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So it's been a little over 2 weeks since I quit porn, after the initial bout of anger my wife and I are back to good terms, actually better than we have been in a while. We had a talk about my progress in the car while we were out shopping and one thing led to another and we both ended up with...

Hello Fapstronauts, I am 35 yo, I have a wife and two beautiful children, yet I still struggle with M. I've discovered M "by accident" as a 6yo and a strong addiction was developped. Since then I've never been abstaint from M for a longer time. I've been for a long time on a therapy that helped...

The Huge Battle in response to "" i have few questions as means of exploring and building a better alternatives in the lifestyles, so here on the forum those who are around long enough are quite aware of personal development on the individualistic level, then lets say - what advice would you...

I’m 33 years old, I’m married to a wonderful woman of 30 years old. I have struggled with porn my whole life and have bizarre kinks because of it that CANNOT be roleplayed In real life. The details of that do not matter. What matters is that I cannot stop. I have blockers on everything, and...

I have been watching porn since I was a kid. I am now realizing many of my problems throughout my life with regards to lack of confidence, low self esteem, trouble being in social situations... all have been worsened by my porn addiction. I would watch porn for hours and hours and hours at a...

Hello, I want to share with you a little bit of myself. I have been watching porn for a very long time. For as long as I can remember. I am 32 years old and I am married for 10 years. All this time I watched porn and masturbated to porn. For the last year I watched porn about 1 - 2 times a...

I originally started NoFap to break a porn addiction when I started dating seriously in college and started my first sexual relationship. It worked and now we are married. I’ve been on a path of self development and stoicism. Losing weight exercise philosophy etc… and I’ve realized my mentality...

Hey Guys, I am married guy who has just started nofap to get my strength back. I am trying to repair the damage that I have done to my physical and mental health by not masturbating. Just had a question that what if I have a sex with my partner? Will it be considered as relapse? Please help me...

I lost my virginity at my 29 (I kept my virginity despite all the times I went on dates with different girls, my condition was always no sex, everything else was open) and I married the girl (she is 3 years older than me) because I really loved her and she was the best thing in the world. She...

Friends, This is my first posting on nofap. I have read all the info pro- and con-masturbation. That is not really why I'm here. I abstained from looking at online porn for two months, and then, tired one night, slipped and looked, just as my wife was coming in the door (I was sleeping in the...

I like girls that workout, with curves, beautiful face. More young than me. That loves sex, very femenine, docile, let's the man take the lead. She has conceived no children. With very few past sex partners maximum 3. Humble girl, with no psychological problems, she is happy and smart, if she is...

I have noticed since my reboot that I still have the tendency to avoid questions from my wife. I tell little white lies here or there about what I am thinking about or what my opinion is on certain topics. This was behavior I had prior to my reboot. I would lie about what I was doing late at...

I thought I would share this with people who might be dealing with the same thing. Porn had always been a thing in my life but it was more casual. If I had to rub one out, I would put porn on to help finish the deed. NoFap talks about things like escalation. Which, in my case, didn't go too...

Hey guys. I am new here and I'm just curious how peoples experiences have been with hard mode while being married or dating? Is it recommended? I have been reading about the benefits of it and it sounds like a good challenge but I'm worried about my wife and the affect it will have on her. Maybe...

Im reebooting for my first time. 30 days now, no PM. Had sex with my wife tho, about 2 weeks ago. Weve been married for 16 years and have kids. Last years have been all about fighting, not much sex. Ive told her about my PM habits. She was kind of relieved (so she was not too blame), and kind...

Your partner, whether s/he exists yet or not, cannot take up the slack provided by your lack of PMO. Imagine trying to have sex with your partner as frequently and for the length of time you consume porn. It's not possible. For some, this is the attraction, but you have to dial-down your sex...

Hello, I am guessing the question on most peoples minds might be, how long after not doing any PMO until it is good to start dating? I am a Christian, so this might have an effect on the way I feel about it. I do know that I want to be completely pure for my future wife. Though, I know the...

***TRIGGER WARNING*** The reason I want to quit is because I want my future daughter/wife to know she is so incredibly beautiful without donning makeup, getting breast implants, waxing her nether regions, painting her nails, etc. She'll never be able to fully appreciate that if her...

Hey everyone, So I'm 20 days in on my first attempt at dropping PMO. To be honest, it hasn't been that hard. A bit of my background... I'm 40, married with 1 child. I've suffered from DE since the very first time I ever had sex. Of course I was using a condom the first time I had sex, so...

Hello, I'm not entirely sure if I'm in the right sub thread here. My apologies if I've gotten it wrong. I've been trolling the web looking for a good place to try and anonymously speak with other men suffering DE. It's not a widely spoken about subject, but I'm hoping I've found a good community...

Some 5 to 6 years ago, my wife told me that when I'm depressed I tend to forget all the great sex we had some days ago. So, in all good intent, I started a sex journal: every time we had a great sexual and loving moment, I wrote briefly the following day what we have done the night before. The...

After admitting my PA to my wife things between us are in a very bad place right now. (Links to my initial post: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/24-yr-old-new-to-nofap.250644/#post-2246184 and journal...

I remember being in bed with my wife and really hating it. Wishing that she could get off me, although I love her. But she wasn't doing the things I saw in Porn, so it felt dumb. Sometimes I wished, she could go out so I can watch Porn undisturbed. Despite having the beautiful woman, that I...

Does fapping with my wife, or having sex influence recovery from porn addiction ? In my case I feel like it's helping, because the urge to use porn is much weaker. When I fap with my wife, I feel completely no need for porn. At least it works for now, I haven't used porn since 2 days only, so we...

Hi I am new here.I would like to introduce myself, to share my problem with you. I am a porn addict since I was 13. Now I am 31. Heavily addicted. I have a beautiful wife, we've been together for 10 years now. But I've never been able to quit porn despite having real sexual life. It ruins my...

Going through a breakup. We were moving out of state, she hopped off the train and broke things off long distance two months later. She stopped contacting me this month. I miss her to the core and I use that as a motivation to not PMO , but at the same time also as an excuse to do so. Anyone...

Hi everyone, This is my first post and I don't exactly know how it all works but I really need some guidance and dont have anywhere else to go. I got married just over two years ago. I knew something was off straight away in terms of intimacy and sex even at our honeymoon. I felt like I...

Hey everybody! I've a serious question which maybe sound a bit funny to some of you. This is my third try of rebooting. The first time I relapsed after 60 days, the second try ended at day 22 or so. Now I don't only wanna give it another try but make something different. This is where my issue...

Hi all, I’m new to this and I’m sorry in advance if this is in the wrong section. I started nofap about 4 days ago and I think this is probably one of my longest streaks. I’m 27 and I’ve been married for 1 year together with my wife for about 6 years. At the beginning of our relationship we...

It has now gone one year since my husband changed personality. From being a very calm, logical and even tempered person, he has turned into a moody, grumpy, withdrawn “teenager”. Me, on the other hand, have inadvertently turned into his nagging mother. During this time, I’ve found out about...

I want to share my experience and have a couple of questions. After 2-3 days on Nofap i noticed a huge increase in confidence and motivation. Fapping and lust addiction has been a big downer for years. I love the freedom and energy I've found. It's an untapped reservoir. I told my wife about...

Husband quit because I asked him to. I know everyone will say that he is lying but you don't know him. He doesn't believe in lying and has quit other addictions cold turkey that could kill other men. He sets his mind to something and that's it. He is doing it out of respect for me but he...

So... My husband has stopped watching porn. He doesn't think anything is wrong with it and has never hidden it from me. He only hid it on the browser history after I asked him to, years ago when every time I stubbled upon it, felt like a knife. Our sex life is empty. He says that he has low sex...

My husband and I have known each other for almost five years and up until recently enjoyed (in my opinion at least) an exceptionally happy marriage. Very early on in our relationship, he confessed to me that he wasn't a very sexual person. Masturbation was something he didn't like, porn...

I am a wife to a very good and loving husband. We've been married for a little more than two years, we have a beautiful daughter and I'm currently pregnant with our second. He's a resident and works so hard with crazy shifts and long hours. It's important for me that when he comes home he feels...

Welcome NoFap fam, I didn't know which section this is supposed to be in so i'll put it in here for now but the mods are wellcome to move it to a more fitting section if they want to. So my question is, since we have so many different people here who are all in different situations in their...

Our sex life is really struggling. We have been communicating greatly about it and have discovered one of the problems. Wife says it is difficult for her to want to engage or please me because, for our whole marriage our sexual life has been tainted. I asked what "tainted" meant to her. She...

Hi folks, I have 15 years of deep porn addiction. I have been porn and masturbation free for 50 days now. I had last week sex with my wife and I feel like I am restarting again. It shifted from porn to my wife. That means that instead of fantasizing about porn or other girls I am fantasizing...

Lots to read! I’ve always been open and understanding but now it’s becoming to much. I met him and found out he needed viagara (I was 24 and he was 34) although it was a young age, I accepted. Now four years on and married viagara doesn’t work anymore. When I met him he said he would watch and...

The truth is harsh but would you rather have it sugar coated or take it as it is? The reason I'm writing this thread is because I've noticed a lot of guys who trying to recover and reboot in a relationship have been a little selfish. Please read the rest of the post before attacking me. :D A...

Guys, it's taken me a lot of time and thought to summon the courage to write this confession. Overview: I am a 33 year old male who has been indulging in pornography and masturbation (to varying degrees) since I was 14 years old. I never really realized how big a problem it was until recently...

Hey, all! As many of you know, it is extremely difficult to talk about the PMO addiction to anyone - especially to those you love. You have been hurt so much by this garbage and you do not want to hurt your beloved SO even further. After all, you re there to protect them and to take care of...

Hallo! So my husband asked me a few difficult questions on porn and now I am posting my answers here. This is not an easy subject to write about. It is an even more difficult subject to discuss with your life partner, especially if it is the first time. I've been on the block for a few years...

Hi, I'm married and my wife still enjoys having sex with me and is still asking for it. I want to know the influence this might have in my addiction. I understand that there is the Chaser effect, I'm talking in terms of the length of the reboot required and if it prolongs the addiction because...

Hi there, I am new here. Thank you for this forum, I hope It's ok to share some of my troubles with you guys. I am happily married with the most nice and wonderful woman which has the biggest patience with me. In my first years of dating I had troubles to get fully erected and especially to stay...

I am the wife of a PA & we are fairly new to this journey. Currently we are having sex; we both thought it was almost necessary for us to heal & connect. However, it was mentioned by our therapist that we abstain from any sexual behaviors for 30 days. Um,, what? I totally get the PA refraining...

At the moment I am absolutely not ready to open my porn addiction to my wife. She sees all the problems between us thinking that I have Asperger. (The reality is that I seem to be at the border to Asperger.) Because my wife is worried about almost everything (does this mean she has an anxiety...

Hello, like many people on here I've tried to quit countless times, only to fail every time. My addiction has become worse now and I'm watching porn every night, if left alone. What has made it worse is that I've discovered cam girls and get a new thrill from interacting with them. I'm not...

Hi, I want to have more relations with my wife(more than 3 or 4 per month) but she claims she feels like an object because she has no desire. I know there are other issues like kids, sleeping, the house and so on but my question here is - IF IT IS OK to masturbate or use porn when she doesn't...

Any success stories? I've been married for 24 yrs now but since the very beginning had issues with my wife. Due to a negative experience she had when she was a girl she mentally blocked all sex related stuff (this a new just a couple of years ago one time that I blew up). No desire, arousal or...

Has anybody watched the video that Glink did on this site and community? It's what got me interested and want to try this out for I have been addicted to porn for years. It has started affecting my sex life with my wife and I want to break this habit before it gets any worse. That was I can...

heres my take if you really really want to be successful, full fledged, alpha male, ready? Don't come! have sex, go slow, take your time, take deep breaths, make her orgasm, don't come thats it--if you can do that one thing--semen retention, you will be a whole new you. I've been reading about...

I read an article recently that almost mirrored my transition to full PIED. I want to show it to the wife to help explain what my journey has been...but i cant find it again. Basically it started out with me spending too much time chatting with guys about my wife sharing fantasies. During that...

I’m 33 and Without knowing it, I rebooted myself about 10 years ago after realizing watching too much porn was causing trouble in the bedroom. I was afraid to tell my wife that it was my porn addiction causing my lack of performance. She started accusing me of cheating or not finding her...

Hi everyone, This thread will be a way for me to commit myself to the program after a few attempts. I want to write everyday and I won't lie to you nor to myself. I'm not telling my wife about it so you guys will be the only ones. I started nofap in August 2017 and no worries people who are...

This is just my opinion . If you'd like to have the benefits of PMO while enjoying your marriage, don't do anything that makes you precum during the day (e.g. sexual thoughts, naked pictures, porn, and many sexual stimulants To have great sex, tell your wife 20 min before the intercourse that...

Hi everyone, so I had set my goals to no PMO for a month however my husband and I ended up having relations last night and MO ended up happening, I'd like to know if this is considered a relapse? I've seen 2 stances in these forums: 1) Yes it is a relapse because regardless of whether or not it...

I can’t believe I’m doing this!! This is my first post, I don’t do these things but I’m trying to follow some advice I got to write how you feel. So here is goes...first how I feel about ‘her’ “Why won’t you leave me alone? Just let me be. Let me be the man I always wanted to be. Why won’t you...

I posted this in the SO section, but would also like some male input. I just think I need to hear it from both sides. Super long background, but if you could be so kind to read and help, I would be so grateful. Where do I start? I met my husband in high school. He and I were just friends. We...

I believe that women can sense that there is something violently wrong with PMO. It is well noted that porn is highly unfavorable among wives, and girlfriends. We have all heard the stories of wives, or girlfriends finding out about the pornographic use of their spouses, or boyfriends...

So this is my very first thread and my story is as similar as the many threads i have already read. A good 15 years wasted watching porn excessively and at some stages with a routine id follow religiously. Ive come to the end of my tether with it, as we all are wanting to better ourselves in one...

I asked my wife what I can do. Does she want a better relationship? She texted me this. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?attachments/8b58eaaf-a937-431e-91e2-9e64c7ce2ef4-jpeg.10353/ So I asked....”Should I bother trying to fix it, or sweep it up and count it as lost” She said “ Depends on...

I had no idea that this was a thing to be honest until i saw the video from Terry Cruise talking about his addiction to pornography. He did not mention this site per se however based on the algorithms that youtube uses, many of the supporting videos mentioned NOFAP reddit. So i clicked on those...

I know that flatline can be a natural part of the rebooting process, but for those of us with a wife or gf it can be a real problem. I've found that increased cardio and natural supplements can work to fix this issue. I've used maca root in my morning smoothies and it helped a lot. This Gordon...

Apologies in advance for the long and possibly explicit thread, I want to change my life from today. I'm currently in Paris, laying down next to my wife, who today caught me masterbating in the hotel bathroom immediately after we had intercourse. I'm 29 years old and I have never cum from oral...

Hey, guys! First of all: you all doing a great job! The fact that you are already here is really HUGE change. I want to ask: did you noticed any positive changes between you and your SO (wife/GF, husband/BF) when you started your journey? What is the most noticable experience in the...

Hi all This is a long thread because I feel it is important to share the background. I am married to the love of my life. She is my everything and my soul mate. We have been married for 4 years and together for a total of 7 years. We have had a good relationship and both genuinely love each...

I am giving up porn (a lifetime habit since puberty) and trying to decide on a healthy approach to masturbation and sexual fantasy going forward. A series of 'incidents' with the wife catching me, or finding evidence of, PMOing have occurred over the last couple of years, and although it has...

I'm here because I am seeking a community and support. Married for 11 years. Husband has been addicted to porn since I met him. Things changed radically for me after children. Porn became active cheating to me. I've done local COSA meetings, but they weren't for me. I'm hurting. This is me...

I am currently away for training with the military, which is adding an O to my PMO since my wife is not with me. She comes to visit in two weeks, and I'm curious to know what I should expect during sex after 27 days without PMO (ridiculously quick, etc.). What experiences have you had? (Yes...

I know my p use has hurt her immensely, every bit as bad as me cheating in her eyes. She said she is dead inside and doesn't love me and never will again. She suffers from anxiety and depression which got way worse after the kids.... but was my p habit the sole cause? I'm torn between thinking...

My name is VampireShark (Robert). I decided to join NoFap due to the fact I hat I am getting to the age where I'm starting to notice some issues staying UP to the task while being intimate with my wife. I read that excessive masturbation can effect the "usefulness" of the penis, causing mild...

Hey guys. I am 30 years old, I have been an addict since I first discovered P on the internet at age 15. I never thought of it as a problem or an addiction. I thought that it was normal to watch P, that that most people did it. But I'm not everyone else,- like an alcoholic cant have just one...

First time poster, long time lurker. Hi y'all. We had the talk last night, and he admitted it all...about how his use of porn directly correlates to his disinterest of intimacy with me. Of course, I had to bring up this conversation and call him out before he even admitted it. I feel utterly...

I'm playing Devil's Advocate here and asking a question that may possibly help people out (or I may get flamed to death !). So here goes : is looking at pictures and videos of your SO wrong ? I know it's not physical contact (which is the ideal) and I know it's still masturbation (which won't...

Hi all, I'm on day 8 of my first reboot, and it can be quite challenging already. I'm fighting my brain at every turn. It's been 15 years or so since I started looking at porn, for prolonged periods at that. I have some questions, and am just looking for general advice from those who are...

Whew. It has been a long time nofap. When I first found you I thought I was on my way. Instead I found about "edging" and in doing so my quest to quit porn became the gateway towards an addiction that has consumed an endless amount of time. Time I could have spent being productive. Time with...