10 Months NoFap/No PMO, but I still have wet dreams every 2-3 days; what am I doing wrong?

Firstly, I know I'm improving. I have my dream job in security consulting and I'm doing well (still on probation and one of my bosses dislikes me but I think they recognise I'm good at my job).

My first streak was 3 years ago, I only had 3 wet dreams in 3 months back then. Those were the best three months of my life.

For the past 10 months of my 4th streak, my longest streak, I have meditated, taken cold showers, done a billion things to stop wet dreams (and stopped most of them because they weren't working). But I still get wet dreams every 2-3 days.

So I thought I'd just check in here to see if there is anything I'm doing wrong. I know many people have said they stop after 1 year of NoFap, but I recently asked a similar question and one person said frequent wet dreams may continue.

I don't have a problem with wet dreams every 30 days, but every 2-3 days? It's killing me. I'm at a better place materially, I have my dream job, but no friends, almost 26 and still a virgin (yeah I know its not a big deal, please don't post about that, I don't care) and still suicidal occassionally.

Honestly, sometimes I wonder why I even try. Most people won't even look at this thread or they'll just give me some advice I've already tried or tell me to stop freaking out about wet dreams. I really, really do wonder why I even bother trying.

 

Yoga has nothing to do with religion. I have tried most of the things you mentioned except the Will thing and icing my balls. I've been told "do you have the will" look man my will is to retain to get the benefits of retention so I can fix my life. Also I'd like to sleep with a whole bunch of women. I wanted this during my first streak and I didn't have wet dreams unless 30 days had gone past. So I doubt that they'll suddenly stop if I choose to become celibate (which I don't want).

I think during my first streak I met a girl with whom I had a strong connection with and I felt like I didn't want to sleep with anyone else except for her. But that was 3 years ago and she's not in my life anymore. I haven't met anyone like her since, possibly because I keep getting wd's = no charisma = no emotional connection = hence carnal desires over meaningful ones. This is possible. But does it matter? I still wanted to bag like crazy and had porn binges during my first streak, yet the results of my first streak were 50 times better. Now, I meditate, I used to do cold showers (stopped because I hate getting into them and end up spending 30 minutes walking around in the bathroom trying to get into a cold shower, just do hot showers now because whatever, cold showers didn't give me any benefits anyway), and a million other things. Still no results. So I don't know what you mean when you say "DO YOU HAVE THE WILL" like ffs yeah I have the fucking will to retain but I still get wd's so I don't know what to tell you man.

(I'm going to guess that you will tell me "if you want to sleep with women meaninglessly then you don't have the will to retain hence why you get wet dreams", I've heard this one before, whatever).

Haven't tried the icing my balls thing. Does it guarantee it will work? I'm also worried about the health stuff I mean, I don't want to freeze or numb my balls dude.

I know I may have come across as a bit of a dick but I do still thank you for attempting to help me. I've just been scouring the internet for something that will work, only to find that nothing does and getting the same repetitive advice that seems to have worked for 100 other people but not for me so this can get frustrating after putting in 10 months of effort

Yeah I figured, thanks though.

Yeah I read this and it did not work. If anything it made it happen more often so I stopped. Also it was hard on my lower back and time consuming. thanks though.

During my first streak I would go on a porn binge once a month and went on instagram every day. I retained for 30 days before getting a wet dream - this cycle went on for 3 months.

Today, I meditate, have done yoga, do crossfit, eat healthy food, and my reward is wet dreams every 2-3 days.

So I doubt this will work on me, thanks though.

Yeah I already tried literally all of this stuff and it doesn't work for me, but thanks for trying to help though.

TO ALL READERS:
Sorry if I come off as a bit of a dick, I'm just frustrating that after 10 months of huge amounts of effort I don't have much to show for it. I'm just freaking out and getting scared that the wet dreams won't stop after a year of no PMO, and I'm scared of continuing to live life in this meaningless way.

 

If I may ask, what exactly does this do?

Yes, I'd love to experiment with a mind transmission (though I don't know what it actually is). Also, what is trataka?

Thank you for your encouraging words. I just want them to go down in frequency to just once a month or once every 2 months (right now it's 3-4 times per week and that kills my energy and charisma). Did you have a similar experience?

I mean I'm sure I could build a deep connection with another woman if I stopped having such frequent wet dreams but for some reason, something is wrong with my brain or my balls/dick. But yeah I get it - the lack of genuine human connection causing wds. I'd agree with this but I'm not so sure.

This essentially means I'll get wd's until I find genuine human connection again, which I cannot build because my personality, charm and charisma is suppressed due to wds. It's a terrible cycle. I'm not convinced it's true. At some point you have to get over someone and it's been 3 years. I don't feel like I miss her at all anymore.

Okay, can I un-fry my nerves or is that impossible?