10 Day habit builder Challenge, April 17-27

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. 11 But let all who take refuge in you rejoice;
    let them ever sing for joy,
    and spread your protection over them,
    that those who love your name may exult in you.
    12 For you bless the righteous, O Lord;
    you cover him with favor as with a shield.

    When life gets tough, where do we find refuge? That will determine whether we rejoice -- or despair. What is the righteousness of v12? It is nothing more than turning to him in our pain in order to find comfort. He will be our protector if we run to him. If we instead run away from him, we expose ourselves willingly to the attacks of the enemy.

    He will not serve us as Lord and Father if we do not want him to do so. But what life is there apart from him?
     
  2. LonelyStrength

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    hey guys, for some reason i'm not getting the notifications when I log in, so i just realized I missed the party lol
     
  3. Kemar935

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    What party? haha XD
     
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    I can't disagree with what you say, but still I'd like to keep it up to God if both is possible or not. Of course by saying that, I realise she eventually will have to take God in her life as well for that to happen. She is not against my faith she knows it's the most important thing in my life and that I place it above our relationship, and she is willing to search for answers herself. I can't force her though and I never will because she has to find Jesus on her own.
     
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  5. My enemies don't necessarily seek my destruction. They would enjoy it, but they more seek putting themselves higher than I or putting me lower than them. Our enemies seek to puff themselves up to feel better about having no hope of satisfaction in life. I think of those videos of Peeps in a microwave that explode. We have the Lord on our side, however, and he allows us to rise beyond our failings and walk a straight path.

    Day 4. Played my guitar a bit. My voice is kind of dead from singing a bunch the past week. I also adjusted the action on my guitar because it was a bit high.
    Did not pmo.
     
  6. Looking4Freedom

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    Yes I agree. I had a propensity to P ever since I was intrigued by Dad's mags I found when I was about 13 and some soft core porn on TV when I was about 17-19. When I came to the Lord as a young adult, masturbation and porn were off my radar altogether. Had no interest and I knew they were wrong. I was in a honeymoon with my God who saved me. But because I was lonely, I let masturbation back in sometime later. I would occasionally MO to women in Sears sales flyers or the like. That was my "soft P". That continued while I dated by gf. I have been married for over 20 years. At he beginning of my marriage, PMO virtually stopped. After our third child, our intimacy slowly declined due to stress, my wife going through health issues, I felt less important to my wife and my needs for affection and intimacy were neglected. I became jealous because she was showing more affection to our kids than me. I could have been more understanding, patient, and loving to her but I was more selfish. Our relationship became strained by other stresses in our lives. I was introduced to P sites with hard P since about 2012-13 but it got really worse after 2014. P has had a terrible effect on me, how I view my wife and women in general. I have ED. Though my relationship with my wife is currently better, we still have no intimacy. I am not ready to tell her. PMO a terrible thing to bring into a relationship. I should have never let it back in after I came to the Lord.

    Has PMO affected your relationship with your GF? No matter if one is in a relationship or not, better to get it out of our lives and under control. I have many bad habits and attitudes to overcome. I've slacked in my faith and suppressed the truth of God for a lie. I want to be faithful to God and my wife and when I screw up I screw up bad. He must increase and I must decrease. I see no other way.
     
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  8. Psalm 6 reminds me that David went through some pretty rough stuff that I cannot entirely relate to. I've never had to hide from people who were hunting me down to kill me. Sometimes the Psalms make me feel like I am spying into the most private thoughts of someone else. This makes me a little uncomfortable.
     
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  9. Psalm 6 reminds me of what I feel like when I pmo. The next day I am so depressed. It also reminds me of who I am supposed to be. I am normally a pretty happy and content dude, and pmo takes that away from me.

    Day 5
    Played around with my guitar pedals a bit. Figured out what Hillsong and bethel music use in every single one of their songs. I like the effects, but they are so uncreative with their chord usage. Did not pmo.
     
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    I agree with this. I have never been in such a situation, which makes it hard to this psalm, also psalm 7 I think. But throughout these psalms we do constantly see that God is with the upright of heart and against the wicked. It might sound obvious, but it's something I have to be reminded of time and time again, especially on those days when I have a lot of urges
     
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    Thanks for sharing all of this with me, it must have been really difficult seeing yourself slip into PMO... and it's awesome your here with us to fight against it!

    For myself, I unfortunately have been introduced to the world of internet way to early in my life, and that's where all the trouble lies. I still rememver the first time I just accidentally stumbled upon a bad website, I had no intention to search, I didn't even know how to M, but somehow it all just happend. It's the thing that made me scared noticing how Satan can influence people who have no such intentions. I can't blame myself for stumbeling upon it, but I do blame myself for continueing even though I know it destroys me.

    As for if PMO affects our relationship. Well I can't say I notice, but the thing is that I can't really judge it before having controlled it, only once I'm without PMO I can truefully say if our relationship is better or not and if PMO has had an affect on our current relationship. But to be honest I believe that even though I can't notice it definitelly does have an affect, somewhere I just have that feeling. So yeah, like you said, it's very important to get it under control, it's not my main reason for wanting to stop PMO but once having control ocer I think it will definitelly benefit our relationship
     
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  12. Are you sexually active in this relationship?
     
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    nothing that goes beyond kisses, so I guess that's a no?
     
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  14. Good! :)
     
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    lol
     
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    Father Go thank you for this past week, I pray that you keep helping us to stay strong and to keep ourselves under control, give us the strength to be proactive and to be busy to reduce our urges and temptation , allow us to invest time in you and so we can truly live holy and be satisfied, thank you for everything and in Jesus name i pray amen

    hope you guys are well, I've had a weird week i kept pondering about sex and P , I feel like im getting consumed in that world it has hard to keep my mind focused on something else. please keep me in prayers guys
     
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  17. Day 0. Gave in early in the morning. Bible study cancelled. Dad ran out for groceries. Brother got ready for work. I had sex dreams too. I was pitiful and gave in.

    Played my guitar late at night. Learned about scales today in one of the most boring videos I have ever watched.
     
  18. Kemar935

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    I'll definitelly will, thanks for praying lonelystrength!
     
  19. Kemar935

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    I'm sorry to hear that, is it that once you woke up you gave in to the temptations of the dreams you had?
     
  20. Kemar935

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    Hey guys I Psalm 8 is amazing, I really like it a lot, especially verse 3-5 “When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, The moon and the stars, which You have ordained, 4 What is man that you are mindful of him, And the son of man that You visit him? 5, For you have made him a little lower than the angels, And you have crowned him with glory and honor”
     
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