¿Can you heal in the same enviroment you got sicked?

mafrick97 · Mar 25, 2021

First time posting, but I wont share all my story cause its large and it has no point, but Ill share my circumstances so far. I have developed a cuckold fetish and I have read a little bit about it and it comes out that is caused because deep rooted feelings of inadequacy, I was able to mantain my addiction sort of controlled before pandemic but since lockup it has destroyed mee seriously, my largest streak in this months has been 10 days and I usally was able to put down 14 days even 45, 30 with metascript method and usually Im masturbating every day now. The thing is I have discovered is that my childhood is the root of this addiction, the feelings of impotence I felt in my childhood because of my parents (not victimizing myself here just putting you on context) is very probably the main cause I became addicted to masturbation at a very very young age (6-9) much before watching porn. Now im 23 still living with my parents I cant work a full time job because the medicine career is very demanding, plus that career I feel it engrains more feelings of inadequacy cause due to excesss masturbation and porn Im not very good at it although Im only 2 and half years left. My soul wants to go get a job and get out of the fucking house of my parents even if I have to live in my fucking car, but I dont want to waste all my effort and time I have already putted in this career I have only 2.5 years left. I dont know what to do. Is still hope to beat this addiction while still living with my parents?

Metis07 · Mar 26, 2021

You can beat this addiction in any environment, somewhere it is easier, somewhere it is harder. Your parents (or anyone's) can be a cause of your addiction beginning (when you were a child), but now, as a grown up man you need to take responsibility for your actions and it's you who choose between pmo and nofap with all consequences coming.
Try to analyze your emotions towards your parents (by yourself or with a help of specialist if you can), it may take some time to proceed (don't rush, take your time), you may be very angry with your parents, accept any of your feelings. Next stage you will probably accept them as they are (maybe they also had toxic relationship with their parents, so they didn't know how to properly rise children, maybe you will find all the positive stuff they did by rising you also) and you will choose either to forgive them or to cut the contact to minimum (for example).
You need to understand that it is not external circumstances or people that make you feel smth, you choose yourself what to think and how to react.
Overall if you feel that it is really toxic living with your parents, find a part-time job and get your own place. Think about all pros and cons and make a decision (living alone also can be hard for getting rid of pmo), you know better your situation.

stillsmile · Mar 26, 2021

I would agree with Metis. Environments will play a part in recovery, largely because you are still surrounded by the triggers/stimuli that can make recovery a harder process, but it is possible to recovery in any enviroment.
Additionally I would also add that some sort of therapy/counselling/support group could be helpful. Having a place you can be open and honest about who you are and give physical voice to it can be really helpful.

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