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皮皮: About me, Why NoFap, and my Story

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by GROXES, Jun 14, 2019.

  1. GROXES

    GROXES Fapstronaut

    Hello all, :emoji_whale:

    A little about me:
    I'm 19 years old and currently majoring in Business at my university. My friends at school call me 皮皮 ("pí pí"). I am studying Chinese and plan to travel the world when I am older. I devour books in my free time and my favorite video game to play in my downtime is Skyrim. I also adore classical music. I was on the cross-country and tennis team throughout my high school years.
    Interesting fact: I have red hair and blue eyes, with a special talent of getting sunburns.

    Why I am choosing NoFap:
    My dream is to have a family one day with a loving, caring, and faithful wife. A wife that I will be married to for life. With that being said, studies vary about marriages regarding divorce rate and quality. While it's evident that the divorce rate has dropped, I have read a quote somewhere that goes along the lines of "in order to get divorced you have to get married first." And from experience from my childhood, so many of my best friend's parents ended up in a divorce, with my friends having a pain deep within them that they never dare allow to surface.
    Anyhow, I personally believe it's due to our society of objectifying women and men, and idolizing sex. I really believe that pornography has infiltrated our society and it has worked its way into movies, music videos, and even literature. The number one thing I think people misunderstand in having a marriage or relationship is that our quick desire for physical affection doesn't equal love. It's about developing a deep and meaningful friendship before closer intimacy. Physical affection is like the cherry on top of a relationship, with the ice cream being the foundation of friendship and companionship. Even if one had sex with their partner for an hour everyday, what would they do for the remaining twenty-three hours of the day? Romantic novels really amuse me how they end in marriage or being united, but never show the rest afterwards.
    My reason for NoFap is quite self-explanatory by now, but I want to quit porn to stop objectifying women and idolizing sex. I want my aim to be true and faithful in finding a spouse, and developing the deepest of friendships through respectability. (pretty sure I'm using that word wrong, but so be it.)

    My story:
    Like most users on this site, my addiction started very young, almost as long as I can remember. I never experienced any guilt or thought any wrong of it. As I grew up in church, pornography was seldom brought to topic, and if it was, it was bad merely because the Bible says so with no further reasons why it's bad for you. So I brushed it off like water on a goose's back, and continued my addiction. But by age 16, I started to notice that I always felt very tired and groggy afterwards. While also feeling dazed in social interactions. Although I came to this realization, I never stopped or thought twice about it until I started college, where I was having countless social interactions and I had to limit how much I watched. It wasn't until my second semester that I decided to research the affects of porn, and the knowledge made me so ashamed and full of guilt. It was then that I decided my path of self-actualization towards purity. Surprisingly, I was two months completely free (I learned that about 95% of my acne comes from excessive masterbation), but then the second semester ended, and I went home for the Summer... and that's when I fell into the downward spiral of self-destruction. I noticed that the reason it was easier to not watch porn during college was because there were so many things to do to keep myself busy with my friends, meanwhile at home I had a lot more time on my time on my hands. The sin and of porn was stained in my house, and I needed to be equipped with more will-power and discipline to overcome this addiction. If I can conquer porn in my home, I would have conquered it everywhere.
    Since being home this Summer, I managed to have streaks for about a week and a half, but then go through the cyclone of despair again and again. So three days ago, I decided to finally take a firm stand against pornography. Taking all the advice and experience from others to assist me in my conquest.

    Why go to battle without a sword?
     
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  2. Baerle

    Baerle Fapstronaut

    Welcome, it's a great decision :)
    I like the way in which you described relationships and marriage. I think that's a healthy attitude.
    You'll find plenty of advice if you look into the success stories section or just browse the forum in general.
    I wish you the best to succeed in this battle. You are not alone :)
     
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  3. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut
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    Welcome here man!
    you did the right choice : )

    Reboot is for the mind and body so stop PMO and brainwash yourself reading Nofap materials.

    Have a nice day.
     
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  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you

    - You can find the forum usage guide here
    - Here is we’re you will find a glossary of terms often used in the nofap community. Glossary
    - You can also find a guide to the basics of rebooting here
    - If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  5. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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  6. 你好,我也学中文。我知道我说中文说得不好。我十六岁。请帮我练习说中文!你可以的!
     
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