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It’s taken far too long for me to bite the bullet and finally commit to this. I’ve been using porn effectively all my life, at least once a day. To be honest, I never really thought much of it as it seemed to regulate itself, but maybe I’ve just gotten so desensitised to it I can barely keep...

I know there are many things to be upset about and everyone’s experience is different. So I used my experience. My wife doesn’t want to clarify any of this. She says she doesn’t care about some of these but I don’t think she’s really being honest.

The song is Go Ahead by Alicia Keys. Here are the lyrics: [Intro] Oh, oh, oh, oh Oh, oh, oh, oh Oh, oh, oh, oh Oh, oh, oh, oh [Verse 1] Broken promises My heart you stole, lies you told Got the best of me Digging in my heart of gold (Hey) Used to look at you and see the possibilities (Yeah) I...

Hello everyone, it was suggested to me to post my story in this forum as a means to get some advice / support for what I’m going through. So my story is this: I found out a few days ago that my boyfriend has been struggling with a porn addiction for the last few years / the majority of our...

I'm sorry this post is a bit long but if you'd bear with me I would really really appreciate your input. I'm 27, BF is 31, we have been together for 3 years and recently moved in together. My BF has been porn and masturbation free for over a year, with no relapses (though the road there was...

Hi everyone I need advice! Note: I am so sorry for writing so much but please take a look and give advice it would mean the world :). My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are each other's best friend and to be honest.. We considerably have the "perfect relationship"...

Hi everyone I need advice! Note: I am so sorry for writing so much but please take a look and give advice it would mean the world :). My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are each other's best friend and to be honest.. We considerably have the "perfect relationship"...

I have been addicted to porn and masterbating for more than half of my life, probably about 19 years. My fiance has a general knowledge that I masterbate but other than that, does not have any idea how far my addiction has gotten. I am attending SAA meetings and working with a therapist and...

I have been in a new relationship for around 3 months now after talking for 4/5 months, we are working really well, we have really good trust & we have been consistently communicating about any issues. Anyway, we met in a hotel a couple of months ago, this is the moment that made me come here...

The name's Christina. Age 35. Husband's age is 36. I've been together with my husband for 12years. Married for 3. Last time we had sex was on our wedding night... When we first started dating sex happened everytime we saw each other and then slowly went from that to once a week, to less and...

so I’m 23 and my boyfriend is almost 24. We’ve been together for almost a year and I initially thought he was amazing but he started criticizing my appearance even though I’m fairly attractive, comparing my body to other women he’s slept with/ seen even though he knows I have an eating disorder...

Hi, Completely new to this forum, and glad it exists. Before last night I was completely unaware of the extent to which pornography can affect sexual health and break relationships. I’m in desperate need of some serious advice and encouragement from those of you who are further down the road of...

The title may be a bit confusing, so let me explain. I'm a bit embarrassed about this, and I realize I've written a lot but feel as though the details are important. Thanks for taking the time :) We've been dating for about 2.5 years now. We're young, in our twenties, and both have a pretty...

The truth is harsh but would you rather have it sugar coated or take it as it is? The reason I'm writing this thread is because I've noticed a lot of guys who trying to recover and reboot in a relationship have been a little selfish. Please read the rest of the post before attacking me. :D A...

Does it take a certain kind of woman to stick with a PA? Why do some people leave and some stay? Is it that SO who stay are more patient and forgiving? If a SO is religious is she more likely to leave? Are women in their 20's more likely to stay? Or do SO who stay have nothing in common with...

I think it's understandable if a SO cheats on their PA partner and PA shouldn't think they're entitled to faithfulness from their SO when they've been unfaithful by looking at porn. Having said this I think forgiveness is better than revenge but taking revenge is understandable. So if you're a...

Does having your SO on here cause extra tension in your relationship? Has something been said on here that leads to a fight irl? For those who's SO isn't on this thread if they joined this forum would you leave? If I was in a relationship and my SO joined this forum I think I'd leave and join...

I’m writing this in the hopes it helps people who are in relationships. I won’t go into detail of what happened when I discovered my SO was a PA because it was extremely traumatic. We postponed our wedding day until I could determine if recovery was even possible. I want to encourage those who...

Hello everyone, I joined the site almost a month ago but haven't been very active in that time July was a decent month for me but I lapsed yesterday - thankfully, I'm not being to harsh with myself over it because this is the best I've ever done I'm looking to meet others to learn from for...

Hi! My only goal is to be able to cum during intercourse with my SO without thinking of porn. Therefore I decide to no longer O to P. But what does P all include? If I masterbate to texts is that the same? Or how about memories of my SO?

I am really new to everything and would appreciate any feedback on my situation. I met this guy online who I quickly began to like. We dated for about 5 months and recently split up because he says he doesn't think that this is a good time to be in a relationship. During the relationship we...

We've been recovering for over 250 days now. A lot of therapy and communication has happened. I feel I have a pretty good grasp now on the various traumas I've caused my wife. Eminent boundaries were identified and drawn. I respect those and understand for her and my safety why they are in...

Day 45 of 60 towards 90 towards 120 we're in this together making it happen Elke Bill of Rights: 1. I have the right to a husband who honors his covenants and commitments. 2. I have the right to a marriage with complete honesty, openness and transparency. 3. I have the right to a home that is...

So... I’m starting this journal about 2 months in to nofap with my boyfriend. So much has happened in the past 6 years of us being together. I can only write that slowly when memories come to the surface to bother me again. I’m only 22. 6 years with my love. And he’s still unsure about me...

I’m reposting what I’ve posted on another thread because, honestly, it’s just too painful to lay it all out there again. I’m sobbing just writing this because I’m so scared my boyfriend is damaged beyond repair. I have no problem with queer lifestyle, as I’m bisexual myself, I’m just so worried...

I am a 22yo M new to NoFap community but not it's knowledge. I had been developing my meditation techniques to get rid of harmful habits in my life and was doing well. I was focusing on what matters like school, not masturbating constantly, spending quality time with my SO and having a healthy...

Hey all, new member here, but definitely not so new to this devastating life. My name is Jen, married for almost 12 years with 2 kids and this is my [long] story, might sound like I'm rambling (because I kind of am as I am remembering it all), so sorry in advance: Like the usual story begins...

How seriously do you view the idea of a relationship? Basically, how much does one consider marriage, for example, in entering into a relationship? To what extent? I'm basically at the point where I want to get into a relationship with this girl, but she has the view that a relationship is...

I’m thinking of approaching my husband for talks on his PA/PIED via writing to him. It seems like a less pressured and awkward way. I’m trying to create safety for us so it’s easier for us to be forthcoming. What do think about the following? Would you feel safe being approached this way...

Ok so personally, porn has made me change my views on the physical features i would want in a girl... OR AT LEAST I THINK THAT. I mean im sure everyone wants someone who looks great and evrrything but i want to ask the ones who have been successful with their reboot and are dating or getting...

I believe in out of sight out of mind approach to NoFap. It means no resistance, but utter ignorance. The amount of success you get with this approach depends to extent of solid block of useless triggers. Useless triggers is defined as sexual content of any sort that doesn’t contribute to you...

I’m not a very good SO to my PA fiance. He’s trying. He’s making/made huge changes. It’s been somewhere around 75 days since D-day and since he’s been PM-free. I still find it so hard not to be resentful— blaming him for how I’ve allowed myself to deteriorate in self-confidence and spirit. I...

My boyfriend of two and a half years now has been addicted to porn since I can remember. He used to watch it three to four times a day for an hour or so each time. Since then I had a serious talk with him and we agreed that he would only watch it once a day to limit his porn usage. A month ago...

Well this is my first post. I've stalked the forum as an s.o. to try and learn and understand porn addiction as much as I could. Literally it's a world I never knew existed in the sense that I never really believed it was truly an addiction or something someone, i.e. my bf couldn't stop if he...

Hi, I'm very new here. I have been with my boyfriend for about five years. I always was aware that he watched porn, but I think it has reached a new unhealthy level. Our sex life has always been fun and interesting, although we did break up once and at the time he said he stopped wanting to have...