I realized some benefits of NoFap, I work out regularly...

I am so depressed today, I am so sorry for what I did, I wish I could take back the last 18 months of destruction and replace it with all the love and care I do have for my partner. I was so blinded by the addiction that I pushed the 1 person so far that I feel like he has given up on me. I...

My partner and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now (my story is available if you wish to read it) and I am now completely open and honest about my porn addiction and the discovery or my ED (PIED). We are now in the early stages where he is still very hurt by the fact I have taken so...

So I study at a university and I always hear these guys talking about what a cure girl they met and went home with etc. And here I stand .. 22 year old guy that is still a virgin. I know that I am pretty shy and I don't have the confidence to talk to girl. I am well aware of that. The problem is...

hi. i’ve had this beautiful girlfriend for about 6 months now who has been the best to me everyday. i love her so much and if i were to ever lose her i’d lose a part of myself. however, lately i’ve been getting these sudden angry, aggravated feelings with her. it doesn’t stem from anything in...

i really need your input here guys and gals! I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years with a girl I believe I truly love. The issue is that I’m just not sexually attracted to her anymore for the most part. Sometimes i don’t want to even kiss her. She’s a very attractive girl but I think my...

Hi my wife and I are trying for our 2nd baby, and with my historical ED issues (linked to PMO), it's frustrating. My wife and I don't have a good sex life; never have for 2 reasons: (1) my ED from PMO before we started dating; and (2) we were friends for years before we became intimate, and from...

Hello, We're going to attempt a trial separation. Background...sorry if bores you. The love of my life has been struggling with P addiction since his teen years. In and out of recovery for 2 1/2 years - mostly out. His initial reboot, 18 months ago lasted 120 days. This May he started a...

I'm 50 days in and it's been a hard journey. I've been able to form this beautiful relationship through the help of God. Everything is going well and we tell each other how much we love each other. This has helped rise my will power and now I'm doing and trying new things that I never have...

As I come to know that on Nofap when you get urge them it's ok to do sex with real women. Now I am confused that there is one girl who is coming close to me. I am getting these urges to fuck her. But I don't want to mix it with love as I am not sure of getting in relationship with her. And if do...

Hi, I’m kind of new here. I’m 15, a guy, and I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for about 6 months now, one of my longest and most serious relationships. Now before I go into the problem, I just want to note that my significant other has had serious issues with suicide/depression in the...

Hey Folks, Intro This is my first post on the NoFap forums. I've been following this forum and the no PMO movement since at least November 2018. I started to drastically reduce my porn consumption in January 2019. I stopped it completely, with no porn, no edging, no "just watching" in April...

Long story short: So basically i have been watching porn on and off my whole life. Not harmful amounts (or at least i dont think) but I would occasionally flick over and do the "business". I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years and now things are beginning to get rough...

I’ve been feeling down about this subject for awhile, but the truth is I have performance anxiety. When my gf hugs, kiss, touch, or smells good I get erect, but—it’s like whenever we try to have sex my erection dies. I really want to have a sex life, especially with her, but I don’t know how to...

Hello my brothers and handful of sisters. I have a question. Since life has been better than ever (today is day 20 of NoFap) I want to commit myself to either go for 180 days of NoFap, or simply start having conversations with women (I already do at work) but this time with the intention of...

Hi everyone, I just wanted to take a few things of my chest. I started PMOing when i was 14-15yo, it first started on the TV, since the internet was at the time, and it seemed harmless at the time. It went on for a few years, i lost my virginity at age 18 to a girl that we can call "S", we...

The title pretty much says it. I’m 22, in a serious relationship since 4 years and love her very much. But I’ve been watching porn since I was 12. Although I love her so much, I struggle with what I feel is a high sex drive compared to her. I’ve been strong and focused but when I feel undesired...

Hey fam, Of couse, each and everone of us is different. Yes, the majority of us is sexual in some form or another. Some like it more frequent, some do not. And yet, with a lot of couples, there is still a misconception of what the partner wants and needs when it comes to enjoying themselves...