☄Just wanted to share this inspiration with others

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by JJackson, Jul 24, 2018.

  1. JJackson

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    I've been in that shitty state for a few days where my mind is just set on a relapse and won't give up till it gets it and as a result im not able to think clearly/the logical part of my mind is turned off.

    I've been trying to fight back and this video was the killing blow that got my mind straight again.


    I'd recommend watching the whole thing but the mention of porn isn't till the end.

    Also here's the previous video which is entirely about the porn addiction.

    Hope this helps someone as much as it did for me!
     
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    What happens is that you are sexually aroused, the prana ( vital chi ) is getting highly agitated. All i can give you is some kind of image, strong sexual arousal is like setting gasoline on fire, the prana is set on fire but won't stop burning until expulsed through sex or until you calm down... It's like unconscious hunger. However i found out that the more you progress the more control you get over sexual urges, it is like if your gasoline is going to ignite itself less easily. You can expose yourself to more and more stimulation without having strong urges, but of course it is not wise to do so.
     
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    Good video, we need inspiration from people who have left it behind. Have to remember that the urge will pass, maybe the hardest thing to get through even for those that have been strong for so long. I believe it's like any addiction, drinking for example - not the same as porn, but there are those who can handle it and those who just have to stop to get better because it's bringing their lives down. May be the same with those that actually can handle looking and using porn, but I don't know, that's why I'm not sure drinking is a good analogy. Because some people who drink can take it or leave it, or have just a few. I can drink one or two nights a week but I'm not craving it all the time, it's not an obsession or fantasy. It doesn't matter if some people can handle porn, I know I haven't been able to, and it's never changed, not once. That's why we find ourselves here. All I know is if I give in to porn or masturbation even, I'm down, angry, irritable, obsessed, chaser is high and once again I feel helpless. I think the helpless part is the trapped cycle of addiction as was mentioned. In any case, I wasn't so convinced I could do this before, but I'm tired of going through this cycle endlessly and really feeling crappy. Thanks for sharing that.
     
  4. JJackson

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    Just gonna throw videos I find helpful into this thread whenever I run into them.



     
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  7. Thank you for sharing it! I love this actor and when he opened about his addictions much more, i will buy a book he wrote about s. addiction and p. i follow his youtube channel. he is so motivational! :) i haven't relapsed but have been struggling with my mind being sort of asleep and numb

    This video always make me smile when he is singing in the car :)
     
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  8. JJackson

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    Wow I haven't seen this video in years, thanks man.
     
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    Woah!! Really Woah!!!

    He really meant it from the bottom of his heart. I can see he was trying to hide his emotion there, so am I.

    Thank you bro for sharing this video. One thing about porn addict is that it is the shame of it. You can be addict to alcohol or smoking or drug, but the shame isn't the same as addict to porn. I also don't dare to open up about it. But watching this video really made me want to cry.
     
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    Yeah man, shame is a killer and its so easy to feel. I was able to get passed that just with the understanding that basically every guy on the planet from age 13+ watches porn and jacks off and the vast majority see it as "normal". Plus I know im trying my best to get clean and thats reasonably all you can expect of yourself. This is an addiction after all, its wired your mind into something else which makes it hard as shit to get through so I see no reason for anyone to feel shame, not when they're trying to fix it.

    Anyway im glad to see the video had such an impact on you! It sure as shit did for me too.
     
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    lmao
     
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    Terry Crews is a legend!!! So motivating to know he's also been through this and hear him talking about it
     
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    ⚠Possibly triggering images in this video! Just listen to it without looking if that might be problematic for you.
     
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    I feel I am in the exact same situation now. Thank you for sharing brother.
     
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    I completely agree with the shame part. It is soul-crushing.
     
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    This community is here for you. Remember that. Don't put yourself down.

    I am at a point in this fight where I feel that even I do relapse, I will start from day one again and never quit. But I know that feeling is temporary and I am only feeling that because of my good streak of 22 days. This takes a lot of willpower and it is affecting every other part of my life but I want this more than anything, ANYTHING right now. Why do you think I am so active on here now. I have reached that point where I say enough is enough. How bad do you want this? Do you want to be a better husband ? better father? better person in general? muster up that willpower man. That is the only way I know which works.

    I don't know how much you have been through with this and am in no place to give advice to others(yet :) ) but I have learnt from my fight that until you reach that point where you say " This is more important to me than anything", it will be very tough to keep going. Especially after you get a good streak going.

    Also get as many accountability partners as you can. I started doing this at the start of this streak and it is the best weapon again porn addiction. The more you connect with the person, the more you feel accountable.

    Write down your thoughts. It will give you more peace than reading anything on here. The clarity is just priceless.

    Also, I would suggest you put up a day counter. You may not like it but it helps the subconscious become more accountable. Especially when you come on here and are motivating others.
     
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    Thank you for all this amazings vids, it truly helps
     
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  19. innermostheart

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    These helpful videos are what i am looking for. Videos that helped others to avoid pmo. Ill watch these. Thanks for sharing :)
     
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    I've learned a lot over the years, about how addiction works, depression, mindfulness, meditation, etc etc... So I think of myself as somewhat experienced in overcoming (some) life's odds.

    But regardless of all that experience, insight and helpful methods, I have also relapsed in the past. This can happen véry suddenly: one day you have not been thinking about porn at all, for weeks, feeling good about it; the next day your mind is suddenly tricked into temptation in a matter of minutes. And afterwards you're thinking: 'What the fuck just happened...?!', because you didn't see it coming.

    The most difficult thing getting rid of porn addiction is to accept a relapse, and then move on. Don't feel bad, don't be ashamed, move on. Easier said than done, I know, because I feel bad as well when I relapse, but I've noticed that it's a lot easier to get back on track if I don't.

    Porn addiction is probably harder in the long run than any substance addiction: a substance can be physically removed, while porn is just out there every day: one click away on the internet, billboards in the street, Hollywood movies, magazines, etc... An alcoholic still has several actions to perform to get a fix: go outside, buy bottle, get back, open bottle, take glass, pour glass, drink glass. We porn addicts only have to look, and it's basically everywhere.

    Today I was reading the news paper and it contained an article about porn with a semi-nude picture. I instantly felt that trigger in my head (I kept my head cool though). That's just how it is and what we have to deal with.

    Overall I'm convinced that over time porn addiction is manageable. As long as there's enough things in life that gives meaning combined with methods such as meditation.

    Btw, I think it's very courageous that you wrote about your relapse. But now forget about it and move on! :)
     

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