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1 year NoFap, few resets, but now extreme relapse. Help

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by lif3, Jan 17, 2019.

  1. lif3

    lif3 Fapstronaut

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    Started nofap 8 9 months ago.

    First try went 60 days, then reset. Then went 62 days, and again reset. Following 4 5 months I was resetting every 3-4 weeks.

    On new years, I promised I'm not gonna reset again but somehow, the very next day I not only reset but relapsed. Went full 3 days fapping 5 times a day. Then 1-2 times a day. Now, past 5 days, jan 12-16, I'm "overdosing". Fapped +7 times every day last 4 days. My cock is hurting and I'm shooting blanks.

    Having immense trouble getting back on nofap.

    WTF IS GOING ON?
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    Edit: also, 6 days ago, I stopped smoking and stopped drinking coffee.
     
    Last edited: Jan 17, 2019
  2. motion2082

    motion2082 Fapstronaut

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    First of all let's focus on your achievement.
    1) You were able to nofap for 60 days, not once but twice

    1) What triggered you to reset the first and second time?
    2) Were you bored of nofap, did you miss the dopamine rush?
    3) Were you lonely or feeling down?
    4) Did you just want to feel attracted to something?
    5) What is missing in your life atm?
    6) Do you feel unsatisfied with your environment, work, friends, family?

    When we train ourselves to go without something pleasurable, when that comes back into our lives again we have tremendous cravings to feel what we haven't felt for so long. It's highly possible that your brain missed PMO and has now tricked you back into old habits. Try remember how good you felt on your nofap journey. That's the best way to get back on the train.
     
    Last edited: Jan 17, 2019
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  3. Clarke

    Clarke Fapstronaut

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    Nutting inside a girl helps
     
  4. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    man, smoke and drink coffe but please stop jerking off 10 rimes a day!
     
  5. topjobm8two

    topjobm8two Fapstronaut

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    You've had some awesome streaks.

    Look at what lead you to relapse, unpack it. Write it down. It's an opportunity.

    All is not lost. Try go a few days.
     
  6. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    You fapping 7x a day because you lost that slowly built self-respect. Addictive personalities don't have automatic self-respect from childhood, they need to build it from achieving something. When you build momentum you like yourself when you relapse you hate yourself. When you hate yourself it comes to the point that you have no value for yourself so you are fapping 30x a day and you don't care that it is not good for you. So please try to figure out how to build self-respect, self-importance, self-love etc. Then even if you fail on porn and fap you won't get sickly into it like 10x a day because you will forgive yourself and you will be kind to yourself. Let's call it kind self-parenting.
     
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