Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Never_Return_There, May 1, 2016.

  1. Never_Return_There

    Never_Return_There Fapstronaut

    Hello again. I reached it ! I have made it to one year finally. I was waiting for this to happen for a long time. So today, may 1st, the last year, i failed. But not this year. I will not allow myself to fail anymore, that's why I am Never_Return_There.

    So here is a list of my previous reports, if anyone is interested:

    90 days: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3f75jl/90_days_report_i_reached_it_again/

    160 days: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3o51kt/well_its_time_for_the_160_days_report_d/

    180 days (not really a full report, but it's a post that's worth reading):https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3qpwlw/180_days6_months_hard_mode/

    210 days report: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3udqn1/210_days_7_months_hard_mode_report/

    Alright, so now i haven't made a report for the last 5 months. And that's a lot of time. But there is not much changed since then. There are plenty of positive and some negative things and benefits that i have received from Nofap throughout the whole year, that are described in the previous reports, and which are present even now, and some of them are:

    Positive :

    • Better ability to concentrate
    • More depth of understanding and attention
    • More socialized and more talkative, ready to get in and start conversations with people.
    • No more social anxiety. I can calmly look people in the eyes and not feel guilty or feel some shame.
    • Better confidence (this is a double edged sword, i will explain later).
    • I have much better acceptance from people around me, i receive more attention and looks from females, and there are some periods, when i have huge magnetism and i attract a lot of attention.
    • I have much more presence and i am not just the guy that no one sees/notices :D (Used to be, when i was in high school sometimes)
    • Bigger mental strength and ability to push away urges/temptations.
    • More devoted, motivated, serious and persistent in other spheres and aspects.
    • Nofap gave me the strength to go and try to abstain from other things, such as giving up fast food, trying to cut back on some processed foods, trying to live healthier, and engaging in other activities.
    • More prone to start trying new and different things in life.
    • After the depression from the rebooting starts to go away (to me it was somewhere at day 130-160), you start to feel more joyous and appreciate life much more.
    • Feeling more calm and collected.

    • Physical benefits:
    My voice has changed, it got deeper, i am a little more hairy, my beard have grown a little more, but i still have a poor beard, i am feeling and looking more masculine (i even think my penis got bigger), my face got a little better, my eyes are not looking empty and void, more energy, i got a little more tenacious, i can walk up to 20-25 kms a day and i don't feel tired, but i feel like i can walk even 10 more. Better performance in sports (i play basketball, not a pro, just for fun).

    Negative things:

    • Wet dreams - sometimes they happen very frequently, and it's not cool at all, they can even make you lose some benefits for a day or two, shake you off and knock you out of balance.

    • I expected my lost hair to regrow, but instead it receded even more, so this expectation is broken. After 12 months i didn't see any improvement. I saw some very little regrowth in the first 60-90 days, but these hairs fell off. So for me, Nofap didn't regrow my receded hair, but i have a lot less hair shedding.

    • When your male friends find out about you not fapping and you are not in a relationship, you start to look kinda strange to them, even some of them start to think you are not normal. So i try to explain as i can, but some of them just don't seem to understand.
    Things you should be cautious and careful about : - Much confidence is not always good. It can trick you and make you slip, it can make become prideful of your success and think: "OOH, how far have i gone, now looking at these girls and talking to them won't do no harm. Or looking at this woman on the street, no big deal." NOW STOP ! DON'T ALLOW THIS THING TO HAPPEN, IT WILL MOST PROBABLY FAIL YOU. This happened to me and at one point, somewhere at 260 days, i was so tricked, that these lustful thoughts started hitting me and i thought that i would fail, but thank God, i didn't. And it's not only once, even recently, this happened again, i know i shouldn't look, but i looked, and guess what, this thing ruins your progress, and it makes it seem that your days of fapping have not been so long ago, and you can return, and you can have some pleasure again, your mind starts playing with you again, no matter your progress. DON'T ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN AT ALL. PROTECT YOURSELF AT ANY COST. Now the hard part is, that once your brain has been stimulated, it's hard for you to forget about it, and you keep seeing this, and you get reminded about it, and you get tempted to lust, and fall. Thank God again, that i didn't fall. I had to do a lot of praying and trying to cleanse my mind, and forgetting. Just be very careful, when you reach a lot of days on Nofap, lest you fall, because your mind has mislead you. Don't listen to these voices that tell you: It's not that big deal. YES IT IS ! Get humbled.

    Now here are some of the things that helped me abstain and resist, and some things that could help you too.

    • Run away when the temptation comes.
    • Praying and reading the Bible.
    • Going outside and walking.
    • Keep saying NO multiple times, until you come to your senses. Sometimes when saying it doesn't help, scream it in your head. If it doesn't help, scream it with your voice if you can.
    • Exercise.
    • Remind yourself who you are, and what are you doing, and ask yourself do you really want to do this. Realize the situation, realize the mistakes you could make and what results would it bring. Tell yourself this : You are in NOfap . YOU DON'T FAP OR RELAPSE, YOU GO AHEAD WITHOUT THESE THINGS !
    • Tell yourself you have come this far, it's not worth it to lose your progress, you can not allow yourself to fail this easy for some stupid pleasure that will make you hate yourself and regret after it's over. Remember the regrets you had after your relapses.
    • Try to imagine yourself and how you look like if you would fap, but from a side point of view. This really shifts your perception.
    • Go drink cold water. Sprinkle your face with cold water.
    • Try to overcome by any means. exclude the relapse thought of your mind, and DON'T SEEK WAYS TO FAP !!!! Don't rationalize and find excuses, show some discipline and will, dont allow a failure to happen !
    • Start doing something immediately, get busy with some job, concentrate on something that will take you away from the lusts and the urges.
    Finally, i want to say thanks to God for helping me cope with this. Then, thanks to the whole Nofap community.I think i wouldn't have made it this far if it wasn't for you.I would have failed if there was no Nofap. I got big inspirations and determination from here. Then i want to send special thanks and props to my big friend from Nofap - 2may2015, who is one day behind me, and in fact, he makes one year today (now it's my 366th day). He helped me move through and not give up, since he always told me to keep the distance of one day between us. So i did it, and will do, and i know he will too ;D

    I want to send some encouraging words towards the people who are struggling with this vice: keep trying hard, even if you fail. If i did it, you can do it too, although it may take time. I have been into PMO for 6 years, struggling for 3 years to quit it, now i got 1 year off and away from it. I don't plan on returning back. These things don't go away easy. That's why you must be hard. And remember, that it always comes to you, if you allow this to happen, it will, if you don't - it won't. Its a matter of decision and will. So be careful. Peace and have a nice time !

    tl;dr - 1 year of Nofap. Feels great. The benefits and tactics to cope are listed above, don't be lazy to read, you may miss something important :D
    Kevin557, til_im_free, Hato and 173 others like this.
  2. SLIPZ19

    SLIPZ19 Fapstronaut

    I just started out on NoFap. I am 9 weeks in. Your story is very encouraging, thanks!
  3. Never_Return_There

    Never_Return_There Fapstronaut

    Alright, 9 weeks should be 2 months right ? That's good. Go on !
  4. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

    @Never_Return_There ,

    You do it like a boss!
    now, I understand that your self-confidence makes you better socially and its awesome. Are you planning to meet a person to become a couple? Just waiting for the right one, or are you planning to stay single?
  5. lfromcr

    lfromcr Fapstronaut

    Proud of you, man! It's quite a feat you've accomplished… especially at your age, which is a very difficult time of life to be doing this, especially in this day and age…

    But I bet this puts you in a position to find a real catch when you're ready. It will increase your odds of finding a high-quality woman.
    Last edited: May 1, 2016
  6. Nom De Plume

    Nom De Plume Fapstronaut

  7. Never_Return_There

    Never_Return_There Fapstronaut

    Thank you ! For now i am not planning to meet a person to get in a relationship with, now i am fine being single. But if i meet the right one, as you said, i would think over it then. I met a women, that i thought could match me well, but after i knew her better, i found out i was wrong, so i didn't do anything. I could have, but i preferred to stay single.

    Yes, thank you !
    Thank you !!!
  8. Vivek2.0

    Vivek2.0 Fapstronaut

    Very useful points! Thanks bro!!!
  9. Ikindaknew

    Ikindaknew Fapstronaut

    You have all it takes to be happy, if you don't NEED a woman, but are open IF you meet the woman of your life!
    There is a lot of guys on here that PMO because they are alone, and are alone because they PMO. There is a lot of people that are depressed because they are alone and PMO binge to relieve their anxiety with another session of porn watching.

    Keep up the good work!
  10. lfromcr

    lfromcr Fapstronaut


    That is HUGE! Waiting a little while to see what a person is like before going further… awesome for both her and you!
  11. Geyser

    Geyser Fapstronaut

    Congratulations Never_Return_There, 1 year is no small accomplishment. You are a King among men. Enjoy your success.

  12. strongman

    strongman Guest

    I went to the store today read a book watched some movie on Netflix watch some nab games played some online pool n read the bible made some thing to eat and now I'm watch some more basketball I can do this I feel great
  13. Leone

    Leone Fapstronaut

    Your story encouraged me a lot! You can send me a message if you want, I need to AP with someone like you strong minded because I have kept messing up for over a year since I started this, so I need some help now. I have started also to read the bible and pray because that is what works for me very well, so I need to keep going.
  14. strongman

    strongman Guest

    I'm glad you feel encouraged in my journey on overcoming this addiction what does AP mean? that's good I pray and read bible too. It keeps my mind strong and gives me strength to stay on the right path. How did your day go today?
    A_Jay and Leone like this.
  15. Death Mammal

    Death Mammal Fapstronaut

    1 year hard mode! You are such an inspiration! I hope to get there eventually. It's all one day at a time, and celebrating the success of lasting one day longer. Thank you!
  16. Never_Return_There

    Never_Return_There Fapstronaut

    We have all been there, one day is a good beginning.
    Yeah ! That's the way, you are already on day 2. Keep going forward !
  17. jamesrobert

    jamesrobert Fapstronaut

    Great job, man! Look forward to reading a bit of your back-story. Keep that strength in place always - from my experience, it still came back to bite me way after I thought I was free. Not this time!
    pat86 and Never_Return_There like this.
  18. Leone

    Leone Fapstronaut

    AP means Accountability Partner. The day was very challenging, I am struggling with many things actually. today I decided to give God all of me and not half of my heart but all of it. I have to change from within first if I want to experience a new me. Ephesians 4:22-23 to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
  19. programer

    programer Fapstronaut

    Woooooooow. This is great achievement. Keep it up Mate.
  20. Hey. That was very inspiring. It's also great to see other Christians here. I find a useful thing to do is praying to God for strength during NoFap because I can't do this on my own. Anyways, congratulations mate! God bless you!:)

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